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The hottest girls on the hot search list this time are 29-year-old Sun Yi and 35-year-old Bao Wenjing.
The incident of Sun Yi's divorce must be known to everyone, although it is somewhat unbelievable, but it is a naked reality.
Two couples who were once in love are now parting ways, and the person will leave a wound in his heart.
Despite this, Sun Yi's move after the official divorce still makes people see the charm of a girl's self-sufficiency.
On the day of the official divorce, Sun Yi parachuted into the fan base, told her fans not to worry about themselves, and told them that they would work well next, and finally told the fans not to say words that hurt others.
Although the marriage was divorced, it did not weaken her fighting spirit and retained the last decency.
Such a girl, even if she leaves the marriage, will always live herself and will not let herself live.
In contrast, Bao Wenjing on the other side is a completely different posture.
On the day that Sun Yi officially announced his divorce, many netizens joked to Bao Wenjing that "Sun Yi is divorced, you have to be careful."
Netizens ridiculed this stem from Bao Wenjing once mentioned in the variety show "The Temptation of the Meal Bureau", she saw Bao Bell and Sun Yi shooting kissing scenes made her very angry, although she believed that her husband would not be good, but she was afraid that Sun Yi would fall in love with her husband.
In the original program, Bao Wenjing also smiled and said that since seeing Sun Yi pregnant, she felt that the danger had been eliminated.
"Bao Wenjing and Bao Bell Wedding Vows" has also climbed the hot search list in the past two days. At the wedding ceremony, Bao Wenjing said to Bao Bell, "You must be with me in this life, otherwise I will tear you up." ”
Are these remarks suffocating? It's hard to imagine that a married girl would not feel so safe.
On the second day of Sun Yi's official announcement, Bao Wenjing had an emotional breakdown in the live broadcast room and confessed that her original intention was to accompany her family until she was old.
There's nothing wrong with a good intention, but the way to achieve a good vision is too flattering.
Also in the face of marriage, Divorced Sun Yi insisted on living herself, but Bao Wenjing in the marriage was inferior to the point of collapse.
In the end, the biggest difference is whether a girl realizes that no matter what stage she is in, the sense of security of adults can only be given by herself.
Song Dandan once said: "Women marry themselves in the end, and happiness depends on you." ”
No matter what state you are in, don't forget that the only thing that can really determine your happiness is yourself, not others.
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The movie "28-year-old minor" tells a love story, which makes people feel quite touched.
The female protagonist Liang Xia, with a perfect boyfriend Mao Liang who exists like a male god.
For 10 years, she has been carefully caring for this seemingly perfect love.
Ten years ago, Liang Xia had superb painting skills, but now she is completely immersed in love, and even gave up the dream of painting. Her greatest wish is that she can enter the palace of marriage with Mao Liang as soon as possible.
Ten years ago, Mao Liang promised Liangxia that "after ten years we will get married, and with the sunset all the way to the white head", and ten years later, Mao Liang is running day and night for the company's financing, and has no time to worry about Liangxia's careful thinking.
The anxious Liang Xia forced Mao Liang to marry at the girlfriend's wedding.
Unfortunately, in order to escape the kidnapping of him by this intimate relationship, Mao Liang proposed to break up.
The grief-stricken Liang Xia washed her face with tears all day, and an accident returned her mind to the age of 17.
Xiao Liangxia's world is direct and wanton, has its own hobbies, and has a free, distant, unrestrained soul and life.
Gradually, she let the 28-year-old Liang Xia understand that everyone's life should have their own side of the world.
Later, Liang Xia revived the paintbrush and became a famous beauty designer through his own efforts.
At the end of the film, when Mao Liang saw a confident, independent, and charming Liangxia standing in front of him, he remembered the beauty of their initial love...
There is a very impressive line in the film, when Liang Xia picked up the paintbrush again, she once said to Mao Liang:
"In fact, a lot of times it's not your problem, I just don't want to stand behind you and wait for you to turn around."
How simple the words are, but let people deeply understand the profound meaning of living out the self and satisfying the self.
Dai Jianye, a professor at Central China Normal University, said something like this:
"We must not 'have great ambitions' for love marriage, the greater the 'ambition', the deeper the pain, the more demanding and the less the harvest."
In the two-person world, you can 'set high standards' for yourself, but you can't be 'strict' with your partner. ”
Marriage is often not a matter of two people, it is only a matter of you alone, and if you live your life well, your marriage will naturally bloom.
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Emotional writer Li Xiaoyi wrote an article "Are you a woman with only one fulcrum".
In it, she shares a conversation with a friend.
The friend, who has been in charge of a women's prison for 20 years, knows a lot about the reasons for women's crimes.
Li Xiaoyi asked her: "For what reason do women usually commit crimes?" ”
The friend sighed helplessly: "Women have nine times out of ten and feelings, or simply related to men." ”
Li Xiaoyi asked again: "The age of women's crimes is usually relatively low, right?" Young people with weak self-control are easy to think of doing stupid things. ”
The friend shook his head: "Not really, but 35-45 year old women have the highest number of crimes."
You think that the bitterness caused by emotional problems often chooses more ways to go out when you are young, and you will not force yourself to the road of despair without thinking about it.
And middle age is different, many years of emotional repression, life only has this one fulcrum, the result of middle-aged people even feelings this only fulcrum is gone, how can not lose their minds and fight to the death?
As a result, the future of life was ruined. ”
Treating love as the only one, that's why a lot of women sin.
In reality, how many women give up their careers, refuse to grow, and nestle in the crook of a man's arm, and the result is that they are depressed in a few years?
After all, love should not be a woman's greatest meaning.
When a woman sees love as everything, her life is difficult to live well.
Teacher Fan Deng once said: For mature adults, emotion is a gift, a gift, some words to enjoy, no words to thank.
Step by step, be positive and work hard, you will find that doing yourself well is the strongest backing for yourself.
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