In the face of betrayal, is it to redeem or give up?
From the child's point of view, of course, you can choose to forgive, because the child will lose the mother's love without the mother, and some children will hate you and drive his mother away.
But the betrayal of marriage is the most unacceptable for every man,
Your wife's cheating is like a needle, like a thorn, all the time stuck in your body, can't be pulled out, uncomfortable and irritable.
The more irritability, the more it will affect your marital feelings.
Sometimes betrayal is really helpless, and it will involve the happiness of the child and the atmosphere of the family.
Leave a family without peace.
From the child's point of view, it can be forgiven.
From the perspective of marriage, it is unforgivable because she violated the morality of marriage, narrow-mindedness, frog at the bottom of the well, and failed to fulfill the responsibility of a good wife and mother.
In fact, you did not forgive her, but also depends on how you choose, but also depends on how the woman to dissolve her improper relationship, and whether the attitude toward betrayal can change.
In fact, the problem of forgiveness is not a problem of looking at the husband alone, but also depends on whether the woman is honest enough.
If a woman will change her mind and become a person again,
It also makes sense for men to choose to forgive.
If a woman has always been obsessed with betrayal, even forgiveness does not mean much. If a woman is obsessed with betrayal, the man has always chosen to forgive her mistakes, which will not only hurt the man's self-esteem, but also devalue the value of the man.
Which betrayals can be forgiven and which betrayals are to be bravely abandoned?
For the sake of marital happiness, we must judge correctly.
Let's take a look at which situations are in line with forgiveness and which are brave to give up.
first.
Grumpy, often with domestic violence.
For grumpy, often domestic violence behavior, I think there is no need to stick to it, once there is a domestic violence, if you do not take measures, there will be countless domestic violence.
It doesn't make much sense for domestic violence marriages to persist.
How you hold on alone will not help.
Once can be forgiven, if it appears more than twice, the marriage is basically at the end of the road.
You don't think about domestic abusers turning back, it is difficult for people with impulsive personalities to change their behavior.
Domestic violence and betrayal, from the perspective of psychological analysis, the person who is domestic violence has many internal problems, his heart is very confused, his willpower is very weak, and he likes to be impulsive in doing things.
So if you want to live a little better, you should take up the legal weapon to protect yourself.
Leave early, get strong early, don't let yourself be within the scope of others, you just have to take the first step, the road ahead is unimpeded.
I once had a colleague who married away from home, and it was very good at the beginning, and the second year after giving birth to the child, it was always going downhill.
In the past two years, there has never been a quarrel, all of which are let the husband, as long as it is a little uncomfortable in life.
Her husband's temper was thunderous, and he either beat people with his hands or scolded him very badly.
He lived like a slave, lived a very humble life, and completely lost himself.
However, this can not blame others, but to blame themselves at that time was too young, too little experience, did not listen to their parents, are bent on marrying so far.
Now that the family has a contradiction, there is no confidant around me who can help me isolate and helpless, and I also thought that I would always sleep in bed and not wake up, thinking that this was the best ending.
I also thought about divorce, and if I filed for divorce, I would basically be crippled by my husband. The thought of spending all day in her absence, hiding in a corner and washing her face with tears.
I haven't been home to see my parents for five years since I got married, and my heart is particularly painful.
Finally I couldn't help it and explained the situation to my brother and brother.
With the help of my loved ones, I took up the weapon of the law to protect myself and try to make myself less tortured and hurt.
In the end, I bravely chose to give up the marriage – on the day of the divorce, although I shared a little less property, I didn't care about it.
I am finally free now, and liberation may be the best ending for me.
In fact, divorce is not only a relief, but also a new beginning,
For her, divorce is not only a relief, but also the beginning of a new life.
During this time, I also thought about a lot of truths, so I suggested that the girls try not to marry too far.
I'm with my daughter, and I'm not going to get married either, because at my age, divorced boys are basically hard bones to gnaw on.
I don't want to be hurt twice, first do a good job in my career, let my economy be sufficient, and live the most wonderful self.
Then raise the daughter, and when she is old, she will support herself. Anyway, there will always be a way to solve their own pension problems.
I am living a very good life now, and my life is also very happy. Therefore, for families who often have domestic violence, it is not to choose silence, but to choose to give up bravely, and liberation is the greatest happiness.
second.
Why a woman cheats, she will choose to give up bravely.
Normal people know that there is no real feeling in marriage and infidelity.
But why do many women still choose to cheat?
Women do not get the love of their husbands, especially easy to be confused,
Fantasize about extramarital feelings in the case of marital disharmony.
Therefore, women lack love in marriage, and they are most likely to be deceived and seduced, resulting in the illusion of extramarital feelings.
Especially if couples lack communication, such couples are prone to contradictions, and like to take shortcuts in the middle when there is a problem. Especially when meeting a man who pursues her outside of marriage, women will completely be unable to distinguish the true face of extramarital affairs.
Extramarital affairs are like this, and once you get caught up, it's hard to get out.
Most of the betrayal of women is because the husband and wife have bad feelings, and it is also a dissatisfaction with marriage.
So there must be emotional exchanges between husband and wife, when encountering problems, timely communication, marriage is a matter of two people, do not think that spending money to marry a wife, the wife is your slave.
Now is a society where men and women are equal, don't let your marriage fall into an unbearable situation, if you hurt a woman's heart, a woman's life in marriage is miserable, women will bravely choose to give up marriage,
Willing to fall into self-depravity, you will not come back to you from the new. Therefore, cherishing the life of the moment is the way to get it.
Editor's Note.
If you encounter these situations in your marriage, you have to work hard to change your principles, and you must add a safety lock to the marriage. Only by giving women enough security, your marriage will not have a betrayal situation.
When there is a sense of crisis in marriage, the first thing you have to consider is your own reasons, rather than obsessively trying to save each other.
Don't fantasize that two people can overcome difficulties, solve problems, and then work together, the feelings have such a big rift, it is almost impossible to get back together.
Unless you're bent on changing the family's mind.
You have such a great willpower, it is better to do what you like to do, play it to the extreme, the future will definitely bring unexpected gains,
As long as you persevere, you will be able to be happy.
Improve yourself and make yourself better! If keeping a marriage doesn't affect you getting better, even for the sake of your children, you can choose to keep your marriage.
If the endless will hurt yourself and seriously hinder your own happiness, your brave choice of liberation is also the best way.
But it is a personal matter to divorce, and I will not be clearly guided about this article, because marriage is a big thing, not a child's play, and involves too many things.
Divorce you have to look at the actual situation, this article is for reference only,
My attitude must not be ambiguous, my core meaning is "not recommended to redeem nor recommend forgiveness", many things husband and wife jointly discuss to solve the problem, what others say, in front of you is not necessarily useful.
For the sake of family harmony, take a step back from the sea and the sky.