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"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

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"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

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Gu Jiayi is divorced.

After a long period of separation and cold war, she did not wait for Lin Hongnian to change her mind, nor did she want to be entangled anymore, and finally agreed to divorce her husband who had long "not loved her".

However, until that casual meal, she didn't know how stupid and absurd she was to "plan for nothing" to Lin Hongnian in the first place.

And the reason why she has always been unhappy is not only due to her mother's repeated opposition and control over her, as well as the failure of marriage and family management!

01, lift the stone and drop it on your own feet.

When Gu Lin was bullied by his classmates, Lin Hongnian did not show his face under the pretext of being busy, which made Gu Jiayi completely disappointed in this marriage.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

She was willing to admit that Lin Hongnian really did not love her, and she also saw his selfish face of mercenary intentions, and finally made up her mind not to retain this doomed and fruitless relationship, which can also be regarded as letting go of each other.

And when she was eating a casual meal, the extremely stupid question she asked really made her realize how ridiculous it was that she had "planned nothing" to marry Lin Hongnian in the first place!

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

You know, when she didn't want money, she didn't want a room, and she married Lin Hongnian like a naked marriage, and the picture was only him.

However, Lin Hongnian admitted that what he liked and liked was not simply her Gu Jiayi, but more of her family background.

As everyone knows, it is precisely because she does not want anything that Causes Lin Hongnian to not cherish her, and it is her low requirements for men that makes the marriage so a failure.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

At that time, in order to get rid of the control of her mother Zhou Xiaoqiu, Gu Jiayi impatiently married the "poor boy" Lin Hongnian and tried to move out on this ground.

But she still miscalculated.

Not only did Zhou Xiaoqiu not agree, but even Lin Hongnian, who should have taken a stand with her, turned against her in order to please her mother-in-law.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

His life experience under the fence for many years, living too eye-catching, at a glance to see who is in charge of this family, do not take Gu Jiayi's words at all, let alone help the cavity to create momentum.

Therefore, this time, Gu Jiayi even lifted a stone and smashed her own foot, and also found a door-to-door son-in-law for Zhou Xiaoqiu to be a helper, so that the mother-daughter relationship continued to be deadlocked.

Moreover, Lin Hongnian's attentiveness to his mother-in-law will definitely make Gu Jiayi, who is like water and fire with his mother, like a fish in the throat, and there is a mother like Zhou Xiaoqiu sandwiched between the two, and the relationship between the husband and wife is difficult to be harmonious!

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

Of course, if the two have a child, it is okay, and there is a tie between the husband and wife, even if it is only for the sake of the child, there will always be a layer of consideration and concern before making a decision.

However, the first marital crisis they faced was that they had not had children for many years after marriage.

Therefore, they will adopt a daughter, that is, Gu Lin, but this decision also sows hidden dangers for their marriage!

In itself, Lin Hongnian is a fatherless and motherless orphan, the desire for family and affection can be imagined, in the Gu family disguised as a door-to-door son-in-law, there will inevitably be knots in his heart, but even the adopted daughter is surnamed Gu, he cannot have no thoughts in his heart.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

Of course, if he had been doing nothing, he would have been able to survive with any grievances, patience and patience.

However, he became famous, became famous on the Internet, and became a brother in the stage, full of confidence, people also floated up, and the people under his hands were often arrogant.

As the saying goes: "Promotion to get rich and change wives"

Men are like this, they become famous, and their minds live.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

Lin Hongnian is even more so, after having money and social status, the needs have changed, and he has begun to be dissatisfied with the status quo.

As a result, the wife's nagging discipline and the daughter's blood surname became the shackles and shame he wanted to escape!

02, cold violence.

However, Lin Hongnian is also a public figure, and he just wants to divorce the marriage without making a sound.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

But Gu Jiayi did not agree, she could not understand, obviously everything is developing in a good direction, why lin Hongnian suddenly filed for divorce?

Of course, she already knew that the two could not have children, the problem was not in herself, but Lin Hongnian had no fertility, and for the sake of his self-esteem and face considerations, she hid it.

But Lin Hongnian didn't know it, and was still shouting "forty-one flowers for men"!

He also thought that he was fierce and fierce, thinking that the reason why they could not have children was that there was a problem with Gu Jiayi's land, as long as they divorced, and then found a young and beautiful girl, the old Lin family would definitely have a successor.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

So, the two are not on the same channel at all.

Gu Jiayi thought that Lin Hongnian had other women outside and would divorce her, but Lin Hongnian felt that Gu Jiayi had to drag him, so he resolutely disagreed with the divorce.

In order to save this marriage, Gu Jiayi adopted a very negative and extreme communication method.

She has quarreled and quarreled with Lin Hongnian, hoping to attract his attention by throwing a tantrum, and wanting to use the dispute to make him compromise with himself, so as to resolve the marriage problems between the two.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

However, the results show that in addition to exchanging more frequent and intensive disputes and deepening the disappointment and harm of both sides to each other, these practices can only make the other party more disgusted and repulsive, and will not help the solution of practical problems at all.

In the end, Gu Jiayi had to sacrifice the killer skill against Lin Hongnian's love of money.

By controlling the financial power, she controlled Lin Hongnian's economic lifeline, and even proposed the divorce conditions for him to leave the house, so that he did not dare to leave if he wanted to.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

On the surface, this trick really cured Lin Hongnian and let him honestly stay at home.

However, what Gu Jiayi does not know is that if a man really wants to divorce you, relying on threats and retention alone will not solve the substantive problem.

Their most ruthless approach is not to quarrel with you every day, nor to abuse you at every turn, but even to argue with you, and will only release the signal of "cold violence" by completely ignoring you and not touching you.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

Moreover, Lin Hongnian knew Gu Jiayi's jin two too well.

Don't you think I'm having an affair and cheating? Then I'll get home on time, but I'll sleep on the couch and won't touch you.

Don't you think I don't love you? Then I will snub you, ignore you, and let you taste the taste of not being loved.

Therefore, there is a way for the two people to get along with each other in the play, which cannot be separated and is not good!

03, marriage taboo.

In fact, Gu Jiayi's mind is very good to guess.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

It was not that she could not live without Lin Hongnian, but she was just unwilling, and she did not want to admit that she was unclear and sloppy.

This is not difficult to understand, just as in "Snail Dwelling", the original stepping stone theory of Mrs. Song:

"Men are the same, they need stepping stones when they are young, they need a strong needle in middle age, and they need a crutch in their old age."

In her opinion, she is a native of Nanjing, and she married Lin Hongnian, a poor and white "south drifter" without any attempts, and the other party should be grateful to Dade for living with her, why should she be used as a springboard for stepping feet and throw it away?

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

Moreover, she also led by example, the work was not delayed, and the home was well-organized, in order not to let Lin Hongnian lose face and be uncomfortable, even his physiological problems were kindly hidden, how understanding.

But when she did this, she only touched herself!

Lin Hongnian did not know anything about this, and even misunderstood, once wanted to escape, but he was reluctant to have property, so he had to break the jar and continue to live under the same roof with her, to be the most familiar stranger.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

The most hateful thing is that he does not argue with you or even fight with you, but chooses to deal with everything with silence, leaving you alone in the empty room, leaving you with nowhere to scatter, and even ruthlessly and despicablely shifting the responsibility of splitting the family to your head, until you are forced to make crazy concessions.

In fact, once this situation of cold violence in marriage is formed, it is difficult to effectively resolve it except that one party chooses to compromise and end.

At the beginning, Gu Jiayi would never have thought that she would face such an unbearable situation, and she would not understand that she had obviously lowered the standards and requirements to the minimum, why could she still not keep the hearts of men?

I have to say that Gu Jiayi and Lin Hongnian are both people who lack love and have no ability to love.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

And the emotional crisis between husband and wife has developed to this point, it is not necessarily that they really no longer love each other, but do not know how to express their inner needs, and even when each other can no longer meet each other's needs, they do not know how to do positive and effective communication.

In this way, two people who do not know how to manage feelings have adopted a very negative and wrong way to communicate and get along, and in the end, not only failed to change the status quo of marriage, but also consumed the original feelings of salvation.

In the end, it is not surprising that the marriage relationship between the two has come to the step of dissipation!

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

If, at the beginning, Gu Jiayi's standard for picking men was not so low, if her vision was a little more critical, it would be impossible to find a husband who was in love with the door.

But her personality was abolished by Zhou Xiaoqiu's consistent opposition and denial, even though she was already very good, she always lacked the self-confidence she deserved, and even showed inferiority in the face of the opposite sex.

The most absurd thing is that she actually came up with a crooked trick of using marriage as a bet to escape zhou Xiaoqiu's clutches, and found a husband who was not equal to her in all aspects, committing a marriage taboo.

"Zhang Weiguo's Summer": Gu Jiayi's "don't want anything" is the taboo of marriage

Although Gu Jiayi's failed marriage is not universal, the problems exposed in it are also worthy of thousands of women to take as a warning.

Sometimes, marriages that rush to post upside down are not necessarily strong!

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