What to do! Talk Show Special" Health Section, the first half of the variety show part, according to the topic, Yang Kasa, Wang Jianguo, Hu Lan, Xu Zhisheng, Pang Bo, etc., with the help of psychological counselors, decided to set up a group to help the most stressed people.
In the voluntary consultation session, Pang Bo, who seemed to be sunny and handsome, was the first to raise his hand to say that he could, and then Xu Zhisheng, who was recognized as a social ceiling, also said his troubles, comparing the troubles of the two, privately thinking that although the external conditions were very different, the achievements of the two were also different, but in essence they were of the same kind.
Xu Zhisheng was the first to walk into the consultation room and said, "I used to think I knew myself well, but recently I found that I didn't have the strength to like myself." It can be seen that this is really the annoyance of Xu Zhisheng, who has recently appeared on various programs and received countless praises, and the psychological counselor has responded to him in this way, "Because you are too dedicated, you are a person who is willing to nourish others, but in and out should be balanced." That is to say, blindly being good to others, when you don't get returned, your own energy will be exhausted, and you must ensure your own happiness.
To sum up, at any time, everything is to consider others first, ignore their own feelings, such a victory is difficult not to be liked by everyone, but it is also difficult not to feel tired - too concerned about others themselves will be unhappy.
Looking at Pang Bo again, Pang Bo painted himself when he painted, in the picture given by the consultant, he kept analyzing, continuing to say that he was very tired, and was also pointed out by the psychological counselor that this means that you are tired recently, so the word continues to appear. Pang Bo said: "I will be more concerned about some of the opinions of others about me, some evaluations, learning better from an early age, good students will pay special attention to some score things, competition things, I can not accept failure." ”
The interpretation given by the psychological counselor is as follows: "The reason why I care is because I don't recognize myself high enough, I feel that I am not good enough, I am not strong enough, so I need to rely on others." So your question is how to communicate with yourself. In fact, to put it bluntly, Pang Bo's problem is also too concerned about other people's opinions, and many times he can't accept himself, which is similar to Xu Zhisheng's problem, which is too concerned about the outside and ignores the real needs of the heart.
Why do two people with such different upbringings have this problem? This is a common problem of good people.
Pang Bo has always been a high-wealthy handsome man sought after by the audience, academically, in the province of special volumes, Pang Bo is a graduate of Jiaotong University, a graduate student of the Chinese Academy of Sciences, and his three-line code has been applied to space; After switching to the talk show industry, he is the benchmark of the industry, the king of the first generation of talk shows, and the one that is getting stronger and stronger.
The elite experience along the way makes it difficult for him to accept that he has gone downhill, but life is so long, who can always stand at the top of the pyramid? After achieving certain achievements, going downhill is almost inevitable, how to resist this inevitability, double the roll yourself, let yourself always maintain a positive state, and at this time he especially needs the affirmation of the outside world, the recognition of the outside world.
Xu Zhisheng is the same, academically has been very good, general appearance, from an obscure science and engineering man, to stand out in the fourth season of "Talk Show Conference", and then back home to face the pursuit of countless relatives and friends, although he is not rich and handsome, but along the way, he has always shined, which is why he said he liked himself.
But recently in the entertainment circle, participating in more and more variety shows, meeting more and more elites from all walks of life, he has questioned himself, doubting whether his self-determination over the years is "sitting in the well and watching the sky", the enthusiasm for himself has faded, and the dissipation of likes will make him feel tired.
The more you grow up, the more you know that people will experience three growths in this life, one is when they find that they are no longer the center of the world; The second is when it is found that no matter how hard you try, you can't do anything; The third is to accept their own ordinariness and enjoy the ordinary, accepting their imperfections is a compulsory course in life, which is really difficult to say that it is easy to do, especially for pang Bo, Xu Zhisheng, who have been excellent all the way, it is even more difficult.
Although "the son of mediocrity, no Yinghua can see himself, and no reputation can shock the world." "To describe Pang Bo and Xu Zhisheng is a bit excessive, after all, they are thriving in the industry, which is already unattainable for many people, but doing talk shows, I still hope that they can be happy - since they have achieved certain achievements, then look at the future with a normal heart, and don't blame yourself.
Accepting ourselves can make life more comfortable, and we can also see more unexpected passages.
The world is worth it, but it is not so worthy, and it is always right to love yourself.