This is the 1449th real person story we have told
My name is Da Bing @ Yan Hat Xia Da Bing, and I failed the college entrance examination to enter a medical college. After that, he caught up and went all the way to graduate school. A joke, holding hands with the doctor's boyfriend successfully.
At the age of 32, he went to Dubai to work as a family nurse, served the rich and fought wisely, and found that Dubai was different from what he imagined, and when the career development momentum was just right, he resolutely returned to China.
(In 2021, I worked as a family nurse in Dubai)
In 1989, I was born at the foot of the Thousand Buddha Mountain in Jinan, Shandong. I was the only child of my parents and they loved me very much.
Because my grandmother's house was close to the school, until high school, I stayed with my mother at my grandmother's house for the convenience of school. Dad is busy at work, but whenever he is free, he will come to accompany us.
I feel lucky to be the child of my parents. They not only gave me a lot of love, but also passed on their respective advantages to me.
My dad is self-reliant, calm, reliable, and particularly visionary; The mother is easy-going, has a calm attitude to life, and is especially good at integrating resources to create an ideal environment.
Mom and Dad have different temperaments, but their attitude towards me is the same: they will unconditionally support me whenever I have any ideas. Playing at a young age gave me enough confidence to be brave and do what I wanted to do.
If I do something wrong, they will make suggestions based on understanding and respect.
(Me as a child)
One of the most impressive times was in the fifth grade of elementary school, when I smashed the math test, and when I got home, I deliberately spread the test paper on the table to see my father's reaction. But he didn't say anything to me at the time.
The next night, he came to talk to me and said to me gently: "You don't seem to be in a state recently, and you didn't do well in math, is there something on your mind?" If you're embarrassed to tell me, you can tell your mother. ”
"I just want to remind you that grandpa spoils you and doesn't pay much attention to your studies, but you can't relax yourself. My mother and I have been running for a long time for your studies, which is very hard. I hope you will be considerate of us. "It was the first time he talked to me when I was that big.
Dad didn't say anything bad about me, but I was ashamed. Since then, I have started to study hard.
In high school, I was admitted to a key high school in Jinan. It was a highlight moment, but it was also the beginning of my three-year slump.
(Me and my parents in the park in 2015)
Excellent schools, top students gather. The students around me easily got good grades, and I tried my best, but I couldn't get them. A deep sense of frustration gradually consumed me.
At the same time, the importance of the college entrance examination has been repeatedly emphasized, which makes me very stressed. In addition, the classmates secretly compete, and they like to engage in small groups, saying that people are short and long. During this time, I felt very depressed and my learning state was getting worse and worse.
This state did not improve until the eve of the college entrance examination, and finally I failed the college entrance examination.
Faced with this result, my parents not only did not show a trace of disappointment, did not say a word of blame, but also tried to comfort me: "Maybe this period of time is too tired and did not play well."
At that time, with my grades, I couldn't enter my favorite major. In choosing a major, I lost my way. My parents were both medical workers, so they suggested that I study nursing.
In the nursing industry, if you only have a college degree, your future career development will be limited. So in my third year of junior college, I decided to go to college.
(I was preparing for graduate school in 2012)
Although my learning ability is average, I have ambitions. After one year of hard study, I was successfully admitted to a key university in Shandong Province.
Buerwei said: What people lack is not talent but ambition, not the ability to succeed but the will to work hard. Indeed it is. After graduating from undergraduate school, I continued my career in nursing and was admitted to graduate school.
While I was focusing on improving my competitiveness, my parents began to worry about my life's events.
When I was in my second year, at my father's instruction, my mother came to talk to me: "Do you have a boy you like?" Think about developing relationships. ”
Emotionally, my mom had a big influence on me. She is delicate and sensitive to the emotional changes of others. Especially in adolescence, it can naturally guide me to think and express things.
When I was in sixth grade, I had a crush on a boy in my class, so I wrote him a small note. But I didn't feel it was appropriate, so I tore the note and sandwiched it in the diary.
(Mom is a warrior and defeated the disease)
Once, my mother helped me get a book, and the note fell out inadvertently. I came home in the evening, opened the drawer, saw the small note, and instantly realized that the secret had been discovered.
I was ashamed and didn't know what to say, so I giggled at my mother.
My mother said to me in a relaxed, mocking tone: "I think it should be a very good boy, maybe his appearance is quite high." ”
"Well, many girls in our class like him." My mother's words made me relax a lot, so I also opened my heart and smoothly walked out of this adolescent simple crush under my mother's guidance.
And now that I'm in my second year of graduate school, it's time to find my partner. I was quite efficient, and I didn't let my parents worry for long, and I found an excellent boy - Dacheng.
(Mom has a dream of becoming a singer, which is now coming true)
I am across the street from Dacheng's school. During a networking event, his brother and I held hands and succeeded. I teased his junior brother, "Since you kidnapped my beautiful classmate, to be fair, you have to introduce me to one." ”
Unexpectedly, this buddy was serious, and after a few days, he sent me a message, "After investigation, I think my senior brother is suitable for you." "His master brother was Da Cheng, who was studying for a Ph.D. at the time.
Of course, the good intentions could not be disappointed, so I took the initiative to meet Dacheng.
That day, when Da Cheng appeared in front of me, I subconsciously looked behind him and muttered in my heart: "Maybe it's not this big brother."
He wears glasses, a beard and his hair is messy. Moreover, when others stand in front of me, 90% of my thoughts are still immersed in work.
I think that a science and engineering man who does not eat human fireworks all year round rarely meets girls, so at least he has to take a good look, right? He dared to show such a real self, well, probably an interesting soul.
As it turned out, he was really interesting.
(Dacheng and me)
When I ordered, he asked me what I wanted to eat, and I pushed that I was not good at ordering, and he said, "I'm not good at it, so let's order it blindly." "He didn't lie, and the big plate of chicken he ordered was very difficult to eat.
But the meal made me decide to get to know him better. Because in talking with him, I realized that he is a person who has a plan for the future, and he is practical and reliable.
Naturally, the two of us came together. When the time came, we met with our parents.
In 2015, Dacheng and I went back to see our parents with both apprehension and excitement, but the more nervous we were, the more confused we were, and we found that we had forgotten our ID card when we got on the bus. In the end, it was delayed by 3 hours to arrive in Shandong.
(Catch the big fish!) ）
When I went upstairs, I walked in front, Dacheng walked behind me, and just halfway there, he suddenly pulled the corner of my clothes: "Emma, I seem to be a little nervous." We're both late, your parents won't be angry, right? ”
This is a big deal. Mom and Dad were very happy when they saw us. My dad fell in love with Dacheng at a glance, and the two were very close, and they chatted after a while.
My father's liking for Dacheng was so obvious that my mother had to poke and remind him, "Don't be too satisfied, lest you let him float."
Of course, my father still has a bottom in his heart, knowing that he is helping his daughter, and when he has a good chat with Dacheng, he will also intersperse the background of investigating Dacheng.
That day, we took a group photo together. In the picture, my father is smiling and stealing pleasure, while my mother is wearing the posture of a mother-in-law-to-be.
In 2016, I graduated from graduate school and was admitted to a public hospital, where I worked in clinical and administrative work. The next year, Dacheng and I achieved positive results, which brought a perfect end to our three-year relationship.
(2015 to meet parents)
Love and career are both fruitful, and everything is moving forward in an orderly manner. In the eyes of many, this is already complete.
But I like to toss and think, using the resources available to bring my life closer to the ideal direction.
In my first year in the system, I began to collect information on working abroad.
My family has always supported me as I am going abroad to explore better career paths.
In 2020, I had my goal: to become a general practitioner in Singapore. However, because the procedures were not going smoothly and the epidemic was encountered, I took a back seat and chose the UAE project with faster approval.
The job offered in the UAE is a family nurse, and I can start working after passing the nurse license exam. If you don't have work experience, this exam is quite difficult. Fortunately, I have been in the hospital for a few years.
In the end, I got my wish and got an offer from an established health service in Dubai. At the beginning of 2021, I set off for Dubai. But at that time, everyone except Dacheng thought I was going to Singapore.
(2012 Undergraduate Internship)
In many people's impressions, the Middle East is a rather chaotic place. I was afraid that my family and friends would be worried, so I didn't tell them clearly.
At first, I was also biased against Middle Eastern countries, but after doing some research, I found that Dubai, a Middle Eastern country, has very good social security.
In 2020, Dubai ranked second in the ranking of the safest countries in the world.
In the 1 year I've lived and worked in Dubai, I've never seen a verbal or brawl on the street. This is due in part to the UAE's draconian laws: whoever provokes a fight, whatever the reason, both sides are thrown into jail.
Once foreigners are involved in fights, their visas are revoked, and after a few months, they are sent home.
Dubai is a Middle Eastern country, but it is very different from the Middle Eastern country that many people think. In Dubai, for example, women have a much higher status than men.
Both Dubai locals and expats have great respect for women. Like government agencies, each department must have a certain percentage of female positions. When going out to run errands or attend events, ladies are entitled to courtesy.
(Dubai)
I went to the government department to do errands, and every time I took the elevator, I was the first to enter and the first to exit.
Dubai has a diverse cultural background, with residents of more than 200 countries working and living here. My colleagues come from different countries, but I am particularly concerned because of my nationality.
Because I was the first Chinese nurse to join the company. I was like a giant panda who went abroad, and easily attracted everyone's attention.
They paid special attention to my business ability, words and deeds, and personality qualities. Fortunately, I am very contentious, I did not lose the face of the motherland, not only strong business ability, but also praiseworthy for dealing with people.
They also like to ask me about China.
Before the Western media talked about the Chinese virus everywhere, although they did not believe everything, they were also very curious. During my first three months in Dubai, I spent almost every day educating about China's real social situation and foreign policy, Chinese values and media orientation.
Some sensitive topics, I will try to clarify. Although I didn't speak English very well at first, I often had to supplement it with body language. But whenever someone asks me, I try to explain it to him.
(I'm in front of Atlantis Dubai)
Many colleagues, patients, and friends learned about the real China through me. But during this period, I also did not lack quarreling because of an Indian driver who defended the motherland and the unit.
Most of the drivers in our unit are Indian-Pakistani, they only work and don't talk much, and they are all fine, with a few exceptions.
Once, I was sitting in the passenger seat, and the Indian driver rummaged through the cabinet, but he couldn't find a mask. I couldn't look past it, so I handed him a spare one. He took it and smiled at me and said, "This is a Chinese mask, is there a virus?" ”
I knew he was joking, so I joked with him too: "You have been drinking Ganges water since you were a child, and you are afraid of viruses?" ”
"My mask is quite expensive, listening to you say this, I think I have to make you pay." So, treat me to a large Coke and burger next time. ”
After saying this, the buddy was speechless. Drivers are not well paid, Indians are more frugal, and it is impossible to treat guests to dinner.
But overall, I have a good time with my colleagues and work well together. I had a great time in Dubai, with two exceptions. One of them was a conflict with the client's nanny.
(In 2022, I am at Dubai Mosque)
One of my clients is a local, an old lady who is paralyzed. I am conscientious about my work, she is quite happy with me, but her personal nanny is very opinionated to me.
The au pair considers herself qualified and has the right to manage everyone. Although I do door-to-door service, my job responsibilities and content are all regulated by the company. But she felt that the home nurse also had to be at her disposal.
I couldn't agree with that, so I made my position clear to her. She had an opinion about me and was unkind to me.
Once, in front of me, she choreographed me in front of the old lady, speaking Arabic, clearly bullying me into not understanding.
I have been nurtured by love, understanding and respect since I was a child, and although I am easy-going and friendly, I do not allow others to bully me at will.
So I called her to the bathroom and solemnly expressed my thoughts to her. She didn't say anything at the time, but when I went to take over the next day, she asked me to leave.
She said: "I don't like you, the old lady doesn't like you, everyone here doesn't welcome you, you don't use it anymore." ”
(In 2020, Dacheng and I were in Tianjin)
After I listened, I ignored her and handed over the shift as usual to check the old lady's physical condition. After finishing the work at hand, my colleagues and I called the old lady's family.
I said to my old lady and son, "I haven't been working here for long, and my Arabic is not good, but I can guarantee that I have done my job 100 percent." My babysitter and I have a conflict over the division of roles, and I need to explain the situation to you. ”
Outside the old lady's bedroom, I calmly said to her son in front of the nanny: "The nanny told me that your whole family is not satisfied with my service and wants to fire me, and I need to confirm with you." ”
The nanny probably saw a lot of Filipino nurses who were only promised, thinking that I was also a soft persimmon.
But I didn't expect me to stage such a play, she was a little apprehensive and a little embarrassed, but she was still very tough with the old lady's liking.
(It's a couple with deep feelings~)
When the old lady's son heard this, he glared at the nanny unreasonably, first speaking the nanny in Arabic, and then translating it to me in English.
The meaning is probably: the words and actions of the nanny disappointed them. The babysitter should not speak rudely to me, let alone drive me away. She should apologize to me and promise to get along in the future.
He handled the matter very objectively and fairly, and did not favor the long-term nanny, which made me feel very gratified.
After that, the nanny didn't do anything out of the ordinary anymore. But she was still unconvinced, once she seized the opportunity and wanted to provoke something, and then I would immediately fight back and not give an inch.
After that, she never looked for me again.
The bottom line cannot be challenged, even if you are in someone else's territory, you must fully defend your position. This is the principle that I have always followed when I work and live in a foreign country.
Working and living in Dubai, the experience is good. I have gained a lot and found a career direction that suits me more suitably. Although there were many opportunities for development here, I decided to return to China after two years.
(In 2023, here I am!) ）
Before I went abroad, I made a plan: I spent 2 years in Dubai to find a career direction. After 2 years, he returned to China to give birth to a baby rabbit.
Although I have the courage to live my life, I also attach great importance to my family. When Da Cheng and I first fell in love, he said a sentence, "In any place, no matter how beautiful the scenery and the environment is, if there is no person who makes you nostalgic, you can't really like that place." ”
I teased him at the time, but after a long ride, I think he was right.
Dubai is nice, but there are no people to linger, so it can only be a stop in my life. The motherland and my family are my destination.
Today, I am back in Tianjin, actively preparing for pregnancy, and implementing a new career plan. Everything is going in a better direction.
【Oral description: Big Ice】
【Editor: Jiali】
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