- "Don't you have real friends in the entertainment industry?" ”
- "No, because everyone can pretend." ”
This overly straightforward dialogue is not from the private chat of a celebrity.
It is a passage that Tibetan singer Xiangyang Dolma said very frankly in the interview of the program.
In the program, Dolma also gave examples to support his own views.
She said that she had chatted with some artists backstage and got along very well.
Not long after, when they met again, she greeted them with enthusiasm, but the other party "ended" up, looking like no one was close.
Such a thing has happened many times, which makes Dolma confused and tired, and he has given up the idea of making friends in the circle.
Performing and living in a big city, Dolma was not much happy.
She said frankly, moving to a big city for fame and fortune, to earn more money to improve her life and her family's lives.
In addition, there is nothing in the big city that makes her nostalgic, and she hates the thinness of people in the city.
In the heart of Dolma, she will always belong to the grassland and will always be attached to the mountains and rivers of her hometown.
It was that lofty and vast land that gave birth to the stoic character and deep noise of Dolma.
This allowed her to emerge from her poor and helpless family and become a well-known singer with the title of "most beautiful female alto" on her head.
Childhood hunger
In the northwest corner of Ganzi Prefecture in Sichuan Province, there is a small county town called Dege.
From Chengdu to here, it is only a distance of 800 or 900 kilometers, but due to the extreme inconvenience of transportation, it often takes two or three days to drive.
On the way, you also have to cross a high mountain with an altitude of more than 6100 meters.
Due to the limitations of the geographical environment, the economic development of Derge County is backward, and it will withdraw from the ranks of poor counties in 2020.
It was here that Dolma was born and spent a poor and difficult childhood.
There are 6 children in the family, she is the fourth and the only daughter in the family.
Due to the large number of children and heavy burdens, the mother of Dolma is busy with her livelihood and raising her children every day.
(Mother of Dolma)
There's not even time to remember the exact date of birth of the children.
So far, Dolma does not know what day his birthday is, only that he was born in September when he was digging potatoes.
In childhood, the memory of Dolma was full of hunger.
What impressed her most was the cauldron in the house that always boiled water but did not have a little food.
In order to feed a large family, the mother of Dolma hollowed out her mind and suffered a lot.
There was really no need to eat, so The mother of Dolma asked the neighbor for a little potato or rice dumplings, so that the children could barely mix and half full.
Once, I heard that there was grass growing in the mountains that could be sold for money, a bundle of two cents.
Dolma's mother carried the children up the mountain, and the children stood by, and she cut the grass alone.
(Descending Dolma and his father and brother)
Then, bundle by bundle, he carried it down the hill, just for the meager two cents.
Although life is extremely difficult, because she is the only daughter in the family, Dolma still enjoys pampering and preferential treatment in hardship.
When she didn't have to help her mother, Dolma often learned to dress herself up like an adult.
She drew her eyebrows with burnt charcoal and cut a little red paint from the furniture as lipstick.
Then, singing and dancing in front of the mirror, making fun in the way of children, and also in ignorance, completed the initial artistic enlightenment.
Because his family was poor, none of dolma's three older brothers and two younger brothers had studied.
However, with the support of the whole family, Dolma entered the campus.
(On the right is Dolma)
Although she is a young age, Sheyang Dolma knows well how much her family has given her.
Therefore, she studied very hard, and often got up at four or five o'clock in the morning to endorse it.
With continuous efforts, the results of Dolma have been very good.
When she was in junior high school, many of her homework were among the best, especially in Tibetan, and she was a steady first place in every exam.
In addition to the nourishment of knowledge, being able to read is also truly improving the material life of Dolma.
It was because of junior high school that Dolma ate rice for the first time, and occasionally, meat in the canteen.
At that time, some of the roommates in Dolma's family conditions were still good, and they would throw away the two steamed buns issued at a meal if they could not eat them.
In order not to waste food, Dolma hung a bag in the corner of the dormitory,
Then tell your roommates that if you can't eat the buns, put them inside.
On weekends, Dolma took home the steamed buns she had collected.
If you can still eat, let the family eat it, and if it is not fresh, cook it and feed it to the cows.
Being able to study and improve food, Dolma is full of gratitude for campus life.
So, she redoubled her efforts and only hoped to spend a few more years on a beautiful campus.
In the middle school entrance examination, Dolma played steadily and won the tenth place in the whole Ganzi Prefecture.
With outstanding results, Dolma was admitted to an excellent teacher training high school.
However, just when Dolma was thinking of becoming a teacher after three years of graduation and reducing the burden on the family,
Her mother told her with embarrassment that the tuition fee of 500 yuan was too much for the family to really get out.
In desperation, Dolma bid farewell to the campus and embarked on the road of part-time work early.
Dolma's first job was as a sanitation worker, working in the county town next door, more than 300 kilometers from home.
Early every morning, Dolma began to work, living a lot and dirty, but the income was very low.
In order to save money, Dolma often went to the vegetable market to pick up vegetable leaves to cook, and his life was very frugal.
Sanitation workers worked for half a year, and to build a hydropower station in Dolma's hometown, workers were needed to carry cement.
When he heard that he could earn 25 yuan a day carrying cement, Heyang Dolma immediately rushed home and worked as a porter with his eldest brother.
Although the income has increased, the work is really hard.
A bag of 50 kilograms of cement, adult men are laborious to carry up, but dolma does not accept defeat and never lazy.
Even, she thinks that the job of moving cement is quite good,
Because there are many Han colleagues around, I can learn Chinese with them.
At that time, these Han colleagues were brought to Ganzi Prefecture by a boss from other places.
Their food was served by the boss, while dolma cooked their own meals.
Once, colleagues, including Dolma's brother, went out to see a movie, leaving Dolma alone in the dormitory.
When passing by the kitchen of a Han colleague, Dolma saw a large pot of green pepper fried meat on the table inside.
After hesitating for a long time, Dolma still did not resist the temptation of food, she sneaked into the kitchen and tasted it.
Later, Dolma said that he had never eaten such a delicious dish at that time.
So, she couldn't help but eat one bite after another.
When he was about to eat, Dolma also left a bowl for his brother.
Then she cleverly knocked the basin to the ground, faking the illusion that a wild dog had broken into the kitchen.
When her brother returned, Dolma took out the dishes she had hidden, and told her brother the truth of the matter.
However, instead of getting the praise she expected, she was beaten up by her brother.
The brother scolded while hitting: "We have to use our hands to work, we can't use our hands to steal things." ”
That time, Dolma was beaten up by her brother who had always loved her, but she also deeply remembered this lesson.
Since then, I have lived stronger and more upright.
Beautiful singing
After moving the cement, Dolma changed jobs again.
This time, she worked as a waitress at a hotel in the county.
The salary rose to 800 yuan, and the work was not as tiring as before, which made Dolma very satisfied.
In the evening, there are song and dance performances in the hotel, and Dolma often sings along with it.
One day, a singer suddenly could not be present, and the manager remembered the girl who loved to sing.
She had never been on stage, but Dolma did not prevaricate in the slightest, and she walked up to the stage generously and sang a folk song from her hometown.
Coincidentally, the director of the local cultural center sat under the stage.
"Knowledgeable", he heard that Dolma had unique vocal conditions and was a piece of material for being a singer.
After the song was sung, the curator found Dolma, first praised her singing, and then told her a good news:
The Derge County Arts Troupe is hiring.
Get the praise of professionals, and have further opportunities,
Once again, Dolma moved in quickly and began to prepare for the exam.
However, just as Dolma was struggling to change his destiny, a bad news came.
At that time, Dolma's father and brothers were also working outside the home, and the family was often only her mother.
Her mother happened to be suddenly ill at this time, and there was no one around to accompany her.
The mother who had been working hard all her life quietly passed away.
Hearing the bad news, Dolma was devastated.
It was also in grief that Dolma walked up to the examination room and passed unanimously.
In this way, the 20-year-old Dolma ushered in the biggest turning point in her fate, but she also lost her beloved mother forever.
It wasn't until her mother died that Dolma thought that the family had not even left a group photo.
And this has also become the biggest regret in the heart of Dolma.
Entering the art troupe, Dolma picked up his mood and began to work hard to learn singing skills.
Soon, she became the "pillar" of the regiment.
Whenever the Yang Dolma performs, the villagers of the ten miles and eight townships will rush over the mountain road to listen.
And her outstanding singing talent also received more attention at this time.
It gave her the opportunity to embark on a higher platform, the Ganzi Prefecture National Song and Dance Troupe.
Here, Dolma is even more successful, and her unique mezzo-soprano voice is deeply appreciated and valued by the leaders of the regiment.
In order to make her more breakthrough in art, the song and dance troupe selected Yang Zhuoma to study at the Sichuan Conservatory of Music.
During the study period, Dolma participated in many dance dramas, and his professional ability was continuously improved.
In 2005, He graduated from school and starred in the stage play "Dream Khampa" that year.
With this work, Xiangyang Dolma won the first prize of the Sichuan Ethnic Minority Art Festival.
The following year, she won a gold medal at the National Minority Festival.
A series of flashing achievements have made Dolma more confident and planned for his career.
In 2008, Dolma finally released his first album, "This Mountain, This Water".
In Tibetan areas alone, the album sold 730,000 copies.
And on the album, there is a song called "Auspicious Butter Lamp".
This song is sung to her mother by Dolma, and she uses a interpretation full of true feelings to tell her endless longing for her mother.
With the influence of the album, Dolma is well known to more people, and the opportunities to perform are also increasing.
Once, during the performance, Dolma became acquainted with the deputy head of the Tibet Military Region's Cultural and Labor Troupe.
The other party felt that she was a rare talent, so he invited her to join the Cultural and Labor Corps of the Tibet Military Region.
In this way, relying on a good voice, Dolma once again ushered in a change of identity.
Within a few years, she completed the "triple jump", walked out of the depths of Tibetan areas, walked onto the plateau, and became a glorious literary and artistic warrior.
Putting on the military uniform, Dolma was so happy that she felt like she was dreaming.
She cherished this rare opportunity, and as soon as she entered the army, she took the initiative to ask for performances at the grass-roots level and at the border defense.
Singing on the plateau, the breath of the singer is extremely demanding.
In order to sing the most beautiful songs to the warriors, Dolma often gave himself additional training in addition to daily physical training.
In just one month, Dolma was able to sing freely at high altitudes, and the song was as beautiful as ever.
With deep affection and respect for the soldiers, Xiangyang Dolma participated in more than 30 condolence performances in less than a year.
I also went to areas where conditions were very difficult.
Her outstanding singing voice not only makes Dolma continue to step onto a new level, but also allows the industry to give her great attention.
Since 2009, under the creation of professional companies, Dolma has launched three cover albums in succession.
Although it contains songs that are familiar to the public,
However, the thick and rounded, full and smooth mezzo-soprano of Dolma brings different charms to the song.
It is under her wonderful interpretation that the old song also allows the audience to regain the "joy of first love".
Since then, Dolma has devoted a lot of energy to the cover of national songs, before and after, covering nearly a hundred songs.
Her highly malleable voice gives these songs new life and makes them love and reminisce.
Happy family
The progress of the cause has given Dolma better economic conditions.
When her personal income increased, her first thought was to give back to her family, "feeding back" her father and brothers.
Earning money, Dolma first rebuilt the house for the family, so that the old father could live comfortably and comfortably.
Then she bought big trucks and taxis for her brothers.
Let them have stable careers and don't have to run around for a living.
While taking care of her family, Dolma worked hard alone outside.
For a long time, there was no assistant to Dolma.
And the Tibetan performance costumes are relatively heavy, which makes the suitcase carried by Dolma much larger than others every time he performs.
Watching a little girl running back and forth alone with heavy luggage, many people who performed on the same stage felt very distressed.
But Dolma didn't care, after all, it was much easier than the previous days of carrying cement.
The years of suffering have created the character of Dolma,
It also makes her particularly "have ideas" when things happen, including her own marriage events.
Just when Dolma was trying to open up his singing career, fate also quietly came.
Once, when Dolma performed in Beijing, a friend organized a dinner party.
When he arrived at the hotel, his friend was worried that he would not be able to find it, so he asked one of his friends to meet him.
Looking at the strange man approaching, Dolma suddenly experienced a heart-pounding feeling.
The tall, burly man, Ding Zhenquza, worked as a documentary photographer on CCTV.
He and Dolma are fellow countrymen, authentic Khampa Hanzi.
After eating a meal at the same table, The heart of Dolma was tied to Ding Zhenquza's body.
While regretting that she had dressed too casually that day, she tried to find a way to go further with the lover of her dreams.
Not long after, Dolma couldn't help but call Ding Zhenquza and said, "I invite you to dinner." ”
Perhaps it was the several twists of fate that made Dolma understand that what he wanted was to be brave enough to chase.
Therefore, she directly and persistently chased After Ding Zhenquza, and did not hide her love at first sight.
Under her "sweet attack", Ding Zhenquza was successfully "taken down".
In 2014, Dolma and Ding Zhenquza held a grand and traditional Tibetan wedding in Litang.
As local celebrities, many people came to celebrate the descent of Dolma.
Finally, more than 1,500 people came to the wedding, and everyone gathered together, singing and dancing all night to bless a couple.
After marriage, the two trust and support each other in their common lives.
In her busyness, Dolma cherished family life especially, and as long as she was at home, she never let her husband into the kitchen.
And Ding Zhenquza also tried her best to take care of his wife and tolerate her little temper.
For Ding Zhenquza, as long as his wife, who has a thick and low voice, pinches her voice and calls "husband", it is a soft kimono.
In the five years after the marriage, Dolma gave birth to three children in succession.
She was immersed in the joy of raising her children and never gave up on her career.
Before every production, Dolma insisted on working until the last week, and when it came to this, she always said indifferently:
"We Tibetans don't have the habit of confinement."
Although Dolma is not "pretentious" about childbirth, she has not escaped the dilemma of women's physiology.
After a birth, Dolma suffered from postpartum depression.
She feels that her health and freedom have been deprived of her children, so she is very impatient with her children.
When it was difficult, her husband and mother-in-law were extremely considerate of her and accompanied her through those anxious days.
Later, her husband's stable mood made Dolma very recognizable, and she said that her husband was more able to take children than herself.
Sometimes I am too fond of my children, and my temper is too harsh.
But the husband has a uniform standard and can always grasp the degree of educating the child.
And like her husband's favor, dolma's mother-in-law took great care of her.
Married for many years, the mother-in-law has been working hard to help with the children.
And when dolma subsidizes his original family, his mother-in-law always responds with understanding.
Husband and wife have deep feelings, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, and the children are lively and lovely...
For Dolma, every aspect of her life is beautiful and smooth, which makes her very grateful for the status quo.
But in a happy and smooth life, Dolma occasionally has to deal with storms.
It was the year he entered the army that Dolma sang Dao Lang's "Love Song of the West Sea".
Under the interpretation of her charming voice, this "bitter love song" has a poignant expression.
The version she sang quickly "caught fire" on the Internet, and was once more widely circulated than the original version of Daolang.
So far, the "West Sea Love Song" sung by Dolma has been played nearly one million times on a certain station.
Later, the song was included as the main track on the cover album of Dolma.
And Dolma also had a good friendship with the original singer Daolang.
However, at the end of 2019, Dao Lang filed a complaint against Dolma in court.
His lawyer said that in the absence of prior authorization from Daolang, Dolma
In two commercial performances, he sang Dao lang's original works "West Sea Love Song" and "Tenderness in the Palm of the Hand".
Accordingly, the plaintiff demanded that Dolma stop the infringement of Daolang's original works and compensate accordingly.
Dolma responded to the lawsuit, but failed to provide stronger evidence.
In the end, the court ordered Dolma to compensate Daolang's side for economic losses of more than 250,000 yuan.
The infringement was first, and it was awarded compensation, and the defeat of Dolma in this case was reasonable and legal.
Since you want to make a profit, you must first respect the rules in the commercial society.
As a singer with a certain degree of popularity, he should have respected the creations of other musicians more.
However, this storm did not have much impact on the career of Dolma.
After all, after more than ten years of hard work, the professional ability of Dolma is excellent, and there are no black spots except for infringement incidents.
Therefore, Dolma still has a stable fan group, and is still a regular guest of major parties.
Relying on his achievements over the years, in May 2022, Dolma was elected vice chairman of the Tibetan Literary and Art Volunteer Association.
This is undoubtedly a great recognition of her artistic achievements.
Dolma cherished this honor, and she said that she would strive to become a better Tibetan literary and artistic worker.
Looking back on the hardships along the way, Dolma often said that he was accompanied by luck.
But she is not so much the darling of fate as the tide of the times.
From the poor girls in the depths of the mountains to the dazzling star singers on the stage.
In such a big leap forward, what has not changed is the courage and perseverance in the bones of Dolma.
It is precisely with these rare qualities that Dolma can grasp the gifts of fate again and again.
Then, all the way to go, all the way to sing, all the way to harvest.