Safe! Safe! Safe! Pay attention to safety!!!
Shredded potatoes began at the age of five and a half, and liked to go out alone in the community to find their friends to play. This was the beginning of the most important social action he was growing up with, and I'm very happy to see him take that step. Because this can not only exercise his courage, but also improve his self-management ability.
There are three very important points in a child's self-management ability:
1. Cultivate children to be independent
If children want to develop a very good independent ability, they can't just do some clothes and washes, eat, do housework, etc. in life, these are just basic life self-care ability, and we need to cultivate their sense of independence.
Children choose to go out and play alone, which is the growth of independent consciousness. Because he himself can think well about "I want to go out to play", "where can I go to play", "who am I going to find to play", "what I want to play", etc., he has his own needs and the ability to deal with problems on his own. If this valuable sense of spontaneous independence is developed healthily, it can think independently and act decisively when you grow up.
2. Respect your child's choices
Children are an independent individual, every day is constantly growing and changing, we need to have a dynamic vision, give them independent thinking space and their own choices. When the child puts forward his own ideas, for some unreasonable, parents do not rush to deny the child, but to guide the child to analyze. This can not only make children feel affirmed and respected, but also let children develop good habits of thinking, and will also form the ability to analyze problems in life, and slowly on some issues, children can also have their own ideas and practices, and become more independent.
Which friend the child plays with, and who he does not play with, are his own choices. He will have his own judgment ability, which child often bullies him, which child is very kind to him, he will definitely choose to play with the friendly child who is friendly to him.
3. Let your child make their own plans
Children who are not disciplined often do not have their own schedules. In ordinary life, children can know when to study, when to sleep, when to get up, etc.
When he goes out and plays alone, we can also let the child try to make his own plan. Which friend to play today, what game to play, what time to go home, etc., these play plans have been done for a long time, the child's self-management ability will be greatly improved, and in the future growth life, they can also arrange their own things in an orderly manner.
Before the second semester of kindergarten, when I came home from school, I was locked up at home, watching TV by myself, playing with toys (the family had bought a lot of blocks since he was two years old, and the fingernails of both of his hands were deformed by playing with blocks), or playing with potatoes after finishing his homework, and he never said that he wanted to go out and play with children. Lack of private communication skills with his friends, the ability to get along, I have always thought that he belongs to the introverted personality, social fear, think that he is also willing to stay at home every day, like me at home.
Potato shredded kindergarten is in the community, every time after school to pick him up, on the way he sees his classmates, will shout the names of classmates, greet classmates, warm I am a little embarrassed. Then every time I will be very surprised, is he not a social fear, at this time how to be so social cow, so not afraid of shy, so bold to greet classmates, which is very contrary to his previous performance of the cow sister ah (potato in the second grade of primary school before the personality is very introverted, super social fear. Since I was a child, when I saw classmates or people I knew on the road, she quickly hid behind me, pretended not to see the other party, and hoped that the other party would not see her, in case the other party greeted her, she also pretended not to hear). I also occasionally asked shredded potatoes if they wanted to go out and play with friends for a while, and each time he would refuse, saying that he just wanted to play at home.
Potato Silk has a classmate named Xiaoma, who lives in the same community, he belongs to the super community cattle, and many mothers and children in the community know him. Every time Xiao Ma is on the road after school, whether he meets a primary school student who is older than him or a kindergarten child, he will take the initiative to ask people if they want to play with him. But because the potato shreds came home early each time and had less time to go out, they had hardly met in the community except in the kindergarten, so the potatoes had never played with the ponies of the super community cows.
The potato shredded kindergarten class started next semester, and Xiao ma was on vacation at home because of dental problems and did not go to kindergarten. On the days when Xiao Ma students did not go to kindergarten, they played more freely in the community. One afternoon after school to pick up the potato shreds home, at the door of the building met the pony classmates and several two or three-year-old children playing (because at this point in time the primary school students and kindergarten children have not yet come home from class), the social cow's pony classmates immediately invited the potato shreds to play with him. Since that time, the potato shreds have turned on the switch that can go out and play by themselves, and through the pony classmates in the community, they have made a lot of friends, completely released themselves, and happily go out to play every day.
Shredded potatoes spend more time hanging out alone, and every day in addition to reminding him to pay attention to safety, there are many unimaginable things happening.
First, what to do if you are greedy and forget to go home
It is natural for little boys to be playful. Potato shreds play with friends every day, forget about themselves, can't see people in the dark, and don't go to daddy to find it, he is not willing to take the initiative to go home.
Because there are repeated instructions for shredded potatoes, you can only play with friends in the community, and you can't go out of the community; Be sure to go home when it's dark; When the children all go home, they must go home and so on. His range of activities has always been in the community, or in the homes of children. In order to facilitate the search for him, I have exchanged WeChat with his friends' mothers, and when he arrives, he sends a message to each mother before he comes home, asking if the potato shreds are at their house and asking them to help call him home. Shredded potatoes will also tell me about the floors of each friend's house, and I often string potatoes on various floors to catch him going home (and I didn't think about buying him a phone watch, I didn't want him to have premature contact and dependence on electronic products).
Second, when your mother comes to you, you must hurry home and not delay
This shredded potato was better executed, and every time he came home through other mothers, he would immediately go home without delay.
Third, go to the door to find friends to play, what to do if the friends are not at home
Once the potato shreds said to go to the pony classmates to play, at 6:30 p.m., the potato shreds have not yet come home, sent a message to the mother of the pony classmates to ask, replied that they were not at home, she took the ponies classmates out to play. I asked the other mothers again, and they all replied that the shredded potatoes were not there. By seven o'clock in the evening, the shredded potatoes had not yet returned home, and I walked around the neighborhood without seeing the shredded potatoes. I couldn't find anyone, and my heart was a little flustered. Fortunately, after that, Xiao Ma's classmate's mother sent a message to her, saying that the potato shreds were at her house. Pony is not at home, and Shredded Potato sits in his house waiting for him to come home and play with him (Pony's grandmother is at home). Oh my sweat! Hurry up and let him go home. It is another meal of repeated teaching, the next time you go to a friend's house, if the friend is not at home, you must go home immediately, immediately, and you cannot wait at someone else's house.
Fourth, you can't eat at a friend's house
Silver potatoes also have a relatively good relationship with Xiao Zhou in the community, and shredded potatoes often go to Xiao Zhou's home to play. A few times I asked the potatoes to go to Xiao Zhou's classmates to catch the shredded potatoes and go home, xiao Zhou's mother said that she had already made the rice of the shredded potatoes, and the potatoes would rush to pull the shredded potatoes home, because I was waiting for them at home. After knowing this, because I felt very embarrassed, I caused trouble to the other party's mother, and I kept repeatedly telling me that I could not eat at a friend's house.
Fifth, your friend's house is eating, and you have to hurry home
Potato once went to a child's house to catch shredded potatoes, and when she came home, she told me that someone else's family was already eating, and my brother was still playing alone. My mom, because she has set rules for shredded potatoes, can't eat at a friend's house. Well, this one he performed very well. But someone else's family was eating, and he was still around and didn't come home, and he didn't feel embarrassed or anything. Okay, I have to add another admonition, my friend's house is eating, you must, right away, go home immediately, not sit next to it.
Ah, the above are some of the small problems I am currently encountering, I hope that potato shreds have fun with friends every day and have a happy and happy childhood.