Life is a gorgeous robe, full of lice. When I read this sentence many years ago, I didn't have much deep feelings, and it wasn't until people reached middle age that they found that this is actually the most real life of middle-aged people.
In the eyes of outsiders, middle-aged people have successful careers, families and beauty, but who knows that this group of glamorous middle-aged people, there are old and young, workplace pressure, marriage crisis, parental pension, child rebellion... All the stress added up and they were almost out of breath.
Young people can get drunk when they encounter grievances, but for middle-aged people, even getting drunk is a luxury, because they know that if they are really drunk, they will only become a burden for others, because of the burden on their bodies, they have no willful courage at all.
So many people say that in the workplace, the best bully is actually middle-aged people, because they do not have the courage to resign, after all, when people reach middle age, it is basically impossible to restart the stove.
Middle-aged people who wander in the workplace are very tired, so what about middle-aged people who stay at home?
Although equality between men and women has been shouted for many years, the reality is that the proportion of housewives is much larger than that of housewives and men, and those middle-aged full-time wives, because they do not have a regular income, their lives will only be more difficult.
When we are young, we will be very moved to hear the phrase "I raise you", and when we reach middle age, we will understand that in the relationship between the sexes, those who are economically inferior must also be in the inferior position in the relationship, regardless of men and women.
In "The Right Way to Open Life", the heroine Fu Xintong's life seems to be very rich, but for her, every day is not as happy as others imagine.
Screenshot of the TV series "The Right Way to Open Life"
As a middle-aged full-time housewife, Fu Xintong spends all day busy with the life of the family.
Early in the morning, Fu Xintong got up to prepare breakfast for the family, and when everything was ready, she asked her husband and son to get up. Fortunately, Bian Liang is not a machismo, and if she has a husband who "can't take care of herself", her life will only be more tiring.
Although it is not explained in the plot, in such a family inside the male protagonist and the female protagonist, the female protagonist not only gets up the earliest, but also sleeps the latest.
Because Bian Liang is busy with work all day, the heavy responsibility of educating children naturally falls on Fu Xintong, and we can imagine how difficult it is to educate a child like Bian Xiaofang in a rebellious period.
According to Bian Xiaofang's grades, there is a high probability that he will not be able to enter high school, but this child is not in a hurry at all, not only unwilling to accept his parents' arrangements to study abroad, but also only wants to be a cook in his job.
If it's just a child, it's okay, and the old people on both sides are not worried.
Because Bian Liang's father lived alone, they specially found a nanny for him, but Old Master Bian felt that the nanny felt that it was not free, so he threw the nanny out.
Therefore, after her husband went to work, Fu Xintong had to hurry to cook for Old Master Bian.
On the other hand, Fu Xintong's mother lives in a nursing home, although she does not need to be taken care of at all times, but as a child, she still has to visit her mother often.
Although Fu Xintong did not go to work, running around all day like her was far more tiring than Bian Liang going to work to make money.
The terrible thing is that in reality, a full-time housewife like Fu Xintong is obviously tired half to death all day, but because she has not created economic income, it is difficult to get the understanding and understanding of her family.
Screenshot of the TV series "The Right Way to Open Life"
As a middle-aged full-time housewife, Fu Xintong works hard all day for the family's income and expenditure.
Because he does not earn money (although this statement is very annoying, it is the habitual thinking of many people), so at home, Fu Xintong's right to speak is very small-
Bian Liang wanted to change a big house, although Fu Xintong was not happy in her heart, but she couldn't help her husband like it, so she had to agree; Bian Liang wanted to send her child to study abroad, although Fu Xintong was reluctant to have children, but the money was from her husband, and she had to fully cooperate.
The most terrible thing is that the study abroad agent they are looking for is a scammer, and after being cheated of one million, the family's economy is even more stretched.
The family's economy is a little tight, the mortgage pressure is very high, and the nursing home on Fu's mother's side also needs to be burdened, Fu Xintong is very anxious, and went to the nursing home the next day to persuade her to change a double room.
Although Fu Mu didn't say anything, if she really changed, Fu Mu would definitely be unhappy in her heart.
Fortunately, the nursing home called to say that Fu's mother's recuperation plan had been upgraded, and when the deduction balance was insufficient, Fu Xintong was not there, otherwise, Fu Xintong would definitely be more anxious.
In the traditional family model of the male protagonist and the female protagonist, the man only manages to make money to support the family, but how to spend every penny, most of the men do not care, how to make more steamed buns with limited flour, all rely on the female host's brain.
Although Bian Liang said that the matter of money does not let Fu Xintong worry about it, but the oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea at home are inseparable from money, how can Fu Xintong not worry.
After all, the home is a home for two people, the husband and wife have long become a whole, both prosperous and detrimental, and when the family is in financial difficulty, full-time housewives will only be more nervous, because they know better the daily expenses of the family.
Screenshot of the TV series "The Right Way to Open Life"
As a middle-aged full-time housewife, Fu Xintong's feelings also lit up a red light.
From a male point of view, Bian Liang is still emotionally sober, always remembering the fact that he already has a family, and has not entangled with Dongxiao, so far everything, Dongxiao is tormenting him.
But any woman who learns that her husband's first love has become her husband's boss will be very uncomfortable. After all, for most people, the former one who cries, the current one will lose, and no one dares to guarantee that Bian Liang and Dongxiao will spark again in the day and night together.
Even if he was as stupid as me, he could see that when Dongxiao and Fu Xintong met for the first time, Fu Xintong's heart was a little uncomfortable.
Fortunately, in this matter, whether the son, father-in-law or mother, they all stood on Fu Xintong's side.
Although Bian Liang did not betray this relationship, we don't fight or admit it, Bian Liang, who is busy with his career all day, still somewhat neglects Fu Xintong emotionally.
On her husband's birthday, the prepared celebration was canceled, and she waited until late at night, because she knew that his husband was busy, so she did not complain.
(A friend said she least liked hearing people praise her for being sensible, because the word "sensible" means sacrifice, which makes sense, but in most cases, we seem to have no choice but to "understand.") ）
The most important thing is that although they used to be very loving, because of the wear and tear of life, they no longer have the passion of their youth, and their daily life is calm.
Although boiled water is a necessity for life, if life is only boiled water, it is only a matter of time before something goes wrong.
Screenshot of the TV series "The Right Way to Open Life"
Zhang Ailing, however, wrote sharply in "Half Life": "When a middle-aged man reaches a young age, he often feels lonely, because as soon as he opens his eyes, he is surrounded by people who want to rely on him, but there is no one he can rely on." ”
But judging from Fu Xintong's experience, why is this not the case for middle-aged women——
Middle-aged women are at the most embarrassing age, and the management of housework, the worry about the family's economic ability, the panic about the education of children, the physical panic of the elderly, and the anxiety about their appearance are testing middle-aged women all the time.
Most of the middle-aged full-time housewives, because they don't have to go to work, most of them are more casual, even the most basic dress is omitted, with fluffy hair, naked sallow face, after a long time, the husband goes home to eat less and less, communicates with himself less and less, and becomes more and more boring.
If the family's economic conditions are good, they can also fill their emptiness in other ways, such as signing up for floral classes, such as getting a barista license, such as doing yoga, but if the family's economic conditions are not good, what should they do?
If you want to be employed again, you have been away from the workplace for many years, and you have long been unable to keep up with the situation; If you don't go out to earn money, reach out and ask your husband for money, it's not like that after all.
I suddenly remembered a sentence I read on the Internet many years ago, as a woman, it is best not to be a full-time housewife, even if you have to temporarily return to the family for various reasons, you must have the ability to return to the workplace.
Because in this world, only when you are strong is you really strong. Just like Dongxiao in the story, with a successful career bonus, even without love, she can live her own wonderful.
Screenshot of the TV series "The Right Way to Open Life"
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