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"The house that my parents bought with pension money, only write your name?" This marriage is not married! ”

"The house that my parents bought with pension money, only write your name?" This marriage is not married! ”

01.

For a girl, what is the sense of security in the relationship?

I used to think I understood, but after this relationship, I found that I didn't understand.

Is it that I don't understand correctly, that I don't give the other person enough, or that she's too greedy?

A relationship that has been talked about marriage and marriage is over, and it is impossible to say that it is not sad.

But I also know that this relationship can only be over.

It was pure coincidence that my girlfriend Wang Lu and I went out one day for a birthday with a friend, and when we came back on a big night, we passed a lane.

The lights are very dim here, and no one passes by at night, so I took this road to cut a short way home.

Wang Lu was also for this reason, she hesitated for a while, or gritted her teeth and took this road, and then met a few drunks.

She was stopped and not allowed to go, and she was directly frightened.

Fortunately, I didn't take long to follow into this alley, and I helped her in time.

We met like this, and within a few days, she asked me to meet and said she would thank me.

This time I sat down and talked, and I found that I had a good feeling for her, not very pretty, but it looked comfortable, and the most important thing was that my voice was gentle and good.

I felt that she didn't dislike me much, and I began to pluck up the courage to pursue her and confess to her.

But at first she didn't promise me, but she didn't refuse, and I could feel that it wasn't because I helped her, she was embarrassed that she didn't refuse, but it was really as if I didn't have feelings for me.

She said she wasn't ready to fall in love now, so why wouldn't we both start with friends?

I didn't give up, asking her out often to meet up, coming out to dinner and watching movies, as the time we spent together increased.

Maybe it was because she was touched, or maybe she finally faced her emotions, and when I pursued her for almost a year, she finally nodded her head and agreed to my confession.

I was happy and broken, and I was getting better and better for her, and in love, our relationship has always been good.

But later my mother mentioned the strength, in fact, I have a feeling in love.

02.

Wang Lu looks pure, her voice is gentle, but she is very assertive, and no matter what she does in the relationship, she almost has the final say.

Some friends around me said that such a girl with such a personality was not suitable for me, but I didn't think there was anything wrong with her.

In my eyes, this is not a shortcoming, the so-called strong personality is different in my opinion.

In this way, after we were in love for half a year, I took her to my house to meet my parents.

My mother was very enthusiastic about her, and the two of them talked and laughed, which made me feel like I had become a family.

But the next day, my mother came to me and told me about her worries, saying that Wang Lu had a strong personality and might not be suitable for me.

I was quite puzzled at the time, because my friend had been with Wang Lu many times, she did not hide it, so my friend knew that it was normal.

But the day she and my mother met, she was always very docile and well-behaved.

How did my mom see that she had a strong personality?

I couldn't figure it out, but it didn't matter, I liked Wang Lu, and I couldn't listen to these words because I wanted to marry her.

Later, soon, the marriage was put on the agenda, and Wang Lu knew what the conditions in my family were.

There is only one house in the house, but the room is enough, so I have communicated with her, including when talking about marriage, I said that I would not buy a marriage house, and the bride price was slightly more.

At that time, I said to her, living with my parents, we don't have to do anything about housework, as long as we go to work well, how good. In the future, if you have the ability, you can buy a house and move out.

She also nodded in agreement, saying that it was very good that people were lively.

But a few days later, she suddenly proposed to buy a house, saying that her friends around her were advising her, and after thinking about it, she also felt that the big guys were not wrong.

03.

She said: Far and near smell, if there is no way, the mother-in-law or avoid the same roof, otherwise when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have more contradictions, it will affect the feelings of the husband and wife.

I admit that she has a point in saying this, and I am a little hesitant, and then she continues: without her own house, without security, she wants a house of her own when she gets married.

In this way, she is the hostess, not under the same roof as her in-laws, and always feels that she is sending people under the fence.

Although I can't accept her words, if you get married, you are a family, how can you send people under the fence. But looking at her annoyed face, I decided to seriously consider the problem.

I am not reluctant to buy a house, but I really don't have this money on hand, the bride price, wedding and other wedding process expenses, my savings are estimated to be very little.

To buy a house, it is inevitable that my parents will pay money, but my family is not very rich, my parents have this little money in their hands, they have worked hard all their lives to save, used for the future pension.

Once I used this money, my parents would have some physical condition in the future, but there was no money.

I was very embarrassed, within a few days I actually lost a lot of weight, my parents knew, the heart was broken, said I am really stupid, parents are for the good of their children, what is there to be embarrassed about.

My mother called Wang Lu and asked her to go with me to see the house, saying that she had bought a marriage house and got married early.

Wang Lu was happy and told me that even if it was small, it was his own house.

Later, a two-bedroom house was settled, the area is not large, but the room type is really good.

Wang Lu was really happy, and she was dancing with her hands, originally I thought that this house would definitely be bought, and we would definitely be able to get married.

But who would have thought that when I went through the real estate deed formalities, she suddenly asked me: Can I write my name on the real estate deed?

I didn't hear her clearly, I thought she was saying add her name.

I am willing to add a name, just as if it were my sincerity to her and this marriage.

I said yes, saying that it would be no problem to add your name.

I thought she would be happy too, that I valued her, and she said, instead of adding my name, just writing my name.

I was confused at the time, and asked her why after a while, but she didn't say anything other than to say that she had a sense of security and a guarantee for her.

Finally, I was asked: If you really love me, you will definitely agree, if you don't agree, you are not ready to live with me for a lifetime, then this marriage still does not have to be married.

04.

I was dumbfounded, and it was hard for me to believe that she would say the words "not married" so easily to this day, and for outrageous reasons.

She waited for my reply with a cold face, no matter how I communicated with her, it was useless, I was suddenly angry, why?

Where the money to buy a house came from, she knew very well, and she disappointed me with this request.

I finally sighed and said: This marriage is not married, this house will not write your name.

She turned around and left, and then the two of us broke off contact, she didn't come to me, I didn't look for her.

The relatives and friends around me who know the cause and effect are also very tacit and never mention Wang Lu in front of me, as if this relationship has not happened.

That's it, maybe we really don't have a fate, can't go to the step of marriage, and we are all right.

I'm just a little confused, am I being too calculated?

But I really can't do it, the house bought with my parents' pension money, only write the name of my girlfriend. You say.

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