The child is out of control at every turn, and these 3 suggestions of the people who come over are practical
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A few days ago, a friend complained to me that after having a child, she realized how difficult it is to be a parent. Taking children is really challenging your patience minute by minute. Take the mall to play, as long as you see what you like, the child will not hesitate to buy, do not promise will also come to a "lying on the spot" on the spot, so that you lose face, and finally can only grit your teeth to agree.
And such examples are really not a minority in life, and it is no wonder that many parents complain that every child is born with "acting school". My neighbor Xiao Zhou's daughter Meng Meng is a typical "small drama essence", once we went to the mall to shop, when we visited the toy area, Meng Meng looked at a toy, so I was kind enough to say, you like this, auntie gave it to you, which knows Meng Meng but a small mouth, very domineering said, I don't want you to buy, I want my mother to buy, helplessly, Xiao Zhou had to promise to buy this toy for his children.
Who knows out of this toy store not long ago, we met another toy store, at this time, Meng Meng was very excited to say "Mom, the toys of this store are so beautiful, I want to buy this, and that, all have to buy", the words are like a little princess, but Xiao Zhou as a single mother, life is not very rich, so it is very patient to say to Meng Meng "You have chosen a toy, you have to be responsible for it, you can't regret it, the other next time to buy good or not", Who knows that Meng Meng listened to it but immediately did not do it, crying and making trouble on the ground, causing the mall passers-by to look sideways, I was a little unbearable, I said that I would not buy it for the baby, first go home and then say.
But Xiao Zhou disagreed, and told me that she was not reluctant to buy for the child, but the child's stinky problem of "seeing different thoughts" really can't get used to it, otherwise next time she wants more, what do adults take to satisfy her? What impressed me was that Meng Meng cried for half a day, saw that Xiao Zhou did not compromise, actually did not cry, and stood up on his own, took Xiao Zhou's hand and said, Mom, next time buy it for me. Xiao Zhou also hugged Meng Meng very gently at this time, patiently explained to her for half a day, told her that she did not have to have it, but if she had it, she must be responsible, and she had to take care of the toy she chose. In the end, he promised to buy her something else next time. So Meng Meng and Xiao Zhou were reconciled as before.
Seriously, for children, their own emotional control ability is very poor, encounter this situation, it is easy to get out of control, if adults blindly compromise, then for children, it is really harmful. As Xiao Zhou said, this time to toys, adults can be satisfied, the next time children want toy stores, how can adults be satisfied? So in this case, parents must guide and educate correctly, the following 3 tricks of the baby, parents remember to collect, storage is useful.
Allowing a child to cry is better than suppressing and denying a child
Many parents will be very irritable when they see their children crying, and they feel that the children are very ignorant and annoying, so in order to control the children, they will reprimand and deny the children, or ignore the children's "cold violence", and the result is that the children either cry louder, make more noise, or please the adults with grievances, which has a great negative impact on the growth of the child.
Really smart parents, know how to accept the child's emotions, they know that allowing the child to cry is better than suppressing and denying the child, when they see the child's emotions out of control, crying and making a big fuss, they usually crouch down, patiently comfort the child, or even if the "cold treatment", they will also let the child know that the parents have been accompanying you, then, the child feels the calm and companionship of the parents, and the slow emotions will calm down, at this time the parents will communicate, and the child will be easier to listen to! The impact on the child will also be better.
Teach children to express emotions correctly
For children, especially those under the age of 6, their emotional expression and control skills are really poor. Therefore, when they express their emotions, they will become emotionally out of control and cry because they do not know how to express their feelings and thoughts correctly.
As a parent, we must realize that the child's crying is actually just a normal way of expressing emotions, and parents should not only allow them to have such expressions, but also guide and educate their children to teach them to express their emotions correctly. So in this way, the next time he encounters the same thing, the child will not cry and make a fuss, but will be able to express his feelings and thoughts better.
I have seen such a case on the Internet, a little boy because of a conflict with his mother, on a variety of quarrels with his mother, and even started to beat his mother, passers-by have accused, think that this child is so violent, now no matter, may not be able to do anything in the future, but the child's mother has been smiling from beginning to end, has been very patient to the boy said "want to cry, cry, want to make trouble, wait until you vent, the mother will communicate with you again", and finally the boy did calm down, At this time, the mother calmly communicated with the boy again, and the boy nodded very sensibly, and finally helped the mother carry the bag on his body. It can be seen that many times, children are not filial piety, but they can not control their emotions, what parents have to do is to patiently guide children, teach them to express themselves correctly, rather than blindly indulging or suppressing.
Lead by example and create a healthy environment for children to grow up
Teacher Li Meijin, a famous education expert, said that behind the children's problems are the problems of parents, and many times children are prone to emotional loss of control and make a big fuss, most likely because parents are often out of control and noisy. So at this time, as a parent, if you want to change your child, the most important thing is to change yourself first, start from yourself, learn to control and manage your emotions, and create a healthy and harmonious family environment for the growth of your child.
The above are the three things that parents can do after finding that their children have a bad temper and are prone to emotional loss, in addition, parents can also give their children a way to cultivate their good character and good habits by reading picture book stories, so that children can learn to manage and control their emotions and behaviors reasonably. And this way of reading picture book stories is often much more effective than adults directly reasoning with children or nagging children. What I chose for my children is this set of "Picture Books for the Healthy Growth of Children's Personality", which stimulates children's interest in reading through storytelling, which is very helpful to children, especially suitable for small pot friends under 10 years old.
The content of the book is more and less words, the colors are bright, which is very convenient for children to understand and master, which can make children unconsciously develop good character and good habits in reading, and help children become a mental health, sunny and confident. A good kid who is optimistic and generous and knows how to manage and control his emotions and behaviors. Really helpful for kids.
Parents with school-age children, remember to place a single book, see you in the next issue.
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