Wen 丨 虞白
Editor 丨 賴賴爷
Shortly after the birth of their daughter Gao Yixin, Jiang Shan and Gao Shuguang participated in the program "Husband and Wife Theater" organized by Yingda.
At that time, in order to enliven the atmosphere, Indah jokingly asked: "If you two divorce, what will you do next?" ”
At that time, Jiang Shan and Gao Shuguang's feelings were just when they were full of affection, and they all laughed at the same time.
Both husband and wife said that divorce is a very distant thing for them.
After the end of the festival, Jiang Shan jokingly asked Gao Shuguang: "If we get to the day of divorce, my daughter will be in my care." ”
After Gao Shuguang listened, he said very angrily: "Don't say stupid things, we will not divorce."
I just didn't expect that the next year, Yingda's joke became not a joke, but a slur, and their marriage came to an end.
So, after the divorce of Gao Shuguang, how has his life changed? Ever regretted your decision?
01
In 1964, Gao Shuguang was born into an ordinary family in Shandong.
Like the children of other ordinary families, he spent a very ordinary adolescent time.
Gao Shuguang's family is not rich, coupled with his own lack of love to study, in order to help his mother earn money to subsidize the family, after graduating from junior high school, he entered a state-owned unit - light bulb factory to work, and began his career of working and earning money.
I have a job with an iron rice bowl, nine to five every day, and my life is very stable.
But after a long time, Gao Shuguang began to fall into confusion.
This kind of work, too idle, repeats a boring and boring life every day, and you can look up and see your future.
Gao Shuguang didn't like this feeling, he felt that he was very young, he had endless energy in his body, why waste his time on this boring thing.
Once, after Gao Shuguang left work, he opened the door with a weak spirit and was bumped into by a neighbor.
The kind neighbor, acting as a "confidant big sister", asks Gao Shuguang what problems have he encountered?
Gao Shuguang talked about his confusion and state of mind at that time.
The neighbor said happily: "You are so tall and your looks are not ordinary, you can consider acting." ”
After listening to the neighbor's suggestion, Gao Shuguang felt incredible, and in order to prevent mishearing, he carefully confirmed with the neighbor: "Acting? You mean, the people who made me the screen? ”
"Yes, you are in good condition in all aspects, you go and try it!" The neighbor grinned.
At that time, there was no television set, and movies were watched every five minutes.
Being an actor is an unattainable dream for Gao Shuguang, and it is also a strange thing, thinking that the neighbors are joking with him.
After the neighbor saw Gao Shuguang's expression, he solemnly told him that he was not joking.
After listening to the neighbor's words, Gao Shuguang couldn't sleep, lay on the bed, looked at the ceiling in a daze, and re-sorted his thoughts.
It seems that I have no other way but to be an actor.
If you don't change the status quo, you can only work in the light bulb factory, and like other colleagues, you will get married and have children at the right time.
The more he thought about it, the more Gao Shuguang felt that he could not be tripped by the real life of the present, and he had to break out of his own world.
The next day, after work, Gao Shuguang took the initiative to chat with neighbors and asked without shame.
That's when he really understood that as an actor, you need to learn a lot of things.
The more he talked to his neighbors, the more Gao Shuguang's dream of becoming an actor became, and the more brilliant and even deeply rooted he became.
After that, every day after work, he worked tirelessly to find neighbors to train him.
Before long, his neighbors swore that if he wanted to study systematically, he would have to get into drama school.
After listening to the words of his neighbors, Gao Shuguang began to prepare for the Shanghai Theater Academy in order to realize his dream of being an actor.
Although he experienced several ups and downs, Gao Shuguang got the admission letter of the Shanghai Theater Academy with his perseverance.
When Gao Shuguang entered the school, he was already older than his classmates, and when he graduated, he was almost thirty years old.
In 1993, he starred in the first TV series "Full of Stars" and began to emerge in the show business circle.
Since then, he has successively acted in two TV series, "Oriental Merchant" and "Chinese Flight Attendant".
Although the popularity is not high, the good villains have a firm foothold in the show business circle.
In 1995, Gao Shuguang participated in the TV series "I Want to Have a Home".
At that time, he played the male protagonist of this drama, and the female protagonist of this TV series was played by Jiang Shan, the dream lover of the public at that time.
At that time, Jiang Shan, because she starred in the youth love drama "Addiction", was popular all over the country.
Become a goddess in the minds of many otaku.
It was also that year that Gao Shuguang had more and more contact with Jiang Shan.
Jiang Shan's intellect and elegance attract Gao Shuguang, and Gao Shuguang's maturity and steadiness attract Jiang Shan.
In this way, the two of you came and went, and both fell in love.
At that time, Jiang Shan's popularity was greater than Gao Shuguang's, and the two careers were not on the same level.
Jiang Shan and Gao Shuguang's friends have expressed their disapproval of this "strong woman and weak man" love, suggesting that they break up.
But Jiang Shan and Gao Shuguang did not care, regardless of the eyes of others, still generously fell in love.
Shortly after the TV series "I Want to Have a Home", Gao Shuguang and Jiang Shan walked into the palace of marriage hand in hand.
After getting married, Gao Shuguang and Jiang Shan encountered the first problem that was the problem of living, and the two began to discuss.
Gao Shuguang lives in Shanghai and Jiang Shan lives in Beijing.
In order not to affect the feelings of both parties, Jiang Shan chose to make sacrifices for her family, and left Beijing without hesitation to start a married life with Gao Shuguang in Shanghai.
In 1998, Gao Shuguang and Jiang Shan's daughter Gao Yixin was born.
At this time, Gao Shuguang was 34 years old, and he was very excited to see the birth of his daughter, and in order to make his daughter and wife have a better life, he worked hard to support his family.
During that time, he starred in many film and television dramas, such as "Shadow Follows", "Extraordinary Love Network", "Principles" and so on.
The drama is very intensive, no less than 3 TV series per year, which can be called a model worker in the entertainment industry.
After becoming a mother, Jiang Shan put all her energy into the family and almost did not take over the role for two years.
It was not until 2000 that Jiang Shan began to make a comeback in the entertainment industry.
Both husband and wife are actors, often filming outside, and rarely take care of the family, so they give their daughter Gao Yixin to the nanny and the elders on both sides to take turns to take care of.
The husband and wife are often running around the crew all year round, so the time for the two to get together can be said to be countless.
Both are first-time parents of children, do not have rich parenting experience, but are for the sake of their daughter's health.
In response to the issue of their daughter's education, the two have different ideas, and they often fight each other.
Over time, as the number of quarrels increases, even the most beautiful feelings will disappear with the increase in the frequency of quarrels.
Considering the happiness of her daughter, I don't want my daughter to see her parents arguing.
In 2003, Gao Shuguang and Jiang Shan calmly divorced.
Jiang Shan did not make any excessive demands, only wanted to be with her daughter, and Gao Shuguang agreed.
After the divorce, the couple did not become enemies, did not do resentful couples, never said bad things about each other in front of the children, so that the children fully felt the love given to them by their parents.
At that time, Gao Yixin was only 5 years old and had no concept of divorce.
Thinking that Mom and Dad were only separated for a short time, thinking that this was very good, proudly thinking that "I have two homes, one in Shanghai and one in Beijing." ”
In order to make her daughter Gao Yixin feel full of fatherly love, gao Shuguang will go to Beijing to see her daughter as soon as she has time, or pick up her daughter to play in Shanghai.
Later, her daughter successfully went to primary school, and her classmates all knew that she was the daughter of Gao Shuguang and Jiang Shan, plus they all knew that Jiang Shan and Gao Shuguang's divorce, so they often bullied her and laughed at her.
In desperation, Jiang Shan discussed with Gao Shuguang to minimize the harm to her daughter, at least not to let her grow up in an environment of verbal violence.
In the end, it was decided to let Jiang Shan take her 9-year-old daughter to the United States to move.
In this way, Jiang Shan, who came to the United States, opened the life of a full-time housewife in order to let Gao Yixin grow up smoothly.
Gao Shuguang also opened the time when both sides of the United States at home and the United States ran to see his daughter.
Life went on like this, until my daughter went to college.
Jiang Shan began to return to China to shoot dramas, and Gao Shuguang was about to end his single life.
02
In 2013, Gao Shuguang attended a party organized by his good friend Wang Lin in Shanghai, where he met Wang Ling, a well-known figure in the business world.
Wang Ling's bold and generous personality attracted the attention of Gao Shuguang, making Gao Shuguang can't help but want to know more about others.
When the party was over, he anxiously asked Wang Lin about the girl.
From Wang Lin's mouth, it was learned that Wang Ling was a director of a caviar company.
Born in Shanghai in 1980, he is 16 years younger than Gao Shuguang.
Before Wang Ling met Gao Shuguang, she also had a failed marriage.
Ex-husband Zhang Cong, also a person in the business field, the marriage between the two has experienced nearly ten years, and it is a pity that they have not been able to continue.
Gao Shuguang, who learned about Wang Ling's information, although there were ripples in his heart, but thinking that he and Wang Ling's age difference was 16 years, there was definitely no common topic, so he poured out the small flame of liking people in time.
When Gao Shuguang mistakenly lived forever, Wang Ling did not want to admit her fate so much, thinking that age was not a problem, from Wang Lin to Gao Shuguang's contact information, she began to embark on the road of pursuing each other.
Even in order to make Gao Shuguang accept himself, he posted his divorce certificate without hesitation, and swore that he was serious.
It is precisely because of Wang Ling's actions that Gao Shuguang's fawns collide, and judging from his years of life experience, Wang Ling also has a good feeling for himself.
But when Gao Shuguang thought that the age gap between him and Wang Ling was too big, he was afraid that Wang Ling was on a whim, and when the passion passed, he would not be able to live together.
Can only choose to suppress this feeling, adopt the tactic of avoidance, and ignore the voices of others.
Gao Shuguang's retreat did not make Wang Ling retreat, but instead stimulated her desire to attack.
She still maintains frequent contact with Gao Shuguang, who also replied bluntly: "Our age difference is too big and inappropriate." ”
Wang Ling also replied domineeringly: "Then let time prove my love for you." ”
Once, while filming a war drama in a foreign country, Gao Shuguang fell down a hillside and injured his left leg. Wang Ling, who received the situation, rushed to the crew to take care of him without saying a word.
In 2014, Gao Shuguang's father was seriously ill, and he wanted to take the old man to Shanghai for treatment, but at that time, he had a new drama to shoot, and even if his parents were brought in, he did not have time to take care of it.
At this time, Wang Ling stood up again and helped Gao Shuguang take care of her parents.
Gao Shuguang was very touched when he saw Wang Ling busy for his parents in the hospital.
When Gao Shuguang returned home after filming, the old man hoped that he could accept such a good girl.
In this way, Gao Shuguang's heart began to waver, no longer clinging to the problem of age, but calmly facing his own intentions for Wang Ling.
In May 2013, coinciding with Wang Ling's birthday, Wang Ling, who loves life, pays great attention to the ritual sense of life, and consults with Gao Shuguang to put on a feast together.
In order to make Wang Ling happy, Gao Shuguang agreed and began to handle the matters of the birthday party with her.
But Heaven made a small joke for the couple.
At that time, there was a very good movie that found Gao Shuguang and let him participate.
After seeing the wonderful content of the script, Gao Shuguang began to get entangled.
In order not to embarrass Gao Shuguang, Wang Ling said happily: "You can go filming with confidence, my birthday can be moved to Dali, Yunnan Province, where I was filmed, without conflict." ”
When Gao Shuguang saw that Wang Ling was so understanding, he was moved to tears, turned around and silently prepared something for the marriage proposal, wanting to surprise Wang Ling on her birthday.
On wang ling's birthday, the scene was full of flowers, and Gao Shuguang, witnessed by many good friends, knelt down on one knee and confessed to Wang Ling: "Wang Ling, marry me!" Give me the rest of your life and become Mrs. Gao! ”
After listening to Gao Shuguang's confession, Wang Ling was surprised and delighted.
In Gao Shuguang's affectionate gaze, Dafang nodded her head in agreement, and in this way, she married herself off.
It is said that after the first time people fall on their heads, the second time they will be more cautious and serious.
Whether it is Gao Shuguang or Wang Ling, this sentence is vividly expressed, as long as there is time, the two will cherish the time and spend every minute and every second seriously.
Three months after marriage, Wang Ling became pregnant.
When Gao Shuguang heard the news of Wang Ling's pregnancy, he was so happy that he couldn't close his mouth.
For the arrival of this child, the couple is full of expectations and wholeheartedly prepares the child's clothes and toys.
In order to respect her daughter and share her happy events with her daughter, Gao Shuguang took Wang Ling to the United States to meet her.
Fortunately, Gao Yixin was very sensible and generously blessed Wang Ling and Gao Shuguang.
When Gao Yixin knew that he would have a younger brother in the future, he was very happy and asked Gao Shuguang and Wang Ling to often bring their brother over and play with her.
Before, Wang Ling was always worried about not handling her relationship with Gao Yixin, and after getting along, a big stone in her heart was finally put down.
Under the careful care of Gao Shuguang, Wang Ling gave birth to a little prince on Gao Shuguang's 52nd birthday.
Gao Shuguang, who has come to a good age, has announced his good news on social platforms in a high profile.
Gao Shuguang loves Jing, and Wang Ling loves to make trouble, which does not affect the feelings of the two of them at all.
It is precisely because the husband and wife, accommodating and considerate of each other, can live a picturesque life.
Let the feelings of the two people have been in a sweet state, envying others.
04
Nowadays, Gao Shuguang and Wang Ling's son is 6 years old, and Wang Ling's life focus has begun to favor her career, and she often goes to Gao Shuguang's crew to visit her class when she is free at work.
From Gao Shuguang's social platform, we can see that in each family portrait, Wang Ling's face is filled with the smell of happiness, which makes people envious.
Similarly, after divorcing Gao Shuguang, Jiang Shan's life is also very good.
In 2016, he announced that he was with Tian Xiaojie, and the two were also like young people, often posting sugar on social platforms, which was very affectionate.
05
Someone once said that the first marriage is to pay real feelings, and the second marriage is just a partner to live a life.
But judging from the stories of Gao Shuguang and Jiang Shan, in fact, whether the second marriage is happy or not is still in their own hands.
Their happiness is considered from the perspective of their own happiness, not to marry in order to wrong themselves and make up their own lives.
You know, a good marriage is a well-thought-out, hand in hand with each other, and spending the second half of your life without abandonment.
More importantly, if you want to have a happy marriage, you still need patient management, careful running-in and mutual tolerance.
Because of this, the feelings of the husband and wife can heat up and go further with each other.