Life is not enough only the knowledge in books, that is a stereotypical truth, life is alive, it is rapidly changing. The principles of dealing with people in society, the attempts accumulated in life, and the folk customs and customs of various places all need to be practiced by people themselves. Among them, there are also rules and sayings that have been handed down from generation to generation.
These principles told by parents and elders, although simple and vulgar, contain the great truths of life. For example, the ancients often said that "men are afraid of persimmons and children are afraid of pears", in the literal sense that men cannot eat persimmons, women can not eat pears, such taboos may be very unreasonable in the eyes of modern people, but the deep meaning is indeed worth our careful taste.
Men are afraid of "persimmons" and plague the family
Persimmon in people's impression, in addition to being a sweet fruit, its characteristics are often used to extend, describing a person as a "soft persimmon", to indicate that a person has no responsibility, weak and not strong in dealing with things, such people act without principles in society and are easy to be bullied.
Men are the head of the family, as the pillar of the family naturally can not become a "soft persimmon", to protect their wives and daughters, to ensure their work, at any time can be weak, let others take care of. Such a man has no opinion and cannot achieve things, so he is often criticized. But in fact, such a person is not bad in himself, but caused by his inferiority complexion and his undecided style of action, do not be indecisive when things happen, and shoot when it is time to shoot, otherwise he will only miss the opportunity in vain and become the fish meat in the hands of others in the case.
In the last years of the Eastern Han Dynasty, Yuan Shao fought against Cao Cao, and Yuan Shao had an overwhelming advantage in terms of troops, grain and grass, and soldiers. However, Yuan Shao was indecisive, which was the most deadly for the strongest princes leading a thousand armies. In the Battle of Guandu, he swung left and right, did not follow the advice of the Xianchen, and after Cao Cao's surprise victory, the army was in chaos in an instant, defeated, and finally defeated. Whether to attack or not to attack, whether to defend or not to defend, and to be killed by the enemy's move between hesitations, such an ending is really regrettable.
In addition to describing men as "soft persimmons", this "persimmon" harmonic "four words", men are afraid of four words, "eating, drinking and gambling" can not be done. Although it is said that the prodigal son does not change his gold, how many prodigal sons in ancient and modern China and abroad have stepped into the land of eternal disaster once they are contaminated with this business of eating, drinking, and gambling. Such a bad behavior, do not test their strong psychological quality, think that just try, although the people's hearts are strong, but also the most easily tempted, especially men who have a family, not only harm themselves but also drag down the family.
Women are afraid of "pears" and have unhappy marriages
"Pear" is a common fruit in life, but it is not so simple for women. First of all, although "pear" has the effect of purifying the heart and purifying the lungs, it is cold. Women are already cold, and eating pears for a long time will have side effects on the body, so this pear is not suitable for long.com.
Secondly, when you say the word "pear", everyone will think of "departure", for ancient women, this matter will lead to a lifetime of misfortune. In ancient times, women were not as able to achieve freedom of marriage as they do now, and if it was not suitable after marriage, they could remarry. But in ancient times, there was no "divorce", only the process of repudiation.
In the ancient feudal society, once the wife was divorced by the husband, it would mean that the woman had done filial piety and cheated in the marriage. Theft and other shameful behavior. Even if it is only the discord between the husband and wife, or the husband's likes and dislikes of the old, but in the end it is the wife who is hurt by gossip, so this ancient woman was extremely afraid of divorce.
When a wife leaves her husband's house, she will not only be gossiped about by others, but if she has children, she will also be worried. Whether the child is doing well in the husband's home, and how to maintain the feelings of mother and child, these have become the problems that plague the wife. For these considerations, the wife prefers peace in the family than to leave.
brief summary
"Men are afraid of persimmons and children are afraid of pears" such a simple saying, but implies the ancients want to convey to the world of multiple meanings, the man in the family should be brave and responsible, do not become the "soft persimmon" in his population, away from the vices of eating and drinking prostitutes, so as to achieve a career and make a difference. Women not only need to eat less "pears" to maintain their bodies, but they are more afraid of the separation brought about by marital misfortune.
Such a short sentence, but the reality of life in the cold and warm, in the present we must deeply understand the deep meaning, the ancients such a life experience, although there is a deviation from our life, but the truth is worth recalling. In this way, it not only inspires life, but also allows us to take fewer detours and have a smooth life.