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Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12

author:The stars are poetry into wen

There is a genre among primary and secondary school students

That's the famous Grinding Pie

Especially when it comes to writing assignments

The children's grinding skills are simply the pinnacle!

Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12
Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12
Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12
Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12

In this way, 20 minutes of homework, a drag is a few hours! The father and mother are urging and roaring, and the fire is three times, but the child is not hurried, like an abbot

Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12

Sometimes, you have to clean up fiercely before the child can cry and finish the homework...

Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12

Why is the child so procrastinating?

Many parents think that the child's rubbing is because there is no concept of time, lack of concentration, and they heard that the time management tool "Pomodoro" is good, so they bought it for their children to use.

The result? Nothing works!

It's not that the method is not good, but there is no right medicine!

There are three major causes of procrastination, whether it is the concept of time, or attention, answering the question, it is only one of them, which belongs to the cognitive problem. Using measures against cognitive problems to solve the procrastination caused by physical or emotional causes is equivalent to wasted effort.

Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12

The three main causes of procrastination

If the child does not like to obey, the more procrastination, parents should be vigilant, the child may have emotional problems, which is deliberate procrastination!

According to the Psychology of Procrastination, children try to procrastinate homework, which is essentially a manifestation of "passive resistance". The more you criticize, the more afraid, anxious, disgusted, the more you want to "resist", in the long run, it will become a vicious circle...

While the child is still young, we must adjust the educational method in time to correctly and effectively help the child to correct the bad problems!

Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12

How to solve your child's procrastination problem?

We have to start from the psychological roots and let the child's state change from "I don't want to write" to "I want to finish it quickly".

Two common examples have been told:

As soon as you go home, you will urge homework, and the child will instinctively reject it in his heart, and then try to be lazy, causing procrastination!

It is better to take the initiative to let the child rest, and then eat some snacks appropriately, and chat with the child, which can not only help the child relax, but also enhance the parent-child relationship.

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Help children arrange time, "notify" children to add homework, will make children feel that "there is always no end to homework", "want to do less, you have to slowly grind".

Conversely, if you reward time and teach the initiative to your child, your child will be more and more efficient!

Love to play is the nature of children, we must encourage children to play freely on the basis of quality and quantity, complete homework on time, and children who can play will become smarter and better learned.

Children who are "often urged" and "never urged" live two lives after the age of 12

Parents should learn ahead of their children

Education is a systematic project that requires the joint efforts of parents, teachers and children. Children procrastinate, relying on these simple two tricks can not be completely solved, you have to find the right direction, develop a comprehensive set of improvement programs.

There is a saying that goes well: "There are no children who can't learn well, only parents who can't teach." Parents study hard, children can improve every day! ”