What is the best parent-child relationship?
I asked a lot of mothers around me, and their answers were also various, but they could not be separated. In the final analysis: in the relationship between parents and children, the best model is mutual respect, fatherly kindness and filial piety. Children do not have to worry about being reprimanded, parents do not have to be overly anxious, and everyone uses the most comfortable posture to be themselves.
Such a parent-child relationship, I believe everyone must be very envious. However, the number of families that really do it is very few, most of the families are "chicken flying dog jumping", especially during homework time, the whole corridor can hear the parents' scolding, as well as the children's crying.
Over time, each parent has accumulated a set of parenting concepts that are specifically used to deal with their own "bear children". Parents' thinking is simple, as long as the child is obedient enough, as for what educational method, it is not so important. Therefore, many families take a relatively strict approach and feel that this is more directional.
There are even many parents who adhere to the principle of "saying one thing without saying two". Parents have an absolute right to speak in family life, and children can only obey and do it. Suffice it to say that such a strict and strong parent can hardly teach excellent children, at most, they can only be considered obedient machines.
Relatively speaking, parents who know how to show weakness in education can teach better children. These parents are smart, they know how to get along with people, and it is important to respect and equality. The same is true between parents and children, if you blindly use identity to suppress children, it is easy to limit their development.
Learn to show weakness and let the child bloom quietly.
First, in terms of life, we know how to show weakness
The best love is to teach children to grow independently, not to do it all. Therefore, in terms of life, parents should know how to show weakness, and give the choice and decision-making power to their children. Quite simply, the central idea is "do your own thing, do it yourself", and parents should not interfere too much.
Even if the child wants to seek help, it is necessary to decide according to the situation, such as eating, dressing, cleaning up toys and other trivial things, parents still have to refuse.
Second, when encountering difficulties, know how to show weakness
It is undeniable that the ability of parents to accept difficulties, as well as solutions, is much better than that of children. But all this stems from the long-term accumulation of life experience of parents, and the child is only temporarily defeated at a young age. Therefore, when encountering suffering again and needing to make decisions, ask parents to learn to show weakness.
Quite simply, as long as the parents give in appropriately, the child needs to make a decision. Regardless of right or wrong, as long as you can stay in danger and actively find countermeasures, you have already won.
Third, in terms of learning, we know how to show weakness
What parents are most worried about is nothing more than their children's learning problems. When encountering difficult problems, many parents habitually help their children solve them, which is not right. Simple problems that parents can help solve; will they encounter greater problems in the future? Do parents also have to help their children solve it?
It is better to show weakness at the beginning and guide children to find answers alone, which is a good educational strategy. Because of the study habits, they need to be cultivated from an early age.
Parents should understand that showing weakness is not bowing down, and it is not bottomless connivance. Instead, through the education method of showing weakness, the child's inner potential is stimulated, so that he has more courage to "fight" with life. Especially for boys, the weakness of their parents will make them more fulfilled and responsible.
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