A blogger on Weibo received a private letter from a reader about a girl working as a kindergarten teacher in a private kindergarten.
The core content of her letter is that she recently fell in love with the father of a newborn child in the park and wanted to dig a corner to replace him.
At present, she has taken some active offensive measures, such as adding WeChat, verbal provocations, but the results are not good, so "humbly" asked the majority of netizens whether there is a better way.
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Posts like this have always been looking for scolding posts, and netizens have never been stingy about offering their own hot words.
At first, I felt like a fishing sticker that attracted traffic, because I had seen similar stories in other spit bloggers before, and then I saw that the little girl also attached a photo, which felt a little more authentic.
Although the bo main body coded the little girl on the ground, from the blurry image reflected from the elevator panel, the little girl should be considered beautiful and lovely, and it is not too much to say that she is like a milk tea sister.
Why attach photos? This move is actually very meaningful.
She wanted to tell everyone with photos, "I look so good, I am absolutely qualified to match such a good man." She felt that appearance was a girl's greatest advantage and weapon, and she should be invincible, and now that she had failed, she was very puzzled.
In the face of such a naïve girl, I have long been very calm, there is no desire to spray her at all - spray is useless, and those netizens who are enthusiastically advised in the message can only play a counterproductive role, which further arouses her competitive spirit.
This girl is in a very childish stage of life, like a small child, seeing a beautiful thing, she wants to take it for herself.
This state of mind is not love at all, just the desire to possess.
She didn't really know anything about this man, what she liked, on the surface, was his handsomeness, but what actually impressed her most was the temperament and state of this man in marriage - his performance of his children and wife was in line with the standards of a good man in her mind.
So she felt that by replacing his wife with herself, she could possess him and get the happiness she imagined.
And what to do with a happy marriage? Or what does it take to attract a man from his beloved wife and children?
Beautiful, young, fresh. Nothing else.
It's the ignorant who are fearless.
She was so ignorant of marriage that a married man, deeply influenced by his marriage, now seemed to him to be gentle and radiant, and the partner behind him must have played a crucial role.
A good relationship will make people show the best appearance, like the water grass swaying in the fish tank, the water spirit is very beautiful, that is because there is an environment to nourish it, take it out, dry it, and immediately there is no charm at all.
I wrote in my book "Help You See Married Men" that two people in a marriage are built into each other, infiltrated into each other, and finally mixed together, no longer simply her and her.
"Compared with many hairy boys, the biggest advantage of a married man is not money and status, but after the baptism of marriage, he understands women's psychological patterns and emotional needs better, and understands women's weaknesses and weak links." This is the most lethal weapon for the conquest of women.
Wives are their best schools and teachers, and even the worst marriages have negative teaching materials to learn, and they have been rehearsed in their wives and have passed through the stage of youth and childishness. ”
The happiness she wants cannot be achieved by simply abdicating one woman, ascending to the throne by another woman, and keeping life as it is.
Take her off of him, and he won't be who he is now. She replaced her, and he couldn't be the same as she was.
Digging the foot of the wall is actually not difficult at all, isn't there a quip on the Internet? "As long as the hoe is thrown firmly, no corner cannot be dug." Women take the initiative to attack, open up without face, rely on stalking, and often be able to get their hands on it.
I'm not unconfident in men, I'm not confident in human nature.
What's more, most men take different standards when dealing with love and marriage, what they want when they are in love is passion, marriage is stability, and when a woman uses passion to pry stability, it is often passion that wins.
But when it comes to divorce, the need for stability overwhelms the desire for passion.
Men don't mind playing, but they are afraid to hurt their bones and worry about threatening existing interests.
So by the time she tried to seduce a married man, she had fallen into a paradox:
If he is as responsible as you think, he will not be seduced by you, you are doomed to disappointment; once he chooses to be with you, it will inevitably show that he is not the kind of good man you imagine, what use you want him to have.
Whether he succeeds or fails, a man who covets someone else's home is a very risky and stupid act.
The famous beauty Hu Yinmeng once had a relationship with a married man, and later she saw through the essence of the relationship between them, but the man tried to break the cage of self-limitation through extramarital affairs.
"He thought that marriage was his shackles, and he wanted to have personal freedom while wearing this shackle, but the result was like countless men and women, no matter how he searched, the person who was most related to him was still his marriage partner, and the shackles of the self were still on his head."
In the end, they broke up peacefully, and the man chose to return to the family, "He must find out through me that he and his wife are inseparable, and their relationship is worth continuing to work hard." ”
This is a very typical male extramarital affair, and many girls who claim to be able to conquer married men through beauty and youth will inevitably end up with a sad result.
It's easy to seduce men's desires, but it's hard to maintain long-term healthy relationships, and those girls are not mentally prepared for it, they only see thieves eating meat, not thieves being beaten.
While helping many girls who fall in love with married men analyze their psychology, I also found an interesting fact that men who are happily married are more likely to trigger their desire to conquer than men who are unhappy in marriage.
Just like this kindergarten teacher, knowing that people are affectionate and affectionate, they still can't stop her desire to do it.
There is a very private complex in this, they actually want to be a woman like a man's wife, and the other person's partner is the model of the ideal woman in her mind.
Just like the underworld little brother is most likely to love the big sister-in-law, it is not that the big sister-in-law is really so attractive, but the little brother envies everything that the big brother has, and experiences the pleasure of being a big brother by conquering the big sister-in-law.