On October 1, 2013, a special couple got married.
The groom is an 80-year-old man, the bride is also more than half a hundred years old, and it only took half a month from acquaintance to marriage.
This is the famous Chinese contemporary writer Wang Meng and his wife who flashed marriage, and even though there was a lot of discussion in the outside world, he did not waver, calling his newlywed wife: "It is my comfort and the resurrection of my vitality." ”
There are two photographs hanging in his home, one of his late wife Cui Ruifang and the other of his current wife, Shan Sanya.
Cui Ruifang accompanied him from the green years to the twilight years, and finally failed to work with him to the end, and before leaving, she was worried about this "elderly boy". And their stories have finally become a thing of the past.
Suffer together
Wang Meng was born in 1934, a special year, when the Red Army began a long march, he grew up in a special era, and he joined the Communist Party at a young age, and he was extremely proud to be a part of the party.
Unlike Wang Meng's own small family, Wang Meng's childhood impression left on him by his parents' marriage was not good, it can be said that it was extremely bad.
Wang Meng's father was a high-achieving student who graduated from Peking University, and his mother was also a newly educated woman, a pair of Lang Cai's female appearance.
But after marriage, his father's career went downhill, he began to drink heavily and never return home, and finally the family even had to rely on pawn goods to survive, and the most common thing he saw in his parents' marriage was endless quarrels.
When he was a child, Wang Meng was taken by his mother to live at his grandmother's house, but his father would still go to the door to sprinkle and stage a family war.
When he grew up, Wang Meng felt that the separation of his parents was the best result, and his parents had no feelings for each other, only looking at each other and hating each other, so he personally handled the divorce of his parents and liberated his parents who were suffering in this marriage.
But the unhappiness of the marriage of the previous generation did not prevent him from pursuing his own happiness, and he still had enthusiasm and longing for love.
In 1950, 16-year-old Wang Meng met 17-year-old Cui Ruifang in Beihai Park, a young girl with two black braids, and a smile like the warm spring sun shining into his heart.
At the age of 16, it was the age when the love dou first opened, and Wang Meng had a different kind of affection for this girl who was one year older than him.
Wang Meng was precocious, joined the Communist Party at the age of 14, and became a regiment cadre at the age of 15 with his own wisdom and ability, and he took on a lot prematurely compared with children of the same age.
In 1952, Cui Ruifang was temporarily transferred to the Youth League Committee of Beijing's Dongsi District, where Wang Meng was located, to do clerical work, and the two who had a relationship with each other were able to see each other again.
On the day Cui Ruifang reported, Wang Meng took the initiative to greet her. Working in the same place, the two people looked up every day and did not look down, and soon became familiar, which also allowed Wang Meng to figure out his feelings.
Late one night, Cui Ruifang, who was still buried in work, was asked by Wang Meng to go for a walk, and Cui Ruifang, who had never been alone with the young opposite sex at night, was embarrassed to refuse, but she could not stand Wang Meng's insistence, she still agreed.
Cui Ruifang always kept a distance from Wang Meng when walking, and Wang Meng always kept a distance that made her feel safe, and did not make any moves across the boundary.
Although being alone this time did not make Cui Ruifang have feelings for Wang Meng other than friendship, it also changed her impression of the boy.
After the temporary work, Cui Ruifang returned to school to study, and Wang Meng officially began his pursuit, writing love letters one after another, and the words were the warm love of teenagers.
Cui Ruifang is a friend of Wang Meng's sister, and unlike Wang Meng, in her eyes, the other party is only a younger brother who is one year younger than herself, so she initially refused to accept Wang Meng's fierce pursuit, wanting Wang Meng to give up.
But Wang Meng is more and more frustrated and courageous, no matter how Cui Ruifang refuses, his love letter will not be absent, such as water drops wearing stones, his sincerity breaks Cui Ruifang's heart wall little by little, and the two have become each other's first love.
In the middle, Cui Ruifang had broken up with Wang Meng due to his studies, and had not met Wang Meng for nearly a year, and the two had no correspondence. But Wang Meng could not forget her, confessed to her in his own way, and the two reconciled with his efforts.
In the six years of love, Wang Meng never skimped on his love words, and always let the other party feel his love directly.
In 1957, the young and in love with each other cultivated a positive result, there was no luxurious wedding, no glorious wedding dress, only two connected hearts. The lack of material conditions did not weaken their feelings, and they supported each other and lived happily after marriage.
In 1962, Wang Mengjing was introduced to a teaching job, and the couple lived a modest life in a small house.
Wang Meng did not forget to create in his spare time teaching, his works were successfully published in journals, and his originally calm enthusiasm for creation rose again, and he wanted to challenge higher.
Wang Meng is an acute child, often saying that he can do it, and he is uneasy about his current life.
His activity made the person in charge of the Xinjiang Writers Association at that time notice him, and out of appreciation for his talent, he was mobilized to go to Xinjiang for development, and the poems in Wang Meng's heart and the distant place encouraged him to agree to it, without the slightest consideration of what would happen after he went.
In this regard, Cui Ruifang was a little helpless, at that time they already had two children, considering the reality of the situation is not suitable for such a big transfer, but she also did not hesitate to follow him to a strange foreign country.
The climate in Xinjiang is far from that of Beijing, and there is no heating in the place where they live, and the family of four who are not adapted to it is frozen to hug each other for warmth when it is cold.
Initially, Wang Meng comforted Cui Ruifang, saying that they would not stay here forever and return to Beijing when he had achieved something.
But I didn't expect that they would live for 16 years as soon as they lived, during which they had a daughter, named Yi Huan, hoping that she could grow up happily in such an environment.
In the past 16 years, Wang Meng used his optimism to relieve the hardships of life, and also made Uyghur friends in the local area. He collected and wrote in Xinjiang, saw many landscapes, created many works, and finally worked hard.
White sends white hair
In 1979, Wang Meng's family finally returned to Beijing.
Suppressed for too long, Wang Meng began to create as soon as he returned to Beijing.
16 years of life in Xinjiang not only brought him bitterness, but also brought him unlimited inspiration and materials, just like trying to make up for the lost time, his works one after another, as if there is no bottleneck period.
From 1979 to 1984, his works won successive awards, and his creation entered a golden period, and his stream-of-consciousness writing method different from traditional novels also attracted the attention of the literary world, becoming one of the leaders of literary creation in the new period and having an unshakable position in the literary world.
In 1986, he served as the minister of culture, the vice chairman of the China Writers Association and the secretary of the Secretariat, and everything in their lives was developing in a good way.
Wang Meng in the literary world is unique, and Wang Meng in life is not buried in the ordinary, Cui Ruifang gave him a nickname of "tear-inducing", and her work "My Husband Wang Meng" wrote about Wang Meng's acute and rigid things.
Wang Meng is a very punctual person in life, he arranges the time of the day in an orderly manner, and at the same time does not forget to urge the people around him.
After getting married, Wang Meng began to urge Cui Ruifang from the morning, urging her to eat breakfast, urging her to go out, and he was always the one who went out first.
And he is a person who cares about time, if he misses the time he prescribes, even if it is only a few seconds, it will make him angry, and he is extremely punctual, and he will hardly let others waste time when arranging things.
And in addition to loving people, he often loses everything because of the acute child, and every time he has to save the scene, it is difficult to imagine how many embarrassing scenes he will encounter without Cui Ruifang.
Even Cui Ruifang, who loves him deeply, can't help but complain, it can be said that if it were not for Cui Ruifang's tolerance and care, Wang Meng would not have been able to devote himself to creation.
"Loved, loved forever, irreplaceable."
Cui Ruifang tolerated the "big child" in her eyes, and for the sake of Wang Meng's career, she gave up what she wanted to do and only worked as a teacher in a middle school. Sometimes halfway through the work, Cui Ruifang would remember that there was something waiting for her at home, and she used all her possessions to support Wang Meng in expanding her territory in the field of literature.
Cui Ruifang took care of Wang Meng became a habit, in her life Wang Meng became an indispensable part, until both of them grayed their hair and worried that this "elderly boy" would not be able to take care of herself without her, because she was a year older than Wang Meng, and she often worried that she would go before him.
Out of this worry, until Wang Meng is an old man with rich personal experience, Cui Ruifang will still accompany him out, and wherever Wang Meng goes, she will go wherever she goes, just wanting to take care of him for a while when she can still accompany him.
The marriage between the two has gone through 55 years, during which Wang Meng's fame has never been scandalous, and there has never been a third party between them.
On March 23, 2012, Cui Ruifang died of illness, but after all, he left wang Meng one step ahead of him and failed to accompany him through the journey of life.
And Wang Meng's world collapsed in a corner of this day, and the lover who held up a comfortable space for him, and his wife who shared happiness and suffering, left forever.
"In this life and in this heart, Seocho fang is warm and windy."
Wang Meng buried Cui Ruifang, who had been with him for 62 years, and since then there is only one photograph in the house that allows him to see her when he returns home.
Wang Meng, who has lost his beloved, thinks he will spend the rest of his time alone, but Heaven seems to be particularly kind to him in love and marriage.
Heartwarming and falling in love
In September 2013, Wang Meng once again experienced the feeling of heartbeat.
Shan Sanya, a veteran reporter for Guangming Daily, held several positions at the same time, and she was 60 years old when she met Wang Meng, and the difference between the two was exactly twenty years, earlier than the age of impulsiveness.
Their acquaintance stemmed from the introduction of a friend, the first time they met, the careful Shan Sanya was afraid that the king was cold, so he brought a coat for him to put on and buttoned it for him. Later, when asked to see him at first, Wang Meng did not shy away from saying that he was in love at first sight.
This sunset love is not inferior to Wang Meng's first love, just like his first heartbeat, Wang Meng seems to have changed back into the original enthusiastic young man overnight, and he unabashedly confessed his love to the world.
Shan Sanya filled the vacant position next to Wang Meng, the elderly widowed Wang Meng came out of the haze, his second love ignited another round of enthusiasm for life, and the 80-year-old body revived the 18-year-old.
Driven by Shan Sanya, he participated in the internet trend and began to learn to use smartphones and other electronic devices. After learning to use the sports bracelet and WeChat, he counted to an auspicious number every time he walked, and he would take photos and send them to the circle of friends.
Wang Meng, who is getting younger and younger, has more fun and experimentation, he regains the habit of swimming and exercising when he was young, and at the age of 80, he has many abs that young people do not have, just like a rejuvenated look.
Of course, for his flash marriage, there is also bad speculation from the outside world, and even some people go to dig up Shan Sanya's marriage history, intending to find some stains to criticize.
For these, Wang Meng was very calm, and he was not separated from Shan Sanya because of the eyes of others. His living room still has a photo of Cui Ruifang, and a wedding photo of him and Shan Sanya has been added next to it.
In 2014, Wang Meng took Shan Sanya to Hainan to participate in the cross-strait PEN club activities, and when everyone was still interested in his marital status, he generously introduced his new wife to everyone present, and used his own way to protect her from gossip.
This trip to Hainan is like a newlywed honeymoon, while handling official business, he does not forget the romance of life. He and Shan Sanya enjoyed the good scenery of Hainan together, and like the love of their youth, they showed their hearts like her.
Even though his body was old and his voice was not as clear as before, he still sang love songs, singing about this twilight love and celebrating his rebirth.
Now Wang Meng seems to have gotten rid of the limitations of age and aging, his aging has no restrictions on him enjoying life, enjoying continued progress, and he has truly lived to learn from old age.
"As the title of my novel goes, next year I will age, and before I am particularly old, I want to say long live life, long live youth, long live love."
Wang Meng has created more than 17 million words so far, which is a breathtaking number, and what is directly proportional to his efforts is the honor of the body.
In 2019, he was awarded the national honorary title of "People's Artist" and concurrently held positions in several universities. As a writer he has won many awards, his works have spread widely, and he is undoubtedly successful.
His life experience was not smooth, he experienced various ups and downs in his early years, literary creation also stumbled all the way, and his ambitions always met bad opportunities, but he persevered. He has turned years of silence into his writings, never given up his pursuits, never given up on himself, and he has always loved what he loves.
In marriage and love, he is also unusually successful.
Wang Meng witnessed the breakdown of the family in his childhood, fortunately he did not become a husband like his father, he was enthusiastic and firm, he treated his feelings consistently, that is, he had the courage to pursue love, and he was also good at maintaining this true feeling.
What is even more rare is that the Cui Ruifang and Shan Sanya he met both gave him a response, silently supporting him behind his back and accompanying him around.
Cui Ruifang accompanied him through the most difficult days, and also accompanied him to climb the peak of his life step by step, and finally left at the peak of the best scenery.
Shan Sanya made him ignite another round of enthusiasm in life, rejuvenating his twilight years, allowing him to see more scenery and try more things on his final journey.