"Although I have been married four times, I am very responsible instead of 'spending my heart'."
Speaking of Xu Yajun, many people may not be familiar with this name, but once it comes to "Qi Tongwei" in "The Name of the People", I am afraid most people know it.
As an excellent actor, Xu Yajun has performed many excellent works, including "Finding the World Back", "Spring of Li Spring", "Wind and Rain Beauty" and other works.
He has had 4 marriages in his life, several wives are beautiful women, the most famous of which is he and the costume beauty He Qing, but why is Xu Yajun, whose marital status is so complicated, say that he is not "flower heart"? ”
After divorcing He Qing, Xu Yajun met Zhang Shu, who was 12 years younger, and the two married in 2008 and had a child.
After seeing their married life, I understood that the original divorce from He Qing was his responsible performance, and now that the two have been divorced for 19 years, what kind of life do they have?
Xu Yajun was born in 1964 in an ordinary family in Hebei Province, and he showed great interest in acting at a very young age.
At that time, they had a radio at home, and Xu Yajun would learn to sing with the model play on the radio as soon as he had time.
Sometimes he would put on his family clothes and pretend to be the hero of the play, jumping around in bed and fighting the air.
Once, when Xu Yajun was acting, he did not calculate the width of the bed, and a retreat fell from the bed on all fours.
When his family found out, they cried and laughed, and directly ordered him to put away his clothes and fold them, and then threw the props he was acting on to the roof.
However, this did not interrupt Xu Yajun's dream of acting, when he was a child, he followed his parents to beijing to live, where he encountered an opportunity.
Some troupe actors came to the school to recruit young actors, and they took a fancy to Xu Yajun, who had a lively personality at a glance.
However, at that time, Xu Yajun's parents felt that the child was too young to bear the pain of acting, and did not let him act.
Later, CCTV's children's performance team also came to the school to recruit actors, and also favored Xu Yajun. At that time, the teachers advised: "This child is too naughty to be an actor." ”
However, the people who came to select the actors were very optimistic about Xu Yajun and forced him into the team, and the parents did not continue to block their sons when they saw that their sons were indeed interested in this aspect.
In the performance team, Xu Yajun's acting skills were fully utilized and slowly stood out. At the age of 11, the crew of "Youth like Fire" lacked a small actor, so he came to the performance team to choose.
Xu Yajun, who has outstanding ability, was selected in this way, which was his first acting, but Xu Yajun seemed to be born to suit this stage, and his performance was not much worse than that of the actor.
The parents saw their son's talent in this area, so they also began to train him in the direction of an actor, and when he was 13 years old, they sent him to the Chinese opera children's acting class to study.
At that time, there was also Cai Guoqing in the same class as him, and the two lived in the bunk bed position, and slowly became very good friends.
Here they often need to act, and once Xu Yajun needed to rehearse the work, in which the actor was a female classmate.
In order to ensure that several people can rehearse in a unified time, the girls will tie their fingers to the red rope, extend it to the door, and when they wake up, they will pull the red line to wake the girl up.
Later, Cai Guoqing called this matter "a red line and a line of leading".
Xu Yajun studied very hard in school, and after graduation, he was assigned to work in the children's theater and could get a salary of 37 yuan a month, when he was only 16 years old.
When his career was booming, his love also quietly came, and when he was in the troupe, he and Huang Jianping came together.
After marriage, the marriage of the two is very happy, they work hard alone, take care of the family alone, and live a good life.
Every time Xu Yajun returned home from work, his wife Huang Jianping would make a rich dinner waiting for him, which made his heart warm.
But the good times did not last long, not long after the marriage, his wife fell ill with a serious illness, although going to the hospital for treatment was still useless, he could only watch his wife die.
After the death of his wife, Xu Yajun was very painful, and his whole person was also in a slump, and it was Zhang Xi who accompanied him, took care of him, and comforted him.
With the help of Zhang Xi, Xu Yajun gradually came out of his sadness, and at the same time, his career also ushered in a peak.
In 1996, Xu Yajun and Song Dandan co-starred in "Finding the World Back" became popular, and he won the "Golden Eagle Best Actor Award" for this play, and Xu Yajun became famous for a while.
At that time, many female fans fell in love with the handsome-looking Xu Yajun and sent him love letters one after another, and each time there were several large bags.
Sometimes when fans want to send love letters to Xu Yajun but can't find a place, they only need to write "Xu Yajun received" on the recipient of the envelope, and the letter can be successfully delivered to him.
In Xu Yajun's memory, there was one thing that left a deep impression on him, when a fan sent a letter to tell Xu Yajun that as long as he agreed to be with her, she would come with a dowry of 60,000 yuan.
You must know that at that time, Xu Yajun's monthly income was less than 40 yuan, and 60,000 was a big deposit for that era.
Xu Yajun did not respond, no matter how much other people showed likes, he only has Zhang Xi in his heart, and the two naturally enter the palace of marriage.
As Xu Yajun's career development is getting better and better, he is also getting busier and busier, and he rarely has time to care about his wife, and slowly the feelings between the husband and wife have gradually faded.
In 1995, Xu Yajun met he Qing, a costumed beauty, when filming "Wind and Lotus", and the two gradually developed feelings in the process of getting along.
At this time, He Qing also had a romantic relationship with Liu Wei, Xu Yajun quickly filed for divorce with his wife Zhang Xi after determining his intentions, and He Qing proposed to break up with Liu Wei.
Zhang Xi knew that her husband was very painful after he "changed his heart", and she desperately tried to save her husband and failed to save this fragmented marriage.
After Xu Yajun and Zhang Xi divorced, they turned around and came together with He Qing, and the two also spent a period of sweet marriage, and gave birth to a son named Xu He in 2001.
After being with He Qing, Xu Yajun was very good to his wife, he usually had a hobby of playing cards outside of work, but since he got married, he would ask his wife for advice every time he played cards.
When friends see him like this, they often say: "Xu Yajun, how come you have become a strict wife when you get married." ”
Who knew that Xu Yajun was not only not shy, but also said very generously: "I am not afraid of my daughter-in-law, I am the performance of loving my daughter-in-law." ”
However, the happy marriage between the two did not last long, Xu Yajun and He Qing were very busy at work and had no time to take care of the family, and contradictions gradually arose between them.
Xu Yajun hopes that his wife, He Qing, will put more energy into the family.
He Qing believes that his career development has always been good, and he wants to continue to make achievements in his career.
The concept cannot be unified, and the contradictions between the two people often occur, which slowly evolve into quarrels, and the feelings between them are also consumed in the quarrels.
In 2003, they ended the painful marriage, and the children were put in the care of Xu Yajun.
After the divorce, Xu Yajun put all his energy into work, until a year later, he met Zhang Shu, who was 12 years younger than himself, in the crew.
The two are one round different in age, but their personalities are very similar, and it is easy to have common topics.
At that time, Zhang Shu had a strong interest in golf, and it just so happened that Xu Yajun played golf well, so he offered to teach her.
In the process of getting along, the two people's hearts got closer and closer, and gradually they came together.
But the marriage between the two of them has not been blessed by Zhang Shu's parents, after all, Xu Yajun has been married three times, and he still has a son, which is not reliable.
Zhang Shu understands his parents' encouragement and has been trying to persuade his parents, and Xu Yajun also expressed his importance to Zhang Shu to his father-in-law and mother-in-law.
In desperation, they had to agree to their daughter's marriage, and the two entered the palace of marriage in 2008, after which Zhang Shu gave up her career and became the woman behind a successful man.
When the two first got married, Xu He actually did not accept Zhang Shu, the new mother, and usually got along with a strong wariness.
Zhang Shu was not angry about this, but often cared about Xu He's thoughts, and usually she would try to help solve any difficulties her stepson had.
Xu He's heart was also warmed by Zhang Shu, and a little bit of softening gradually treated Zhang Shu as her biological mother, and often affectionately called her "Shu Ma".
Zhang Shu gave birth to a son two years after marriage, and Xu He was very happy with the appearance of his younger brother, and often took care of his younger brother with Zhang Shu.
With the care of Zhang Shu at home, Xu Yajun's career has also developed better and better, and in 2017, he became popular again by relying on "In the Name of the People", and his career was renewed with new vitality.
However, at this time, he is also older, and while developing his career, he will also pay attention to gradually focusing on life.
Sometimes he also creates surprises for his wife, and on the tenth anniversary of their marriage, he and his two children prepare a romantic ten-year celebration ceremony for his wife.
Usually, when Zhang Shu has a birthday, the two children will also send her birthday wishes together, and the family of four lives happily and warmly.
Today' Zhang Shu and Xu Yajun are 46 years old and 58 years old, and they have been married for 14 years, but the feelings between them have never faded with time.
After the children grew up, Zhang Shu also began to return to the entertainment circle, this year she also filmed "Long Live the Woman", played the role of "I really hate long-distance love" was also launched in April, and Xu Yajun also participated in the filming of the work "The Water of the Great River" this year.
Zhang Shu, a colleague in the development of her career, has not forgotten life, she often shares the latest situation on social platforms, at the end of August she also posted a photo of herself and her small pet, she is full of smiles, the state looks very good, it seems to be surrounded by happiness.
In fact, after watching Xu Yajun's four marriages, I found that Zhang Shu was the most suitable person for him. One of his first two wives died early, and the other was busy with his work, and the feelings were not very deep.
Although He Qing has a good relationship with him, the two have different concepts, Xu Yajun's previous two wives have taken the initiative to give up their careers after marriage, and perhaps Xu Yajun needs a wife who can take care of the family.
But He Qing values her career more than her family, they have different views and concepts, and continuing to be together is nothing more than torturing each other, and Xu Yajun, who chooses to separate, may be truly responsible for her.
After the breakup, He Qing suffered from brain tumors and disappeared for a long time, and when she reappeared, she had already come together with Liao Jingsheng, which was also considered to have found her own happiness.
Comparatively speaking, Zhang Peng is the most suitable person for Xu Yajun, she appeared when Xu Yajun's thinking was mature, at this time Xu Yajun understood more about what responsibilities and obligations were, and would care more about the marriage between the two.
What's more, Zhang Peng's willingness to give up his career for him and take care of the children left by his ex-wife is enough to prove her feelings for Xu Yajun, and they are a match made in heaven when they are together.
Now Xu Yajun and He Qing have been divorced for 19 years, and Zhang Shu have been married for 14 years, and after experiencing so many bumpy marriages, they have all found their own happiness.
He Qing and Xu Yajun have also been good friends because of the existence of the child, and perhaps this is the most suitable ending for them.