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Raising children is to prevent old age, and adopting children is to pass on the family. In the past, every family had to have a son, no matter how difficult life is, no son will be looked down upon, will be scolded, under this kind of thinking, people work hard to have children, do not give birth to sons do not stop, even if they are fined, chased and run, endure all the hardships, must have a son, without a son after they are old and have no dependence.
However, I later found out that having a son does not really mean that there is old age to rely on, old age to support, and many sons do not mean that there is filial piety to daughters. Slowly people's thinking is also quietly changing, and in the 90s, there are fewer and fewer people with this kind of thinking, and they no longer have children as vigorously as before, especially in the northeast, people pay attention to the education of children, no longer work hard to have sons.
For the post-60s and post-70s, these two generations are the most prominent, and every family has many brothers and sisters, even a dozen, which is not surprising, so have these two generations managed to support their parents? No. Many families take shifts to the elderly, some families even blame each other, and some families in order to how to go to court, brothers and sisters, the elderly as a ball kick around, is not willing to the elderly, the reason is that the elderly did not achieve a bowl of water level, so there are mutual grievances.
The old man originally expected his son to retire, but he did not expect that it was his daughter who gave him the pension.
49-year-old single eldest sister: The old mother is over 80 years old, and she has 3 brothers to take turns to raise, living a wandering life, no one is willing to serve for a long time, and go to court for the mother's pension. This year's New Year, pick up my mother and tell my 3 brothers that I don't need you to raise it in the future, and my mother no longer needs to wander, and I can give the elderly a pension as a daughter.
Sister Wu's statement:
My hometown is rural, I have 3 brothers, in the second year of my marriage, my father died of illness, from this time, my mother lived by herself for more than ten years, and then became older, and lived with my third brother for less than two years, because of the problem of land and self-reserved land and housing base, and there was a dispute with the two brothers, the three brothers went to court in order to fight for land and how to care for their mother, and the final result was to take turns to raise their mother, a family for two months, and this matter also became a laughing stock in ten miles and eight towns.
Speaking of my marriage is very unfortunate, less than five years after marriage, he had an affair outside, and then dragged on for five or six years or abandoned Yo, lived with his daughter, and began to pay his daughter living expenses for the first few years, after the children went to college, this person was like evaporated, no one knew where to go, I heard my daughter say that his shop went bankrupt, and he and Mistress have been separated for many years, and now I don't know where to go.
Over the years, I began to work on my own, and then I made a hardware store with my cousin, my cousin-in-law was doing engineering outside, my luck was good, I made some money in recent years, bought a second-hand house of more than fifty square meters, I also paid social security, my daughter graduated from college and also had her own job, although I didn't earn much, but I had no problem supporting myself, and I felt that I finally survived.
I used to want to manage my mother, but my ability is insufficient, but now it's different, my daughter doesn't have to care, I don't need to pay social security for the New Year, the first few days my eldest brother told me that my mother had a dispute over whose house to celebrate the New Year, to be honest, I felt very uncomfortable when I heard it, my mother is over eighty years old, but I can still take care of myself, no matter who I am in, it's just to give a bite to eat, why can't I tolerate it?
Although I have been out for so many years, my land has always been planted by them, but I have never asked anyone, nor have I asked for a dime, and no one has ever mentioned it, these three people do not know why they are so selfish, the three brothers of a milk compatriot, just like the enemy, each said their own reasons, all said that they were not wrong, forget it, I don't want to hear what they say.
In the end, I decided to bring my mother, I don't need any support from them in the future, I don't have to pay social security, my children can be completely independent, I can still afford my mother, my daughter also agrees very much, the house is smaller, but I can live with my mother, I can't send my mother to a nursing home, my mother's real estate let them deal with it themselves, I don't want anything.
These days, my mother feels very good here, but it is a little inconvenient to go downstairs, but it is the second floor, it is okay, and there is no need to float over for heating, and my mother is very satisfied.
This is the result of raising a son, and I find it funny. For my marriage problems, I don't think about it, I have reached this age, I have raised myself, the following is to take good care of the person who gave birth to myself, no regrets for a lifetime, do you say I did the right thing?
@ Flying gluttonous cat cat does a good job, it should also be done, don't have any complaints, you are filial, is your merit, but also a natural thing, don't complain about anyone, as for how others do, how to say, that's someone else's business, there is no son should be old-aged, do things need to be generous, especially between family affection, don't even want family affection for a little benefit, this is a very wrong thing.
Do you think about it, the houses in the countryside are not worth anything at all, and they are not allowed to take out, which responsible fields do not have much money, and the content brothers and sisters turn against each other? Is it worth it? This is some people who have never seen the world will do this, some people can also fight for a little border problem, we are not saying that the countryside is not good, now the countryside has also begun to change a lot, for a little benefit, may not know anyone, sad.
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A person, whether rich or poor, must be filial to his mother, in this world only maternal love is the truest, only maternal love does not need to be reciprocated, only the mother's kindness can not be repaid in a lifetime, a person who cannot be filial to his mother is not worthy of being a man, Bai Baoshan also knows not to kill in front of his mother, no matter how bad he is, he must be worthy of his mother.