Text/Little Snow Mom
Unconsciously, the two-child policy has been liberalized for more than seven years, and even the third child has been more than a year old, what about those families who began to have two children in the first batch? Is it to meet the expectation of having a second child, or is there any new change in thinking?
You know, at the moment, when everyone talks about the topic of "second child", it is either sighing or sneering, anyway, the words are all about the second child is not a wise choice, so what is the feeling of the second child? Let's look down.
What is the current feeling of the first batch of families who want to have a second child?
Netizen A said: The first child in the family is a daughter, the second child just let go of that meeting, the mother-in-law gives birth to the second child every day, although the mouth says that taking advantage of the young regeneration, he also knows in his heart that the mother-in-law wants a grandson.
Although I don't want to continue to give birth, but I can't suppress my mother-in-law every day, the second child did give birth to a son, but the days of suffering also came, the mother-in-law who originally promised to take the baby, sick and uncomfortable can't help, I am alone with two children, that is called a tired, the key is that I can't go to work, the husband's salary is not high, the family has to be careful every month, regret having a second child.
Netizen B said: Originally after the first birth, did not plan to have a second child, but the accidental pregnancy husband persuaded himself to give birth, the family is not bad a child, pregnant with the second child when the body suffered from old sins, but also with the boss, that day is simply, but after the birth of the second treasure, the big treasure is also slowly growing up, the family will get better, and now the two children get along very well, but also quite harmonious.
Netizen C said: Now persuade people to "second child" must not be a true friend, after having the second treasure, really regret dying, although I love my child very much, but if I can, I really hope that I don't want a second child, two children are simply not brought by people, too naughty, a person can't take care of it at all, the mother-in-law and husband don't help, regret giving birth.
In fact, to have a second child, some families really like children, and the conditions in the home are not bad, and it is not too tired to have the help of the elderly, but if the family conditions are general, there is no elderly help, then the impact of the second child on the family will be very large.
These 4 kinds of families are not suitable for having a second child, don't blindly follow the trend
First, families with a weak family foundation and low family income
To put it bluntly, now raising children is "burning money", especially for second-child families, some families have a better economic situation, and there are deposits in the family with high wage income, so having two children can be taken care of, and having a second child will not affect the family's living standards.
But if there is not much savings in the family, and the wage income is not high or unstable, then the risk of having a second child is greater, after all, two children want to eat and drink and go to school in the future, there is no certain economic ability, it will only make the life in the family "worse", reducing the standard of living, but it is better to restrain the idea of having a second child.
Second, the preference for sons over daughters, the first child is the daughter of the family of the second child
For young parents now, basically there will be no idea of "son preference", boys and girls are the same, cultivated into talents will be very filial piety and appearance, but some old people, seeing that the first child is a daughter, began to urge the second child, the implication is self-evident.
But for this situation, it is not recommended to have a second child, if the elderly are too eccentric, it will hurt the growth of the child, and the feelings between the two children will also cause damage.
Third, the high school senior fights for the second child
Many young people are not too "cold" to the second child, but some middle and high-age families have the idea of having a second child, which makes people very puzzling, it has reached this age, Dabao has slowly grown into an adult, and the family has been very stable.
At this time, to have a second child, not only is it a question of whether your body can have a safe birth, but also that Xiaobao is too young, and his parents are older, who will manage the children in the future? Who cares about the problem of Xiaobao's growth? Be sure not to be impulsive.
Fourth, despite Dabao's opinion, he had to have a second child
Xiaoxue mother feels that if you want to have a second child, you must also respect the opinion of Dabao, because Dabao is also a member of the family, and should also have its own right to speak, if Dabao does not want a second child, does not want younger siblings to share the love of parents and mothers, then in this case, it is best to discuss with the child and then decide whether to have a second child.
Finally, what do you think is the biggest factor affecting the second child?
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