In the past two days, when a sister surfed the Internet, she was shocked by a piece of news
Our European and American music diva Cher actually generously admitted her relationship with music producer Alexander Edwards.
But the point is, the two people are a full 40 years apart in age!
Yes, the woman is older.
As soon as the news came out, netizens said that they really couldn't believe it, "I can only respect the blessings"
Netizens who read the Reuters picture also said that if you can talk, you two can't converge a little, why do you still "touch your buttocks and kill" in public?
After being exposed, Cher himself immediately posted a photo of her boyfriend dating and said that age is not a problem, (the original words are "love does not understand mathematics")
The picture of Xue'er is tightly held by her boyfriend, with a hollow lace dress inside, which also highlights the little sexiness.
△ The queen's aura is indeed convincing, no wonder she is treated like a queen by her little boyfriend.
The black shape of the two has no sense of contradiction, and it is a bit like a couple's outfit.
But it should be said that our teacher Xue'er is indeed different from the 73-year-old in terms of makeup, appearance and figure.
Many netizens also sighed: "Is this the European version of Wang Weiwei?" "The body is so well maintained!"
To reach such a level at the age of 73, Teacher Cher is absolutely diligent beyond imagination.
Because this anti-aging achievement is honestly not just by money, we have to participate in the maintenance of the body and body state.
To put it bluntly, whether you are rich or not, you have to keep practicing!
The sisters who pay attention to the first sister must be very positive for the improvement of their figure.
However, many people's positivity is reflected in thought, but not in action.
Don't blame a sister for piercing, the problem of "laziness" is really too common in the fitness field.
The vast majority of people are full of thoughts that people lie at home, abs naturally grow, yards are done, collection is equal to practice.
So what is the way to overcome the problem of "laziness"?
According to the experience of a sister for so many years, if you look at the essence through the phenomenon, this "laziness" that you can't stick to in sports, it is not necessarily really lazy.
Motivation issues
As we all know, everything is done with a certain motivation. And as long as the motivation is strong enough, people can overcome a lot of difficulties and will not be lazy.
Migrant workers are almost too lazy to go to work, why do they have to go to work? Because now I still need to rely on labor for income to achieve my other life goals or life values.
If one day you suddenly find that your family has 10 houses in the city center collecting rent, then the incentive to work for a living naturally does not exist.
Going to work may become finding a place to spend time, it doesn't matter how much salary you have, you can take leave if you want to, and give up if you want to.
This is the difference in motivation. Only when the motivation is strong enough, people will not give up on something so easily.
When it comes to sticking to sports, Yijie thinks that the original motivation of most sisters is to look better.
There is nothing wrong with this motivation per se, but Ichijie's experience is that such motivations usually do not have urgency.
What is urgency, that is, the kind that is the same as ordinary people working part-time, if you don't do it, you can't do it.
Motivation without urgency can easily be put off because doing it later is not much different from doing it right now.
So in the end, many sisters found that they planned to exercise and lose weight every summer, but they would always delay until next summer.
But is this laziness? It doesn't have to be.
This only shows that for yourself, the motivation to keep exercising and losing weight is not so urgent.
Because there are many sisters who do not need to lose weight in the first place.
It's just that I have seen too many business photos of celebrity Internet celebrities on the Internet, or I am hungry for the body of a friend around me, and I force the strengths of others to benchmark my own weaknesses, and I feel sullen when I am stimulated.
In the end, he decided to strive to become beautiful.
But when you wake up the next day, you will calm down, live as usual, eat and drink.
This is like a chartered woman with 10 houses who sees other women climbing in the workplace to become CEOs, and when everyone is watching, she may also feel a wave in her heart, and feel that being a CEO seems to be very beautiful.
But will a chartered woman really go to work and then try to stick to becoming a CEO? Most likely, no, because there is no need for that.
As long as the motivation is not urgent enough, it is normal that it cannot be persisted, because there is no need to persist.
△ This is the same as what Sister Yi said yesterday, ordinary people don't need to be very trained like Sister Pa.
So what kind of motivation can effectively help us keep moving? According to the experience of the first sister, there are two main types.
The first motivation is also to become beautiful or remain beautiful, but this motivation is much stronger than the motivation of ordinary people to become beautiful.
△ Or the average person is not called motivation, it is called impulse.
There are two situations here, the first is that a person who has been constantly suffering blows in terms of body appearance for years and very much wants to change. The second is that a person has a good appearance, but is very afraid of being out of shape, so he will insist on exercise.
The second motivation is not to become beautiful, but to like the exercise itself, or to rely on the efficacy of sticking to exercise.
For example, some people regard sports as leisure like watching movies and variety shows, and they don't even care whether their body is good or not.
Some people feel that after exercise, the body pain is relieved, the energy becomes better, their daily quality of life is improved, and they are uncomfortable if they do not practice for a day.
△ There are also some people who like fitness after a rapid physical decline or a serious illness, and there are many examples of such pain.
Both motivations can be possessed simultaneously.
For example, a sister herself was like many sisters at the beginning, and she was fit because she was dissatisfied with her appearance for many years.
And now my sister regards exercise more as a way to relieve stress, as long as I don't exercise for more than 3 days, my whole mind begins to be unclear, and there is a feeling of "addiction".
From the perspective of conducive to persistence, the sisters suggested that sisters find a second motivation, because motivations related to health and daily life are often more urgent.
And although you are after health, you will definitely reap the rewards of beauty in the end.
Of course, if you rummage through and don't find any strong motivation, then it's normal that you can't stick to exercise, and you don't need to blame yourself for being lazy.
There is a sister to say, sister, my motivation is so strong that I am now, why do I often give up? Is it really lazy?
Threshold and methodological issues
Since the motivation is sufficient, the problem of not sticking to the movement can only be at the executive level.
Sisters, think back to whether the more complicated and difficult things are, the more you tend to delay doing them.
It's the same for cleanliness, if the garbage bag is full, you may take it away every day when you go downstairs, but if the house needs to be tidied up and cleaned, you may think, wait for the weekend.
The problem is that many sisters put too high a threshold for themselves to keep exercising.
Why do many people have a fitness card when they first start?
Because when you think of going to the gym, you have to prepare a set of sportswear, bring a kettle to get a bag, and maybe bring a set of toiletries, I don't know what to practice today, the equipment doesn't seem to be useful, the gym doesn't seem to be very close and has to walk a while...
After the above series of considerations, you are likely to think that it is really troublesome to go to the gym with so many things today, otherwise wait for enough time to go again.
As a result, there is an urban legend that I only go to the gym 3 times a year, and one of them is a special trip to take a bath.
At the beginning of the exercise, there is no need to be so complicated, every day after coming home from work, first take advantage of your spirit is not completely tired, do a 20-minute follow-up exercise, and then it is time to eat and eat, it is time to relax and relax, and it is not so difficult to stick to it.
As long as you can stick to it, the things that will be improved later will be easy to handle.
There are also sister problems that lie in the methodology, which is not gradual. Although I can insist on exercising, I set my own exercise standards too high at the beginning.
For example, it is clear that there is no serious exercise for 2 years, and it is necessary to come up for an hour of strength and one hour of aerobic every day, or thousands of jump ropes...
On the third day, I basically rely on a breath of fairy qi to support myself, and I feel sick to my stomach when I think of exercise, so how can I stick to it?
Positive feedback, not willpower
If there is no problem with motivation and method, then in the end, the sisters may have another problem, that is, they always see no change day by day, they are depressed, and it is easy to stick to it!
At this time, the sisters felt that the first sister wanted to say that this was your lack of willpower.
No, many sisters will have a misunderstanding, that is, they always think that they rely on willpower to survive day by day, and they will definitely be able to wait for the day of successful transformation.
But Ichijie also said that willpower is limited. Willpower is not enough, so many people get themselves some poisonous chicken soup and pua themselves fiercely.
There is no benefit in doing this, but only to plunge yourself into endless self-blame and anxiety.
What really keeps us going is positive feedback.
What is positive feedback? For example, if you exercised yesterday and found that you lost weight as soon as you got on the scale today, are you naturally confident in today's exercise? Keep exercising and losing all the time, so isn't it difficult to stick to it?
This is the meaning of positive feedback, and it is the ideal state for most people. However, it is very wrong to think of weight numbers as feedback.
A sister said before that the weight number will float, today to lose, tomorrow to rise, the day after tomorrow to lose, the day after tomorrow to rise again...
△ Even scumbags will always be nice to you at the beginning, but the trend of weight is never a smooth straight line.
Such feedback can only bring you a blow to self-confidence. So often sisters say that they feel very depressed after a hard month, healthy diet and exercise, and almost no weight change.
You see, just because of the weight number, how many sisters turn a blind eye to the positive feedback of improved skin condition, smooth bowel movements, reduced body fat, firmer body and even improved body shape, which come with exercise and healthy eating?
Therefore, the first sister has been telling the sisters to focus on improving their athletic ability.
It's great to use athletic ability as a positive feedback, because it can see the effect very quickly, and doing the same training, the next week will feel easier than the previous week, which is easy to experience.
And athletic ability and figure are positively correlated, athletic ability is good, the basic body frame will not be bad. Even if it is not ideal for the time being, it is easier for people with athletic ability to get shaped.
Therefore, find positive feedback and get rid of the trap of willpower, maybe you can really get rid of "laziness".