No one expected that the supermodel Ji Niangniang, who had a double harvest in her love career in the past, is now experiencing the torment of divorce.
In the public impression, she is a national treasure goddess of Brazil.
He has won the Forbes Most Profitable Supermodel championship 8 times, and 20 years ago, he earned hundreds of millions of dollars from scratch at a staggering price of $450,000 per step, and achieved financial freedom at the age of 33.
And her few famous loves.
One is a love affair with Xiao Lizi at his peak. The two once talked about marriage like glue, but they chose to break up without hesitation because they found that the other party was careful;
The other is with the legendary star Tom Brady, known as the "American version of Beckham". The two fell in love at first sight and went to marriage, with a family income of hundreds of millions a year, and now they have been in perfect love for 13 years in the public eye.
The reason for the divorce is that the sword is on the edge, not a bloody cheating drama, nor a faint feeling, but an unbearable widowhood parenting?!
The media's coverage at this time was also like a kick in the door, pushing everyone's emotions to a complicated high point.
According to the New York Post, People, CNN, NBC and other media reports, the two have been separated since September.
Gisele Bundchen first ran away from home during a recent argument and moved out of their Florida mansion. First, he revisited Costa Rica, where the two got married, and a few days later, he went to Miami to accompany his children to a water park alone.
She then took her 9-year-old daughter, Vivian, to New York.
The baby was shopping and eating around, but when the other side called alone, she burst into tears.
Two recent pieces of news are even more heartbreaking.
She was seen wearing black sunglasses, holding a laptop, and walking into Miami's well-known local "law firm" with a serious face.
She was also found visiting a psychiatrist's office for treatment more than twice a week.
Once upon a time, the wedding ring that made her the most happy and sweet on her ring finger has long disappeared.
Brady, on the other side, just played his latest game on September 25. In the face of his wife's collapse and departure, he only sent two signals to the outside world:
One is Yun lightly and breezy happily posting photos on his personal social platform, holding the eldest son born with his ex-girlfriend that year, with the text "great win and a perfect night".
One is the extreme disappointment that only three children were seen at the scene of the game to cheer for themselves, but his wife did not appear together.
Seeing this, some people sighed: Whether it is a god or a common person, they can't hide from widowhood parenting.
Some people's first reaction may be difficult to empathize, the couple is so rich, can afford a team to help with the children, is this too pretentious?
But how can parents be absent from parenting? Parents and children can only get along for eighteen years, which is less than 1/4-5 of his life, and if he misses it, he will miss it forever.
Especially when you are a child, when children are not able to live independently, only when they rely deeply on you, you have the capital to educate them.
Gisele Bundchen is a celebrity, a superstar, and even a rich woman in the eyes of ordinary people. But putting aside her various titles and identities, she is also like us ordinary women, she is a wife, a mother, and herself, and status and money are not omnipotent.
Looking back at the changes in her life in the past 20 years, why not look at our own lives?
The predicament she has experienced, many married women may be facing, tormenting, and contradictory, and there is no perfect solution.
Knowing the old relationship between Gisele Bundchen and Xiao Lizi, probably no one praised her for daring to love and hate back then.
Because among Xiao Lizi's many lovers, she is probably one of the few who dumped him fiercely.
20 years ago, 22-year-old Gisele Bundchen entered the celebrity circle with the world's highest-paid model and perfect body, and quickly won the hot public lover Xiao Lizi.
Not long after the two met, it was rumored that they had a private life, then gave 4 million diamond rings, fell in love for 3 years, and attended the Oscars together in 2005.
At that time, Xiao Lizi had not yet developed such a famous "25-year-old curse" notoriety, and Gisele Bundchen once believed that he would soon be successfully married.
As if smelling the explosive point, the media deliberately interviewed the woman and asked her what was the 25th birthday gift she wanted the most?
The result was the answer that all girls in love dream of: I want to get married quickly, I want to have a child for my beloved.
But the little plum with a big heart of the prodigal son not only didn't hear it, but also soon spread out that he had a hot fight with the nightclub girl.
In a fit of anger, Gisele Bundchen proposed to break up. She also quickly sold all kinds of jewelry gifts that her boyfriend had given her since they fell in love, and donated them to charity without leaving a penny.
After that, she met her current husband, Tom Brady.
Brady is a native American, three years older than Bunchen. When Bangchen became famous in 2000, he had just graduated from college and entered the NFL professional track as a small person.
From sitting on the cold bench at the beginning, to being selected as a substitute, and then gradually showing his strength, it really took a lot of effort.
It was probably around 2005 that Bangchen and Xiao Lizi broke up, and he was named Athlete of the Year by Sports Illustrated and one of the 100 celebrities by Forbes magazine in 2006.
Why it's good to be famous, because it can make you pay more attention in a short time. Of course, fate will also change a series of times.
2006 was undoubtedly a crucial new starting point for both Bundchen and Brady.
They met and began dating in December of that year, and they were also in love for three years, and then had a grand wedding in Costa Rica.
Brady, like Xiao Lizi, has never lacked entangled female relationships around him after becoming famous.
For Bangchen, one of the things he tried his best to accept before marriage was probably in the face of her boyfriend and his own love rushing to get married, and the other party's ex suddenly reported the news of pregnancy.
Brady was once in love with actor Bridget Muna, broke up after the relationship broke up, and then seamlessly fought with Bangchen.
However, not long after falling in love, Muna broke the news to People magazine that she was three months pregnant, and the father of the fetus was Brady, and she also gave birth to the child.
In order to be able to marry his lover, Bundchen, who was the first blow, finally accepted Brady to live with his ex-girlfriend's children and married two years later. After that, she herself gave birth to a boy and a girl, which is also very complete.
But the family life after marriage, under the glossy appearance, is actually gradually lurking crisis.
Brady's career has risen smoothly after marriage. After 13 years of marriage, he won a record 7 Super Bowl titles and a record 5 Super Bowl MVPs, becoming an unmatched superstar in the NFL.
These achievements are undoubtedly inseparable from Bangchen's dedication.
In February, Tom Brady also posted on social media to thank his wife: "She did everything for her family, so I was able to focus on the field, and I can't describe in words what you mean to me and our family." ”
Brady has been fighting all over the years. Every time I change teams, I will choose a nearby place to live in order to facilitate training. Bundchen, on the other hand, moved all the way.
Even if you have the money to spend a lot of money to rent a mansion, you will never live in a fixed place that is not your home. That's why she decided to buy a brand new mansion on Indian River Island, Florida, two years ago, to redecorate.
At that time, she was still dreaming that her husband would retire soon after and live a free life with her.
However, all this was completely shattered this year. To be precise, she had completely woken up, and her husband had been writing her empty checks.
On February 1 this year, Brady officially announced his retirement to return to his family as promised, but within 40 days, he repented and announced his comeback.
In his speech, he said: "In the last two months I realised that my position is still on the pitch, not in the stands. That moment will come, but not now. I love my teammates and I love supporting my family. That made it all possible, and I came back for my 23rd season with the Pirates in Tampa Bay. ”
The words between the lines reveal men's confidence, domineering, and selfishness.
How can Bangchen endure it? You know, this retirement and comeback is simply the fuse for the outbreak of contradictions between the two.
Over the years, she has accompanied her husband to sprinkle sugar in front of people, and the beauty of hugging and kissing her husband with her children in various arenas is just a happy moment we see.
In 2015, Bundchen burst into tears on the catwalk and announced the end of his modeling career.
Some people count that as of that year, she has participated in more than 500 advertising campaigns, more than 800 brand fashion shows, and more than 2,000 magazine cover shooting invitations...
If she sacrificed for her family, she should be the bravest person to take that step first. With three children to take care of, her husband, Brady, and her time with the children may be more often only in magazine interviews and illustrations in news reports.
For a long time, she endured the physical changes brought about by having children, as well as the changes in her mental and life status.
She once talked publicly, "I was so vulnerable that I couldn't change it by exercising or eating, and I ended up having surgery, but soon I regretted it, I felt bad, and I spent the whole year with loose clothes..."
She also doesn't mind expressing her selfishness: "We have children, and I hope he can spend more time with them." ”
Everyone who has come over probably knows that when parenting is the most powerless, as a mother, you can only carry it hard.
Looking back at her former famous photo now, it seems that it is no longer a glamorous ostentatious posing, but another helplessness.
The busyness of a model during the catwalk season is no less than the intensity of a player's training on the court, how to steal the space? You can only see the stitches to manage the time.
Over the years, the news about her scattered on the Internet is actually more about the moments when parenting was ignored.
And now with the growth of a 12-year-old son and a 9-year-old daughter, getting along with an adolescent teenager is not something that can be connected with two words and materials.
In addition, she worries all day about her husband, who may be injured at any time on the sports field and has fallen to concussion no less than 20 times. How can you not suffer?
However, all this did not receive Brady's attention and gratitude. In an interview two years ago, he even complained to the media that his wife was not sensible:
"I've been playing all season and she'll take care of the family. When the season is over, I'll say, OK, now I'm going to get busy with other business things and training to stay fit. She will only complain: then when do you take the children to school and when do housework? ”
Going around in circles, I suddenly found that this self-righteous mentality was almost the same as Xiao Lizi.
Years after breaking up with Bangchen, a reporter asked him to retalk about the relationship, and as a result, he sighed and put gold on his face: Giselle is the woman who loves him the most, but makes him regret for life.
Marriage for women, some people say that at the age of 20 it may seem like a very mysterious thing, and after the age of 30, it is immediately replaced by "? ”。
This is also the source of today's era, when more and more women encounter love, they no longer only expect to be satisfied by the person they like to propose with a diamond ring and red roses.
Instead of saying, "I'm responsible for making money to support my family, and you're responsible for being beautiful like a flower", women value real responsibility and collaboration, understanding and being seen. This is not as light as a mountain and sea vow at a wedding.
After all, everyone knows that after marriage, putting energy into family building, especially in the initial stage of parenting, there is frustration and great helplessness and loss of control.
If you really want to swap the identities of men and women to experience pregnancy and parenting for a lifetime, I am afraid that it will collapse in a few days.
And is divorce really free for men? Freedom is always relative.
Occasionally chat with female friends with children around me, and everyone complains that there is a very common phenomenon: when they are not at home, men are lazy, and they would rather take the baby to eat cold takeaway all day than make a hot delicacy.
Countless marriage experts have told us that most of the time marriage looks like hypnotizing each other. There is no distinction between good and bad, right and wrong, and the principles and views that we have diligently pursued in society, work, people, and spirituality are all useless, so we must be tolerant, considerate, and accepted.
But this is not just accommodating, forbearing, and dedicating, because everything is mutual.
Since it is because of love, loving with the heart is the premise and witness of everything.