He Suohuan, a writer of sexual affective psychology, writes love stories, interesting strangers, and material knowledge.
"There are always six or seven days a week when I don't want to go to work."
The holiday has just passed, which is the emotion of many people.
Have you had a similar experience?
Whenever a small long holiday ends, there will be a stronger idea of "not wanting to work".
People sit in the company, souls lie on the bed.
In the face of work, muddled, busy all day can not find a normal state.
What is the cause of this?
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"Monday Effect"
There is a concept in psychology called the "Monday effect", also known as the "moon effect".
Meaning:
The rest of the holiday affects a person's normal rhythm of life and work order, resulting in reduced willpower, lack of concentration, and changes in fatigue and anxiety in the spirit.
Why this change?
First: not coming out of a relaxed holiday
For example, if you were drunk the night before, you still have a headache and an upset stomach the next morning.
This feeling of "hangover" is the state of people who go to work after the holiday.
In other words:
After a stage of high-intensity work, you begin to rest; However, the holidays did not give you a break, did not restore you to your vitality.
When your spirit has not fully recovered, you enter a new high-intensity job, which will make you feel uncomfortable.
Second: psychological and physical resistance
Psychological resistance:
People's emotions are changeable, and willpower will also change with the fluctuation of emotions.
For example, during the holiday break, you do a lot of relaxing activities, which makes your subconscious feel "pleasure".
Going to work interrupts your happiness and creates a conflict between the subconscious mind and reality.
It's like you're having a beautiful dream, and your family suddenly wakes you up, and it's easy to "get up" at that moment.
Physiological resistance:
There is a saying called "there is more than enough and not enough".
Even if you keep giving yourself psychological cues: "I want to work hard and try to make money".
But the reality is that your physical fatigue has not been completely eliminated, so you still have not adapted to the working state.
This process of transformation and adaptation takes a while.
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People's "burnout"
Everyone will experience different levels of burnout at different stages.
One survey data indicates:
More than 40% of office workers say they often resist going to work;
32% said they occasionally have the idea of not wanting to go to work.
So, you're not alone, and there are many people who, like you, often feel slack at work.
Just as emotions can become "lost," so will our attitude toward work.
This burnout cannot be fully compensated for by a wage increase.
Burnout, what are the manifestations?
First: a change in mindset towards work
In the beginning, you are passionate about your work, even if you are tired.
Over time, you gradually lose interest and enthusiasm for your work, which is a change of mindset.
Second: can't help but delay work
You will subconsciously or deliberately show a burnout, negative attitude towards work.
Too lazy to work, coping with work, a task that can be completed in 1 hour, but you delay it for several hours to complete.
Third: a reduced sense of value and achievement
For example:
At the beginning of your work, you are very motivated and often make very good results.
At this time, you get rewarded and recognized.
But over time, even if you achieve the same results, your sense of accomplishment and worth is lowered.
You begin to doubt yourself, deny yourself, deny the meaning of work.
What does that feel like?
A person particularly likes to play games, until one day he feels disgusted with games.
Over time, this disgust becomes "disgusting."
When I see the game, I feel uncomfortable.
This feeling can also occur when burnout reaches a certain level.
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After the holidays, how to adjust your emotions and put yourself at work?
First: raise your expectations
Speaking in human terms:
Set yourself a small goal: how much money I'm going to make this year, I'm going to get promoted this year, I'm going to outdo myself this year.
In the new year, everyone should set themselves a small goal.
The premise is: set small goals that you can achieve with a hard work.
There is a concept in psychology called the "autosuggestive effect".
If you give yourself positive cues, then your action will become positive;
You always give yourself negative cues, and you get tired and burnout.
Second: give yourself mental stimulation
To use an analogy:
Men generally like to look at cars, study cars, buy cars, and hope to have money for a better car.
Then you can go to the auto show more in your spare time, or go to the parking lot to see your favorite luxury car.
In the process of looking at the car, it is to give you mental stimulation.
Women like bags, cosmetics, and beautiful clothes, so keep looking at these and give themselves visual and mental stimulation.
Only enough stimulation can awaken a person's inner fighting spirit and concentration.
Third: Split the work and reduce fatigue
Like what:
For tasks that you need 2 hours to complete, divide the work into two and a half hours.
For every half hour of work, reward yourself with a few minutes of rest.
This "combination of work and rest" method is not only suitable for learning, but also more suitable for work.
Physical fatigue can easily disappear, but psychological and spiritual fatigue requires you to constantly give yourself positive emotions and mental cues.
Of course, the most important thing is to "keep exercising, rest reasonably, and eat healthily".
Only when we are physically comfortable can we have a better spirit and better emotions to face life and work.
Today's Topic:
After the holidays, do you have any thoughts about not wanting to go to work?
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