I don't know when "loneliness" became a derogatory term, and it always reminds people of bad things. Even adults have a hard time suffering the consequences of loneliness for a long time, which will consume the mind and smooth out the happiness of the heart. What about young children? So parents don't like their relationship with loneliness.
But there are some children who seem to be used to being alone and enjoy the pleasure of being alone. For their performance, parents are really difficult to understand, looking at the small lonely figure, it is inevitable to worry. In the eyes of parents, children who like to be lonely are either of bad personalities or excluded by others...
But in fact, if you look at it from another angle, you will find that loneliness is not so terrible. Many times, parents habitually have preconceived notions, which will produce not-so-good ideas. Solitude and personality have a certain relationship, but not necessarily the bad side of parents.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to make children cheerful, but it is also common for people to accept their loneliness. I hope that parents can understand: each child's nature is different, they have their own favorite lifestyle, as an outsider's parents, can not in the name of caring for their children, arbitrarily deny the children's ideas.
It is said that everything is a double-edged sword, behind the solitude, what benefits are hidden?
First, concentration is better
Being alone and doing what you like will make your child quiet inside, have more time and energy to think and be themselves. Slowly, parents will find that their concentration is particularly good, obviously better than other children. This is because the child is quiet and enjoys all this in the process of being alone.
In the future, when it comes to learning, concentration will also become the biggest advantage, helping children learn more knowledge and improve their own abilities. And dedicated children, their self-discipline is very strong, it is also very helpful for future work.
Second, the imagination is richer
I remember reading a sentence before: Every genius teenager has an imagination beyond ordinary people. It is precisely because of this unique imagination that more miracles have been created. Yes, imagination is the premise of children's continuous progress, urging them to use their hands and brains to do what they dream of.
Maybe the child's imagination is a bit wild, or even a little fanciful, but what does it matter? As long as the child is willing to work hard for it, maybe these unrealistic dreams will one day become a reality?
Third, the independence is stronger
Many people say: Contemporary children are a generation that is spoiled by their parents and will not do anything. Yes, children who are overly spoiled by their parents do have a strong dependence and always want to use their parents' ability to do things. But children who are alone are different, they are accustomed to being alone, and naturally they are accustomed to not relying on others.
Therefore, being alone will give children super independence. From an early age, they are used to doing their own things without anyone's help. This superpower will provide more favorable conditions for the child's future success.
Written in the end: In this way, there are many advantages to being alone. Of course, we must first eliminate the child's personality problems, after all, being bullied and excluded is also real. As long as the child's physical and mental health is ensured, then parents should not bother and leave more time and space for them.
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