Author: 43rd floor editorial department Xiao Zi
Source: Mom.com Parenting (ID: mmwyuer)
In the past two days, three videos have been circulated across the Internet, and everyone is angry.
Behind the video, the fate of three mothers and 6 children also makes us sad.
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Family one
Only the man who will nest horizontally and the mother who stops the loss in time
On April 14, in Chaohu, Anhui Province, a video of a man abusing and beating a baby fermented across the Internet.
At first, a baby of about seven or eight months was sitting quietly in a dining chair eating.
Suddenly, the man next to him first threw the plate, grumbled, and then suddenly pressed the baby's forehead, and the baby began to cry out in panic.
The child's crying angered the mother on the side, and she stood up and argued with the man theory.
But the man did not dare to face the woman, but went straight to the baby, spread the gas on the child, slapped the child twice in a row, and roared angrily in his mouth:
"Cry, cry again? Crying again? ”
When she saw that the child was beaten, the woman who was stunned for a few seconds stood up and began to resist the man, but the man was even more excessive, forcibly twisting the child's head back by more than 90 degrees, pinching the neck, covering the mouth and nose, for up to 17 seconds!
The woman took out her mobile phone to call for help, but in the interval, the man once again grabbed the child's neck and shook wildly.
The baby, who was tightly strangled by the throat, began to blush and blacken his face, and there was no sound in an instant.
After the woman dialed the phone, the man was still strangling the child. The woman angrily yelled at the man: "Let go! Finally, under the woman's constant pounding, the man let go of his hand.
After the man let go, the baby was relieved for a long time before he was able to breathe and cry, and then the woman left the table with the child in her arms.
On April 16, the Chaohu City police issued a notice that the man and woman in the video were husband and wife, and it was the biological child who was beaten.
Some netizens said that the reason why the video flowed out was because the child's biological mother and friends complained, and the video was forwarded by friends.
Because of the bottoms, this abusive baby man even committed suicide and jumped off the building.
The in-laws quarreled, and the man did not dare to look at the wife in the whole process, but vented his dissatisfaction with the wife to the toddler who had no counter-bargaining power.
After being exposed to bad deeds, they dare not admit their mistakes in public, and they feel that they have no face and will commit suicide?
"The brave are angry and draw their blades to the stronger; the cowardly are angry, but they draw their blades to the weaker."
Because babies are weak,
He can't express, can't run, won't resist;
So it became the sandbag that this cowardly man bullied.
Such a man is typical —
Bullying the soft is afraid of hard, and only dares to nest horizontally.
According to the "kick cat theory", those who commit domestic violence against the weak are often the most incompetent cowards.
The more I like to pretend to be a grandson outside, the more I like to go home and pretend to be a grandfather.
Hitting your own family is the most fierce, and when you meet outsiders, you become a soft egg, so you can only bully the weakest baby.
Thankfully, there are rumors online that the mom has decided to divorce and fight for custody of her children.
If it is true, I hope that she and the child will be safe and joyful for the rest of their lives.
The thought of parents not having to go through exams is terrifying.
The child is too young to speak, so it is up to us to speak for him ——
You gave birth to a child,
But it doesn't mean he's your plaything.
It's a responsibility on your shoulders.
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Family two
A man who cheats on domestic violence and a full-time mother of three children
Children, can not tie up men, only the mother is tied up.
On April 17, in Nanning, Guangxi, in the middle of the night, the cries of three children attracted neighbors and property managers.
A man in shorts and bare arms beat his wife to the face of his three children, covered in blood.
And when the property came forward to mediate, the man still did not forgive, once again pulling and pulling at his wife and children, and even shouted:
"It's our housework, you don't have to take care of it."
At first, the neighbor thought that it was just an adult training a child, but as the scolding and crying became louder and louder, the enthusiastic neighbor felt that something was wrong, and only after checking it out did he find the woman's tragic condition.
His whole body was soaked in blood and he was almost unconscious.
The finger was also broken and fell in mid-air.
He was also holding a 10-month-old child.
Every time there is domestic violence, someone always says:
A slap does not make a sound, and the woman's estimation has not done a good job!
Is it true? No.
This woman is extremely diligent and virtuous.
Having given birth to three children, she took care of her baby day and night, and took good care of her family every day.
However, this man did not know how to cherish, not only raised xiao san outside, but sometimes poured anger on the three children, and even beat the children.
"Why did such a man give him three children?"
I believe that many people see this and have such doubts.
Guardian of liberation west 2 has a similar stay-at-home mom:
Before giving birth, she was a beautiful little sister, but in order to give birth, she did test tubes, resulting in a bloated figure.
After the birth of the child, it is for the child and the family, 24 hours a day, resulting in the former appearance is no longer there.
Unexpectedly, the dog-like husband spent his days drinking outside, and even entered the bureau for the sake of the little three fights.
After hearing the news of her husband, she immediately rushed to the police station. In the surveillance video, she saw enough footage to break herself down for the rest of her life.
My husband and the young woman cuddled and cuddled, and I was qingqing.
In the end, he even provoked trouble, and became angry and red-faced.
I thought she could leave after watching the betrayed surveillance. However, this poor mother still bent down and begged for forgiveness from the injured person on behalf of her husband.
The injured man was puzzled: "Your husband, tell him to come himself!" ”
The mom said:
I don't know where he is, he just doesn't come home sometimes.
Every day, my energy is focused on watching children, and I can't leave my body at once.
Either way, I hope you'll forgive him, after all my baby is only nine months old.
Looking at this aggrieved mother, the injured person could not bear to pursue it again.
But what about the husband? From the beginning to the end, he didn't look at her squarely.
"I don't want my children to be deprived of paternal love from an early age."
This is an important reason why many wives finally seek perfection when they encounter violence and betrayal.
There is another reason for this:
The above two are full-time mothers, and there is no capital to escape at all.
Men will become more and more sleek and confident in society, socializing, and sociable; but what about housewives? You can only go to three o'clock, home - school - vegetable market, 24 hours around the stove.
Over time, the gap between you will become wider and wider, you will become more and more inferior, and he will look down on you more and more.
Marrying a scumbag and sometimes refusing to let go is actually very much like an investor holding a falling stock and waiting for a miracle.
Divestment? Sometimes it's better to keep "investing" in it.
Because she knows that once she withdraws, she will lose all her money, because she has no "capital" in her hands.
But both cases tell us —
For a cheating man, don't believe he can "turn back the prodigal son." ”
Especially, when you were a housewife.
The only thing you can rely on is yourself.
Independence is always a compulsory course for every woman, a lifetime.
No one will be the safe haven you think you are in this life and this life.
Only you are your last refuge.
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Family three
A lounging soft rice man and an independent second-child mother
In the face of "scumbags", there really can be no fluke mentality.
Even independent and excellent women will be pulled into the abyss by such scum.
On April 1, Huang Ning (pseudonym) in Anhui Province was beaten by her husband at home and seriously injured his head, and died after being sent to the ICU for rescue for five days.
At the time of the crime, in front of his 8-year-old daughter, he pressed his wife to the ground and slammed her head, chest and other key parts with his fist.
The cause is simply because Huang Ning looked at the mobile phone after work, and the husband suspected that his wife was chatting with the opposite sex.
Seeing his wife dying, he felt that the situation was not right and called 120 first aid. After the doctor arrived at the scene, he immediately carried out first aid to Huang Ning, and considering the seriousness of the situation, the medical staff called the police on the spot, which was exposed.
Unfortunately, Huang Ning, who lived in the ICU for 5 days, still passed away. According to the death certificate:
Death due to subarachnoid hemorrhage and acute cerebral hernia.
Huang Ning has been optimistic and excellent since childhood, married to her current husband for 9 years, and has given birth to two daughters, one 8 years old and one 4 years old. Usually, people who know her are full of praise for her.
After marriage, she independently ran a women's clothing store, and this is also the source of all the income of this family.
Compared with Huang Ning's hard work and optimism, her husband always does not do his job, basically three days of fishing and two days of drying nets, usually relying on games to practice to make a little money.
In terms of major events, this family still depends on this woman, which is not until March this year, the husband also begged Huang Ning to pay him 30,000 foreign debts for him.
Because her husband is lazy and lazy, coupled with the scolding and grinning of her small, and the abuse of domestic violence in the big, Huang Ning has always wanted to divorce.
Unfortunately, I was persuaded to do so.
Because her father died early, and she was led by her mother with 6 siblings, she knew the pain of missing her father's love, so she didn't want her two children to be like herself, so she put up with it.
In the face of the wife's bitter heart, the husband did not appreciate it at all.
Suspicious, in order to monitor his wife, he not only installed cameras in the clothing store, but also located his wife's mobile phone.
This man usually loves to play a little clever, do good things to catch up with the child, and let his wife carry the pot when things are bad.
High is not successful, low is not enough, never willing to do a thing down-to-earth.
Because of his own uselessness, his wife's talent and appearance have become his "nail in the eye" and "thorn in the flesh".
Huang Ning's tragedy reminds me of a man surnamed Huang in "Gold Medal Mediation".
He devoted his life to only three things:
Eat soft rice, domestic violence against wives and children, and cry out for divorce every day but never leave.
The family opened a factory, felt that the work was hard, became a hand-throwing treasurer, the wife turned a loss into a profit after painstaking management, and when she saw that she had money, she immediately jumped to her feet:
"I also have a share of the factory, and you give me at least six thousand a month."
Of course, his wife did not want to, so he made trouble from home to the factory and scolded his wife from morning to night.
He also said with grievance:
"I make trouble because I don't have the right. I beat my wife, blame her for being too domineering, I was completely forced. ”
In order to alleviate family conflicts, the wife finally chose to go to the beauty industry. At this time, Mr. Huang was unwilling again.
"This mother-in-law, who has not been at home all day, and what kind of beauty she is engaged in, must be trying to engage in wild men outside."
In order to force his wife to go home, he killed a series of calls every day, hourly videos, and even took his son out of the door and locked his son out...
Once, when his wife was receiving training, Mr. Huang also directly broke into the company, and in full view of everyone, he grabbed his wife's hair from behind and dragged it out for tens of meters.
On television, he cried and said:
"I beat her for fear that she wouldn't want me, she didn't want this home."
At the beginning, the two were more than ten years apart, and the woman was because she wanted him to be good, so she married him despite the opposition of the people around her.
As a result, I did not expect that before marriage, it was all disguise, and after marriage, I exposed my nature.
Did you find it? These two gentlemen belong to the same kind of people -
Incompetent, but also grumpy.
A family lives a life, men are idle is a big problem, and all day long suspicious of ghosts, domestic violence is even more disaster.
In the face of this kind of man, do not have a "fluke mentality".
If you feel that men are married, have children, and have family burdens, men will fight for their own "flesh and bones".
That would be a big mistake!
In the interview, Huang Ning's sister told reporters with great grief:
"What I regret the most is to persuade my sister not to divorce."
So, if you meet such a man, be sure to stay far away as soon as possible.
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Men are afraid of entering the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man.
When getting married, really don't look for people who look honest and controllable, but find people with valuable qualities.
Honestly, it could be a disguise of cowardice or incompetence.
The weak will only extend their fists to women and children.
Finally, I would like to remind you that when you are experiencing domestic violence, you must remember:
"Even if the other party converges for a while and becomes gentler,
This is likely to be only a temporary honeymoon period,
In the future, domestic violence is entirely likely to occur again. ”
You have to protect yourself.
"The current state of affairs may develop into homicides in the future.
Now, what you should think about first is:
The personal safety of you, your children, your family.
Next, you'll have two options:
Is it to apply for huddle protection or to keep him in jail this year.
There is no institution of marriage that promises happiness to a person,
But there should be institutions in place where extreme misfortunes can be avoided.
I hope that the law will severely punish these three "scumbags" for us.
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