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"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

author:Ye Momozhi

Almost all couples will face the confusion of marriage, no matter who you are.

Of the three couples in "Goodbye Lover 2", two have divorced, and the remaining couple, Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting, have a precarious relationship and are hovering on the verge of collapse.

After seeing the way Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting got along, many people expressed sympathy for Song Ningfeng, thinking that they could not stand Zhang Wanting's hysteria, and even observers were angry with their marriage.

However, among them, it was Zhang Wanting who proposed for divorce, and on the 6th day of travel, Song Ningfeng's attitude was still not to want to divorce.

Why is everyone aggrieved for Song Ningfeng, but he would rather endure Zhang Wanting's various "tortures" for him, and still refuse to give up this bad marriage?

In fact, knowing Song Ningfeng's character and current situation, you can understand his choice, and it also represents the entanglement of some middle-aged men in marriage.

"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

First, career.

Song Ningfeng is over 40 years old, but his career is tepid. Although he is handsome in appearance and the type of Prince Charming in the hearts of many girls, a man who reaches middle age is more important than his career.

Zhang Wanting is an agent who has served a big name like Mei Ting, and with her temperamental personality, her career is not far behind. From her repeated disparagement of Song Ningfeng, it shows that her income is higher than his.

The economic base determines the superstructure, no matter how loving the couple can not escape this law, the person with a high income in the marriage is often easier to grasp the right to speak, there is no doubt in this regard, Song Ningfeng has admiration for Zhang Wanting.

Marriage is a very real problem, firewood, rice, oil and salt, human fireworks, can not be separated from the support of money.

What's more, Zhang Wanting is 10 years younger than Song Ningfeng, and her future will have infinite possibilities, but Song Ningfeng is difficult to say, unless he can meet the right opportunity.

Now, his wings are not yet full, so leaving Zhang Wanting at present, life may not be very good, because he does not even have the capital to leave.

"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

Second, age.

When men are young, their expectations for marriage are not strong.

But Song Ningfeng is 40 years old, has entered middle age, and has had a failed marriage. You know, men of this age tend to have a higher desire for a stable life than in their younger years.

When Song Ningfeng met Zhang Wanting, he had just experienced the failure of his marriage and his career had fallen into a trough. And then suddenly a young girl stood in front of him and said, "I want to have a baby for you."

This sentence is undoubtedly extremely lethal for Song Ningfeng. A man who has nothing can suddenly have a family, a woman of his own, and a child, and his world suddenly becomes much fuller.

Therefore, emotionally, Song Ningfeng is grateful to Zhang Wanting. She was like a savior in his most difficult times, adding a ray of light and hope to his life.

And he wants to keep these things that belong to the best things in his life. Even if Zhang Wanting is very strong, she dislikes him for being useless, has little money, and has poor acting skills... After he was cold and violent, he still chose to continue walking with her.

Because his marriage had already failed once, he didn't want to suffer such pain again, and he loved his child so much, and he didn't want her to have a shattered childhood.

Middle-aged men, the expectations for love are not high, the most important thing is stability.

"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

Third, character.

Judging from the relationship between Song Ningfeng and Zhang Wanting, Zhang Wanting belongs to the kind of emotions that must be vented, but Song Ningfeng is relatively dull and does not like to express when things happen.

The personalities of the two people are very contrasting, which is also where Song Ningfeng appreciates Zhang Wanting, he longs for himself to be like her, but he can't do it anyway.

Although Zhang Wanting accused him from time to time and did not give him face in front of outsiders, Song Ningfeng could not do without her. Because of the other side of her strong personality, at least when they have a good relationship, she has been fighting for resources for him.

Song Ningfeng once talked about the picture of him seeing his friend Huang Jue and Mai Zi walking hand in hand, so beautiful that he couldn't bear to disturb them, which shows that he still longs for a happy family in his bones and doesn't want to give up easily.

Many people say that Song Ningfeng is too rich in marriage, but marriage is like shoes, whether it is suitable or not, only he knows best in his heart.

"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

Undoubtedly, Zhang Wanting's strength in many times makes the audience unable to bear it, including men and women, who feel that she is too much.

However, there are many things in marriage, and sometimes it is not necessarily as simple as it seems.

Many of Zhang Wanting's practices are not satisfactory, but from her wife's point of view, it is reasonable that she hopes that her man will progress and achieve success in his career.

After all, in the traditional concept, men make more money, women have more face, and Zhang Wanting must be no exception.

It's just that her approach is too hasty, does not take care of Song Ningfeng's dignity, speaks aggressively, and does not know how to reflect on herself, which makes people feel uncomfortable.

However, it was her words that pointed directly at Song Ningfeng's weakness. As Zhang Wanting said, she is his wife, so she will say these things to him, why should outsiders?

At this moment, thinking that Song Ningfeng agreed, Zhang Wanting completely saw through him, and why didn't he know that this was his pain point?

"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

From the moral high ground, they all feel that in marriage, one party never knows how to respect the other party, does not try to understand the partner, and is more tolerant and supportive.

But the truth will be told, but in real life, sometimes emotions are really difficult to control.

You are bored at work, your children are crying, but your husband can't take care of your children, and you are not moving forward at work... At that moment, it will definitely be very collapsed.

Of course, Zhang Wanting has many bad points, but in their family, Zhang Wanting has indeed given a lot, raising children to support the family, she is not only talking, she has made a lot of contributions to the family.

And Song Ningfeng also clearly realized that Zhang Wanting is really hard, and she doesn't give enough to the family, which may be the truest part of their marriage.

"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

Middle-aged men tend to live more soberly and realistically.

He knows what he wants and needs.

Love is no longer a necessity, stability is the prerequisite for doing everything well.

Zhang Wanting's crux is nothing more than that she feels that Song Ningfeng does not love her enough and does not regard her too seriously.

But in fact, at Song Ningfeng's age, he really didn't want to toss emotionally anymore.

In fact, Song Ningfeng's choice is not difficult to understand, whose marriage is not a chicken flying dog jumping? Although everyone yearns for happiness, the road to happiness will not be smooth.

He is already middle-aged and has experienced marriage, so he can understand what it feels like better.

Perhaps, in another ten years, Zhang Wanting will also understand the true meaning of marriage, instead of chasing him to ask the so-called "do you love me".

"Goodbye Lover 2": Song Ningfeng's non-divorce reveals the pain points in the marriage of middle-aged men

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