When you are in love, you can be beautiful, but once you enter the marriage hall, everything changes in an instant. This is what everyone often says, "marriage is the graveyard of love".
In "Goodbye Lover 2", the marriage status of Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng has attracted the attention of netizens after the show was broadcast. In everyone's opinion, the root of their marriage problems lies in Zhang Wanting. Although she has been accusing Song Ningfeng, it is clear that Zhang Wanting's problem is bigger. The other two groups of guests on the show thought the same.
Almost every episode of the program, netizens will be frightened by Zhang Wanting's remarks. Guests sitting in the observation room will even pick up oxygen cylinders to express their suffocating emotions.
When the six guests met for the first time, Zhang Wanting began to accuse Song Ningfeng and told the other guests that she had suffered a lot of grievances in her marriage.
Roughly speaking, Zhang Wanting chose to be with Song Ningfeng when he had just finished his last marriage and the lowest point of his career and family, and gave him a child. But after marriage, Zhang Wanting couldn't feel Song Ningfeng's love for her, and she was very wronged. She also said that she even had thoughts of suicide when she was pregnant.
At first, people who did not know much about Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng would preconceive of Zhang Wanting's statement from a female standpoint after hearing Zhang Wanting's complaint. But with the broadcast of the show, many people found that Zhang Wanting was too strong, and the emotions she expressed may be very one-sided.
As long as Zhang Wanting is in a bad mood, she will find various reasons to vent, and then Song Ningfeng has become a "punching bag". Zhang Wanting also knows that sometimes she is vexatious, but she said that she must send her temper out.
Not only that, if someone spoke for Song Ningfeng at this time, she would be even more angry. This will make Zhang Wanting feel that Song Ningfeng is uniting with others to fight her. In the show, Lu Ge tried to analyze their marriage problems from Song Ningfeng's perspective, which directly made Zhang Wanting angry.
Almost every episode of "Goodbye Lover 2", Zhang Wanting will quarrel with Song Ningfeng. Even if she doesn't quarrel, she speaks amazingly. When the six guests took the car together and went to the next recording location, Zhang Wanting directly told everyone that she had found a "towing oil bottle".
Hearing this, Song Ningfeng himself was embarrassed, but he also had to take into account everyone's overall atmosphere. He could only ask Lu Ge in a funny manner: "Can you stand this?" Lu Ge said, "I can't stand it." ”
Not only this sentence, Zhang Wanting will also say to Song Ningfeng, "I gave you face", which is even more unacceptable. She would even directly attack herself, "Why are you so stupid."
Zhang Wanting, who blacked her mother-in-law and missed communication because of her mother-in-law's death, also reviewed her behavior on the show. But apparently, netizens are more inclined to her PUA Song Ningfeng. The guests sitting in the observation room also thought that Zhang Wanting's problem was bigger.
When Song Ningfeng reasoned with her, Zhang Wanting began to tell about love; But when Song Ningfeng told her about love, Zhang Wanting rose to the moral high ground. In short, Zhang Wanting thinks that everything she said is right, and Song Ningfeng is wrong.
The reason why Zhang Wanting can feel this way is because she thinks she is "married" to Song Ningfeng. When Song Ningfeng had nothing, Zhang Wanting chose to marry him and gave him a child. This is Zhang Wanting's capital in this marriage. Yi Lijing pointed out that Zhang Wanting was using children to "kidnap" Song Ningfeng.
Zhang Wanting said to Yi Lijing: "I decided to give birth to him with Song Ningfeng because I saw his inferiority, I thought that when he saw a girl who could have children with him after he had just divorced and had nothing, he would hold me up to the sky and meet all my requirements in this life." ”
Hearing Zhang Wanting say this, Yi Lijing looked shocked: "With a grateful heart? Zhang Wanting's answer was, "Yes." After that, Yi Lijing affirmed Zhang Wanting: "You played a savior in him. ”
According to Zhang Wanting, she chose to be with Song Ningfeng because she wanted to find someone who was grateful to herself. Of course, in Zhang Wanting's expression, she will use the word "love".
However, after the two got married, Zhang Wanting found that Song Ningfeng was not used to her in everything. Her marital status was not as she expected, and then Zhang Wanting's mentality collapsed. She began to hysterically accuse and belittle Song Ningfeng, and made Song Ningfeng very unbearable in front of everyone. It seems that only in this way will Zhang Wanting feel that she has been standing on a high place.
In this relationship, Zhang Wanting repeatedly said to Song Ningfeng, "I gave you a baby." Emotional experts objected to this, stating that the child was two people, a statement that was incorrect from the beginning. This is actually Zhang Wanting has been instilling a concept in Song Ningfeng.
Through Yi Lijing's in-depth conversation with Zhang Wanting, the emotional expert also put forward a very surprising point. Zhang Wanting looks very strong, but in fact, she is an extremely inferior person. In the face of Yi Lijing's questioning, Zhang Wanting confessed to herself: "I have to do this with him, and I can only believe that he loves me if he doesn't leave me." ”
Zhang Wanting admits that her lack of confidence and insecurity has led her to disbelief in good things. Shen Yifei analyzed that Zhang Wanting was the one who was the most painful.
In her opinion, Zhang Wanting is most familiar with the context of proving that no one loves me. When it was proved that Song Ningfeng did not love her, Zhang Wanting's potential purpose was achieved, and she returned to the familiar context of the past.
Huang Zhizhong also said: "Even when I find that no one loves me, I will breathe a sigh of relief, because this is a situation that I am good at handling." Zhang Wanting repeatedly tested Song Ningfeng, which is not the right way to run a marriage.
Another point can also be felt through Zhang Wanting's expression, that is, she regards Song Ningfeng as her own artist, higher than her husband's identity.
In the show, Zhang Wanting sometimes plucked the wheat and told Song Ningfeng what she should and should not say. In particular, Zhang Wanting told Song Ningfeng not to pretend to be an actor. In her eyes, Song Ningfeng has a low reputation as an actor and has no qualifications to speak.
Perhaps, in addition to the lack of marital security, Song Ningfeng's career did not meet Zhang Wanting's expectations, which is also an important reason for the conflict in their marriage. In the show, Zhang Wanting did not hide her dislike of Song Ningfeng.
Two complete strangers, determining the relationship in a month's time and quickly rising to the level of the child's father and mother, is a challenge for both Zhang Wanting and Song Ningfeng.
When both people in a marriage feel wronged, momentary forbearance does not solve the fundamental problem. In fact, there is no right or wrong person in marriage, only suitable and unsuitable. It's better to think seriously about the future than to hurt each other.