Little S said that when she and her husband were in love, they kissed every day, and the two people kissed as soon as they met, whether it was on the bus, in the hotel, or even when the two people sat on the roller coaster.
The sweetness of the two of them is usually jealous of Little S's mother-in-law, and Little S, who has such a sweet love, after getting married, still lives like a poor worm who is ignored and snubbed by all kinds.
Marriage is very different from love, love is full of passion and romance and the fire of desire, but marriage is more trivial and bland and even a lot of boredom.
After the sweetness, the quarrels continue, the passion is absent, and disillusionment is often frustrating
After watching "Makino Family", many people sang a song "Cool Cool" to Wang Ziwen's love, and felt that in just one year, Wu Yongen, who was romantic and gentleman before, instantly changed like a person.
He has a lot of dissatisfaction with Wang Ziwen in the show, often loses his temper, and many times it is Wang Ziwen who takes care of him, whether emotionally or in life.
At the dinner table, Wang Ziwen often added dishes to Wu Yongen in front of his partners, but Wu Yongen often took care of himself and ate himself, and he did not respond.
People who are not married think that love should be the relationship between Zhang Han and Joey Yung and Xiao S in "Makino Family", who respect each other and love each other and are romantic.
In fact, isn't Wu Yongen's change the state of most men after marriage?
Hu Ke complained about Sha Yi before: If you bump into the table before marriage, he will ask painfully, "Do you hurt?" After getting married, you sniffed on the table and he scolded: "How are you so stupid! ”
When in love, many people look at each other with rose-colored glasses, can only see each other's advantages, and look forward to seeing each other day and night.
As Wu Yi told Joey Yung: "I like Cai Zhuoyan, I think if I sing and enter the show business circle, I can meet her!" ”
Wu Yong'en of the honey love period felt that Prince Wen was petite, independent, cute and moving, and she was covered with light; Wang Ziwen felt that Wu Yongen was a gentleman, wise, and talented; She saw that Wu Yong'en had light in his eyes.
The two men stood in front of the apartment and kissed sweetly, making Ni Ping say: "You see how well they match!" " sigh.
But love often does not develop in such a sweet direction, after the passion, couples are very unhappy about each other's illusions are easily shattered, from the extreme desire of the honey love period to boredom.
When he can't get you, the man thinks that you are a heavenly immortal, and after getting it, he thinks that you are a princess disease, and Qin Hao feels that Yi Nengjing is a princess disease.
Wu Yong'en showed impatience with Wang Ziwen in the show, and when she packed up her things, she made him feel irritable.
Wu Yongen is a technical talent, whether in school or life, he pursues a minimalist, fast-deciding lifestyle, and Wang Ziwen's grinding and indecisiveness make him feel that she is very pretentious.
Wu Yongen's straight male thinking and more truthfulness made Wang Ziwen also quite a headache.
After the honey love period, many couples and couples will have their own run-in period, and many couples will even quarrel and make trouble to the point of breaking up and divorce.
When there is a quarrel and a cold war, Wang Ziwen will say to Joey Yung: "People still have to love themselves, Wang Ziwen, I love you." ”
In the face of Zhang Han's urging to get married, Wu Yongen will also say: "The matter of marriage still has to go with the flow." ”
"Feeling that there is no love with each other" is a stage that almost all marriages will appear, but it is often a good start, and the real married life will begin after the inseparable run-in period.
When passion is gone, marriage begins
Before marriage, many people think that what is needed in marriage is more passion, romance, and sexual desire.
Sanmao said: If love is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping, taking children, and counting money, marriage cannot be long.
After marriage, people find that marriage is mainly maintained by responsibility, understanding and companionship.
Marriage is made up of various repetitive trivial splices, who pick up the children, who cleans, and who spends their time in the clanging of pots and pans and the noise of noise.
Chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea in the long time to consume the passion and patience between partners.
Wu Yong'en during the honey love period will think that the prince who cooks is good and virtuous, so beautiful, and after living together, he questions the other party:
"Are you cooking for me?" Can you not say that you are cooking for me, obviously the two of us are eating. ”
But after saying such words, he turned his head and regretted it, and he refused to apologize with a hard mouth, and the way to apologize was to pick up the spatula and cook for the other party.
Like my mother who provoked my mother to get angry after the strike, he made a meal and brought it to his mother's bed, and his father, who was not good at words.
Many people's daily lives are really like Zhang Han and Wang Ziwen they repeat in the show:
Living in a fixed house, doing the repetitive work of feeding cattle and shepherding sheep, the occasional pastime is to go to the village to play cards with people, and the rest of the time is spent in the family.
When you go home and ask the other party, the most is: "Have you paid the Internet fee, have your child's homework tutored, what do you eat today?" ”
But it is the mutual love, thoughtfulness and warmth in ordinary days that sublimate the feelings, and it quietly makes the partners inseparable from each other.
When couples and couples are together, they don't feel excited and romantic, but once you leave each other, you will feel the huge lack and blankness in life.
Why should we get married? Why do you need to maintain a marital relationship?
Aristotle referred to man as a "social animal," arguing that man is born with a strong need to belong, the need for strong and intimate relationships with others.
Sit on the bed and chat together
Climb the mountain together in the afternoon
Plant trees and feed the sheep together
In the lives of Wang Ziwen and Wu Yong'en, in fact, there is more sweetness than quarrel, which is actually the meaning of marriage: sweetness, cooperation and unnecessary quarrels.
At the age of 20, we yearn for passion, sexual harmony; At the age of 30, we need to cooperate and win-win, and at the age of 40 and 50, we need partners who appreciate each other and can create careers and assume family responsibilities together; At the age of 60 or 70, we need relatives who walk hand in hand and foam at sunset.
Husband and wife are lifelong friendships, and they are the feelings that are most worth our efforts to manage!