The two ultimate reasons for the breakdown of marriages: hugging each other but not loving each other, loving each other but not knowing how to get along.
Like the marriage between He Jie and He Ziming, it is the latter. The two loved each other when they got married, but there were constant contradictions in their married life. Even the man once said in the show: There is no more difficult husband in the world than him.
Marriage is trivial, since you choose two people to live, you must tolerate each other's living habits, but also accommodate each other, and everyone is always comfortable.
Because they need love, He Jie and He Ziming choose to get married. But married life is not easy, and the two did not survive the most difficult moment in the end, making this marriage come to an end.
He Jie He Ziming got married impulsively
In 2012, He Jie announced his relationship with He Ziming at the release of his solo album "Dare to Love". The two generously announced and confessed affectionately at the press conference, and He Ziming promised that he would give He Jie happiness for a lifetime, and she should shed tears.
Just like the album name, "Dare to Love". The two love romantically, and the confession is also a little sudden, perhaps this is what He Jie wants to express, dare to love boldly. After all, before that, she also had a scandal with Shi Xiaolong in the circle.
At that time, He Jie and Shi Xiaolong had an affair due to drama, and the two were photographed intimately by the media many times, and even some netizens broke the news that the two had lived together, but Shi Xiaolong did not respond to this, and He Jie's response was to officially announce his relationship with He Ziming.
One year after the official announcement, He Jie and He Ziming got married and held a grand wedding in Beijing. One year after marriage, the two had their own son, and then He Jie gave birth to daughters one after another, and finally made up a good word.
But the seemingly happy family of 4 has already been a chicken feathers in life.
At first, the two were together, and they were a little impulsive in themselves. He Jie chose to marry He Ziming at the peak of her career, which is enough to prove that He Ziming is special to her.
He Ziming is not only humorous, but also kind to He Jie, and after she became pregnant, he was considerate in every way and met all her requirements.
But with the birth of two children, the relationship between the two also began to deteriorate.
At that time, after He Jie gave birth to her second child, perhaps she was depressed after giving birth, and her temper became worse and worse. He Ziming, who was smoothed out by life, is not as patient as he was in love, and sometimes coaxed himself to feel very angry, and the two often have conflicts over small things.
4 years of marriage ended
By chance, He Ziming wanted to surprise He Jie, but found that her mobile phone was located in the hotel.
At that time, she just took her child to get together with Xie Nan, but He Ziming's suspicion became more and more serious. Late one night, He Ziming anonymously confided his true thoughts on the emotional radio, indicating his suspicion of his wife's cheating.
Later, when the news of their divorce was made public, the media picked up the late-night radio station at that time, but I didn't expect it to be He Ziming and He Jie's affairs.
He Ziming and He Jie have been in love for 1 year and married for 4 years. When the two divorced, the children were awarded to the woman.
And He Ziming's career has been tepid, he can't take the baby and work at both ends, which makes many netizens think that He Ziming is unfaithful in marriage, but what people didn't expect was that the wrong party turned out to be He Jie.
He Ziming revealed in the interview that he can always hear the word divorce from He Jie's mouth, and her temper is getting bigger and bigger, complaining about life countless times a day, and finally the two ended the marriage.
After the divorce, He Ziming also sent photos of himself being subjected to domestic violence, and said that he did not make a mistake. On the other hand, He Jie burst into tears during the interview, saying that he would not get married again.
For a while, netizens were biased towards He Jie, firmly believing that He Ziming had betrayed the marriage.
He Jie and Diao Lei had 3 children in their second marriage
Until Su woke up inadvertently exposed the chat record with He Jie, the content clearly pointed to He Jie was breastfeeding at the time, but at that time she and He Ziming had not divorced for more than a year.
It is conceivable that the speed of such seamless docking is too fast, and it is difficult not to suspect that the person who cheated in marriage was not He Ziming, but He Jie.
At that time, Diao Lei still had a husband, and his wife also came forward to break the news, and the two had cheated when they were still pregnant. After that, He Jie and Diao Lei were forced by public opinion to announce the news of the second marriage and the birth of three children. And this child is Diao Lei.
To this day, the relationship between He Jie and He Ziming is still regarded by netizens as a talking point after tea and dinner, whether it is taken out for discussion.
After that, the development of the two in the circle is also difficult to say. He Jie shouted many times that she wanted to participate in "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves 3", but she was still ignored by the program team, which shows that "Super Girl" was already the peak of her career at that time.
After the divorce, He Ziming was scolded as a "scumbag", and his reputation plummeted. His acting career in the circle was tepid, and then he fell into a situation where there was no drama to film. Later, in the show, he brought up the old incident again, and the audience did not have a good impression of him.
The two have been divorced for 5 years now. In the end, the breakdown of their marriage was caused by He Jie and He Ziming themselves. He Jie is indeed a person who does not know how to cherish, whether it is with Shi Xiaolong or He Ziming.
However, who can tell clearly about feelings, but when dealing with marriage, you still have to be cautious. "Dare to Love" is not worth showing off, it is worth loving it!