A celebrity said that this is a story of cutting meat and feeding wolves.
Others feel that this is the self-esteem of a poor person,
Subtle changes with donor mentality and ultimately no clarity of boundaries are manifested.
How, exactly? Don't jump to conclusions.
This is a poor college student who is sponsored.
The story of turning against the funders.
If you start from the beginning, you must first find the flashpoint of contradiction.
There are several key tags:
College student, mobile phone bill, 90 yuan, 2005.
The sponsored college student was already studying at a university in Shanghai at this time.
90 yuan for mobile phone bill, together with other miscellaneous expenses,
The sponsor became suspicious of his expenses.
So, for the first time, there was an unpleasant situation between the two sides.
The flashpoint of this contradiction is the college student,
It was voluntarily mentioned in a letter to a journalist in 2006.
"Just know to reach out for money, you are not as good as a pet dog."
In the letter, the college student said that when the relationship between the two sides was stale,
The sponsor had hurt him with the above words.
In the end, they turned against each other.
Why did a college student write to a journalist about this?
All because he accepted funding from the other party a few years ago,
It was initially facilitated by this reporter's reporting.
Naturally, this journalist knows the identity of a college student,
The identity of the funder is also known.
A letter from a college student to a reporter.
He also stated that it was not appropriate to spread the matter to the outside world.
However, after seeing the letter from the college student, the reporter
It is believed that the pain points involved in this matter are very valuable for communication.
So, in November 2006, the reporter
Excerpts from the student's letter, accompanied by comments from third parties,
Then I posted it on my own private blog online.
Although journalists publish articles in a private capacity,
The article used pseudonyms for university students and concealed the identity of funders.
But in the age of the Internet,
The article immediately set off an uproar.
Moreover, netizens also from the reporter's hint statement,
I guessed that the identity of the sponsor was the well-known actor Sun Li.
So, the reporter originally thought,
Put the public on the side of a third party,
The original intention of looking at the matter objectively was immediately distorted.
He did not have the consent of the university student himself,
Unauthorized disclosure of content involving privacy,
Not only has it pushed college students and funders to the forefront,
And also put himself in an unrighteous embarrassing situation.
For this reason, the reporter then deleted the article.
But the wood is ready, and the article has long been circulating on the Internet.
Qiu Chaoju is a media personality for Chongqing Television.
At the beginning, it was through his reporting that
It fosters a close relationship between poor students and funders.
Unexpectedly, a few years later, through Qiu Chaoju,
Let this relationship of funding and being funded come to an end.
Things have to start with Qiu Chaoju's report that year.
In 2001, Qiu Chaoju and others planned and filmed the news documentary "Hope in the Mountains".
A 75-episode documentary about several impoverished counties in Chongqing,
The story of 51 students from poor families who worked hard to study.
Among them, there was Xiang Haiqing, a poor student who was later funded.
(In 2006, Qiu used the pseudonym Zhang Haiqing when he first published his article.) After the matter fermented, the real name of the college student was dug up by the outside world)
The series was subsequently broadcast on Chongqing Satellite TV in March 2002.
The show premiered on March 18.
Five days later, Qiu received a call from Shanghai.
The person who called Qiu Chaoju was a woman.
She said that she was deeply moved after watching the show,
Want to sponsor and help a poor student to complete his education.
Therefore, Qiu Chaoju told the other party the phone call of Xiang Haiqing's head teacher.
It is worth mentioning that when it comes to helping them build a funding relationship between them,
Qiu Chaoju does not seem to have revealed the exact identity of the sponsor to Haiqing.
In a 2006 article,
He also refers to the sponsors as SL and Ms. Deng.
And then the outside world also knew,
The sponsors are Sun Li and her mother.
And during Xiang Haiqing's high school years,
All the funding matters may be handled by Sun Li's mother.
At the end of March 2002,
Sun Li's mother and daughter soon established a helping relationship with Xiang Haiqing.
Xiang Haiqing later wrote to Qiu Chaoju that
In May 2002, he took the hands of the head teacher.
Received the first donation from the sponsor - 500 yuan.
He described the moment as "unforgettable."
On the day after receiving the donation,
Xiang Haiqing wrote a letter of thanks to Sun Li's mother and daughter who were far away in Shanghai.
In the letter, he addressed the other party as Aunt Deng.
This seems to indirectly prove that,
At that time, it was indeed Sun Li's mother who was specifically responsible for the funding.
The mother and daughter promised that they would bear all the tuition and miscellaneous expenses of Xiang Haiqing in the future.
Until graduating from Xiang Haiqing University.
Since then, there has been a monthly remittance,
Shipping from Shanghai to Wuxi County Middle School in Chongqing.
This is the living expenses given to Xiang Haiqing by Sun Li's mother and daughter.
Every semester, they also send tuition fees on time.
Later, in order to facilitate contact and reduce Xiang Haiqing's economic burden,
Sun Li specially mailed a long-distance calling card to Xiang Haiqing.
This was confirmed later by the staff around Sun Li.
A staff member surnamed Wang who is responsible for handling Sun Li's daily affairs said,
I once heard Sun Li communicating with his assistant about remittances.
I also saw Sun Li buy a mobile phone and a camera for Xiang Haiqing.
And before the media did not report it, Sun Li was very low-key about the funding.
On the other side, Sun Li's mother, that is, Aunt Deng as Xiang Haiqingkou called,
He even regarded him as his own child.
She often wrote to Xiang Haiqing or called him.
He was very caring.
But Sun Li's mother is far away in Shanghai after all, and some things are beyond her reach.
Whenever there is something tricky to deal with,
Ms. Deng would call reporter Qiu Chaoju.
Qiu Chaoju did mention this point in a later article.
In Xiang Haiqing's second year of high school, he was going to transfer to a county high school.
His original school was reluctant to let him go.
But Xiang Haiqing had already made up his mind and insisted on changing schools.
So the school played a trick and did not give him the problem of student status card.
This means that even if he changes schools,
It will also be a hassle to take the college entrance examination in the future.
Seeing things get really tricky,
Xiang Haiqing may have asked Sun Li's mother and daughter for help in private.
So, Sun Li's mother found Qiu Chaoju again,
Let him deal with the problem of transferring to Haiqing.
Qiu Chaoju later described in that article,
Several phone calls a day, she was remotely controlled by Ms. Deng to deal with the matter.
After a while, he asked if he had found the director of education;
After a while, he asked if he had found the county magistrate;
After a while, he asked him if he had found the secretary of the county party committee.
Qiu Chaoju said that at that moment he was a supporting role under the other party's baton.
But after some rushing,
The matter of transferring to Haiqing was finally successfully handled.
In Qiu Chaoju's later article, regarding the transfer of schools that year,
There seems to be dissatisfaction between the words.
But in those days, whether it was Sun Li's mother and daughter, or the media people of the TV station,
They are very concerned about Xiang Haiqing's schooling.
Naturally, he also had high hopes for his future college entrance examination.
But after the transfer, Xiang Haiqing's subsequent college entrance examination results were not ideal.
Xiang Haiqing was not admitted to the university and was very depressed for a while.
Sun Li and her mother have been cheering Xiang Haiqing.
They also often contacted Qiu Chaoju,
Let him drive Haiqing no matter what.
We must summon up courage, continue to work hard, and strive to be admitted.
In this way, under great inspiration and inspiration,
After repeating his studies, Xiang Haiqing was finally admitted in 2005.
At that time, he was applying for Shanghai Fisheries University.
Obviously, to apply for a university in Shanghai, there is also the advice of Sun Li's mother and daughter.
Until this time, Xiang Haiqing had not met with the person who funded him.
I don't even know that the sponsor is the star Sun Li.
In the fall of 2005,
With infinite longing, Xiang Haiqing rushed to Shanghai from the southwest mountain city.
On the other side, Sun Li and his mother personally went to the train station to pick him up.
After getting out of the car, he hugged Haiqing and Aunt Deng tightly,
In a later letter to Qiu Chaoju,
Xiang Haiqing said that the moment he saw his benefactor, tears burst out of his eyes.
A thousand words are piled up in the chest,
But at that moment, he couldn't say a word.
After receiving him,
It was Sun Li's mother who arranged Xiang Haiqing's enrollment.
After Aunt Deng was busy,
Helped Xiang Haiqing with all the formalities.
And then told him:
Study with peace of mind and call them when you have no money.
Moreover, the tuition fees have been paid for him.
Monthly living expenses,
He will still be sent to school on a monthly basis.
At the beginning of Xiang Haiqing's enrollment, there was a small detail.
On the day Sun Li's mother accompanied him to report to school,
Xiang Haiqing's tutor designated him as the class leader.
After consulting Aunt Deng,
He officially became the class leader.
At that time, no one expected,
This incident became the beginning of the conflict between Xiang Haiqing and Sun Li's mother and daughter.
Not long after enrolling, due to Xiang Haiqing's excellent performance,
He was recruited into the student union.
Later, he became a cadre in the Department of External Relations.
After learning of this, Aunt Deng suggested that Xiang Haiqing withdraw from the student union.
The reason is that in the first month of enrollment, Xiang Haiqing spent 90 yuan on phone bills.
The reason he gave at the time was that when he first arrived at school, he needed to get to know each other.
And he also serves as a squad leader,
You should take the initiative to get to know your classmates.
Because of this, the telephone bill is used more.
Xiang Haiqing also said at the time that it would not be like this in the future.
On the other hand, for the matter of being a student union officer,
Aunt Deng's opinion is a poor child,
We should focus more on studying.
But Xiang Haiqing doesn't think so.
He tried his best to explain to Aunt Deng,
It means that classmates and teachers see their own abilities,
That's when he served as a cadre of the student union.
He himself feels that going to college is not easy to come by,
Then four years of college should make a difference.
But even so, Sun Li's mother still did not agree.
So Xiang Haiqing listened to the advice of his classmates,
A compromise was taken.
He lied to Aunt Deng that he was no longer a class leader.
But at school, Xiang Haiqing still does all the work.
As a result, differences have not been bridged,
On the contrary, it further deepens the contradiction.
Later, because of the hepatitis B vaccine,
As a result, Xiang Haiqing's living expenses were overspent by 175 yuan in one month.
Later, he told Sun Li's assistant about it.
The assistant told Xiang Haiqing that Aunt Deng was in England at that time,
Everything will be said when she returns from England.
However, according to Xiang Haiqing's later letter to Qiu Chaoju,
Aunt Deng called him at that time and was a little dissatisfied with her words.
She said that Xiang Haiqing only knew to ask for money,
He said he had used a lot of their money.
Aunt Deng also said that he should figure it out by himself,
Instead of asking them for money, have self-respect.
As for whether Aunt Deng said,
"You're not as good as a pet dog" is even more dissatisfied,
Since Sun Li's mother did not respond publicly later,
Therefore, it has not been confirmed after the fermentation of the matter.
However, this call did have a great impact on Xiang Haiqing.
Since then, Xiang Haiqing began to work and study,
And also works as a counselor assistant.
But unfortunately, because Xiang Haiqing's mother was sick,
The salary he earned from work-study in the first two months of his work-study is more than 300 yuan,
Later, they were all mailed home.
That is, since then,
Xiang Haiqing, who was touched by his self-esteem,
I never mentioned money to Sun Li's mother and daughter again.
After November 2005,
Call Aunt Deng to Haiqing every New Year's Festival,
The attitude of the other party is either bad or ignored.
As a result, the funding relationship between them was gradually severed.
If it weren't for Qiu Chaoju posting the incident on the Internet a year later,
The outside world will not know,
Sun Li would have such a relationship with a poor student.
At the end of 2006, after the matter fermented online,
Sun Li also responded publicly.
She said that there is no contradiction between her and Xiang Haiqing,
I also don't want the outside world to interfere with Xiang Haiqing's learning.
In addition, Sun Li also expressed his dissatisfaction with Qiu Chaoju's disclosure of the matter.
As for schools,
When things start to ferment,
The school refused all interviews with Xiang Haiqing.
The outside world only learned at the time,
Xiang Haiqing has changed his major in 2006.
I studied food logistics management.
In addition, it is said that Xiang Haiqing's mother had come to school before.
The school's teachers and students have also raised donations for it.
Although both parties opted for cold treatment.
But public opinion is unwilling to stop here, let alone let Xiang Haiqing go.
In addition to labeling him as a "white-eyed wolf" and "revenge",
Some media directly found Xiang Haiqing's mother.
The mother said that the child has been a person who knows how to save from an early age.
In high school, she gave her children 10 yuan a week for living expenses.
But Xiang Haiqing will still save,
Go home every weekend or buy some sugar,
Either buy some medicine for your mother.
As a mother, I must be speaking to my son.
But at that time, Xiang Haiqing's mother defended her son,
Pale and powerless in front of public opinion.
In addition, some people broke the news that
In October 2005, Xiang Haiqing received a student loan of 6,000 yuan.
However, he did not explain the matter to Sun Li's mother later.
After that, Xiang Haiqing used various reasons,
He asked Sun Li's mother, Aunt Deng, for two thousand yuan.
The whistleblower said that Aunt Deng only learned about it when she went to the school to understand the situation.
Later, Xiang Haiqing showed the account of expenses to Aunt Deng,
He said, "There is no accountant who does not make false accounts."
At this point, the relationship between the aunt and him came to a complete end.
Although public opinion has gradually calmed down,
But most people still want to believe in such an ending:
That is Xiang Haiqing, who does not know how to be grateful,
In the end, there must have been retribution.
After all, this is in line with the public's fantasy of the concept of good and evil.
There are rumors that Xiang Haiqing later suspended his studies.
There are also rumors that
After graduation, it was difficult for him to establish himself in Shanghai and return to his hometown.
But these are just rumors.
After 2006, the name Xiang Haiqing,
Almost isolated.
So, in addition to speculating that he is likely to change his name and surname,
The outside world actually knows nothing about Xiang Haiqing's follow-up.
As for the turmoil between him and Sun Li's mother and daughter,
There is also nothing new under the sun.
All kinds of opposites between graces and encounters are actually staged every day.
Otherwise, there would be no such old saying as Shengmien and Doumiqiu.
How to solve it?
As an individual, it depends on where you are.
Is it a funder? Or the grantee?
From different angles, the mentality is definitely different.
And on the whole,
The test is the rescue management system of modern society.
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