Yesterday surfing to find materials, I actually saw the dynamics of Han Jiaren, who had no news for a long time.
In a variety show, he talked about his first miscarriage after getting married.
It was an unintentional gift, but when she was about 8 weeks pregnant, she gradually found that the child's heart beat was slow and weak, and eventually miscarried.
It can be said that the first child caused a lot of psychological shadows to Han Jiaren, and the whole person's mentality has also changed.
So much so that the later sons and daughters, Han Jiaren, were very cautious and stayed at home for 40 weeks of pregnancy during the test tube.
"95% of life is spent mainly by children", and her acting career has almost stagnated, and Han Jiaren calls herself a "kangaroo mother" in the process of taking a baby.
Even the netizens who appeared on the variety show this time said that Han Jiaren was obviously tired of the whole person.
There is no doubt about the appearance of women giving birth to babies, but in addition to the appearance of the pay is also reflected in the other side, that is, the so-called "pregnancy stupid" and "one pregnancy stupid three years".
Although the so-called pregnancy is stupid, it is not that intelligence has really declined, but cognitive ability has changed.
Like short-term memory loss, difficulty concentrating, inability to lift spirits, the whole person is out of state...
But think about the internal picture of often "holding the child to find the child", it is also very funny and sad.
So adults are curious, why do so many girls have babies, and their brains are not their own?
Is there really any scientific basis for "three years of stupid pregnancy"?
Adults will come to talk to everyone today, "pregnant stupid" this thing.
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Does the brain "shrink" after pregnancy?
It's true.
In 2016, Nature Neuroscience published an article saying that pregnancy causes long-term changes in the structure of the mother's brain.
Specifically, the gray matter volume in some brain areas is significantly reduced, and this effect lasts for at least 2-3 years.
(Does this point in time sound familiar?) That's how "three years of stupidity" came about, right? ）
But interestingly, human scientists explained that even if the gray matter is reduced, the speech memory and working memory of this batch of pregnant mothers in the test are not affected.
So the changes in the brain after pregnancy, researchers prefer that this is the self-regulation of the brain, the purpose is to make people adapt to the identity of the mother faster, reduce hostility to the newborn, and have little to do with the weakening of cognitive ability.
In other words, the brain has changed, but people are not stupid, everyone can rest assured.
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The real reason for being stupid?
Hormone fluctuations
During pregnancy, hormone levels in a woman's body are stimulated like a roller coaster.
Not only are progesterones and estrogens up to 40 times higher than the daily level, the estradiol content is close to 30 times that of the daily level, and the secretion of cortisol in the body is also greatly increased.
These hormones provide a guarantee for the growth and delivery of the fetus, but for the mother, elevated and fluctuating hormone levels can lead to mental stress and even depression.
It can also affect memory, leading to forgetfulness, difficulty concentrating and blurred thinking.
There is also morning sickness in the first trimester, inability to swallow, weight burden in the third trimester, pubic pain, poor sleep and other physical discomfort during pregnancy, which will also increase mental stress.
In fact, if you think about it carefully, every time before menstruation, the mood is flammable and explosive, and the work efficiency is low, is not it also a typical hormone affecting the spirit, but the degree is lighter than that of "pregnant stupid".
The shift in the center of gravity of attention
If the husband complains to his wife that "you don't care about me after the birth of the child", this is because the focus of women's lives and attention has shifted to the baby.
That is, the psychoanalyst Winnicott proposed the primordial maternal infusion.
At this stage, the mother will focus on the baby with only the baby in her eyes and enter a relatively "no-self" state.
All your hobbies, needs, and life schedules are prioritized behind your baby.
So you will see the bridesmaids of the first time in life, lost everything they wanted, were unresponsive, and turned around and forgot what they had said.
But when it comes to children, they are like a number of family treasures, how much milk they drink at a meal, how many hours they sleep, which vaccine to get, what to choose early education, strong logic, and the speed of speech.
To put it bluntly, the so-called "stupid" is just not so concerned about anything other than the baby.
Tired and stupid
After three years of pregnancy, the essence is not tired.
Only when you are a mother do you know that unloading is the beginning of a hard battle.
I haven't slept a whole night for several months, I get up every hour at night to feed and change diapers, stare at my children during the day to do housework, and have to endure the pain of mastitis and fever.
Even ordinary people who usually stay up late and stay up the next day are not in a trance, and the whole person is like a walking dead.
Not to mention the full-time mother who is dominated by human cubs 24 hours a day, 7 × a week, only 3 or 4 hours a day sleep and can still fight, which is really admirable!
To change adults may be "stupid" to even forget their last name...
In general, adults feel that "pregnant stupidity" has a certain physiological basis, but it is more related to other external factors.
If there is no one in the family to share the tedious and trivial child-rearing work for themselves, no one can forgive the anxiety and nervousness, but everyone has to "become stupid".
The so-called three years of pregnancy is more like adding unequal labels to these hard-working mothers.
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How to save yourself from pregnancy stupidity?
Stop the psychological cues of "I'm pregnant I'm stupid"
Yesterday adults said that when faced with an incident, women sometimes fall into the trap of excessive introspection.
Once in a while, when I pour milk into the washing machine as laundry detergent, I think I'm really stupid.
Then the jar broke and broke, and since I was pregnant and stupid, I just didn't want to use my brain, I just couldn't understand what you were saying... The cycle repeats, the brain uses in and out, and the false stupid becomes real and dull.
If you still want to return to the workplace seamlessly after maternity leave, if you still want to keep up with the rhythm of society, please stop the self-brainwashing of "pregnant stupidity".
If you have the conditions, arrange some courses for yourself to learn in the gap with the baby, whether it is a foreign language or a fitness dance.
If the conditions do not allow, you can try to change your mentality and be more positive.
Think about how busy you can still listen to the voice to judge where the baby is - the hearing has become stronger!
Think about it every day, although busy, but the family's affairs, children's affairs have not fallen - the ability to work independently is even better!
Less "I'm not a good mom" self-doubt and more "I've done a great job" self-affirmation.
Nutrition has to keep up
People are iron rice is steel, in the body fatigue to maintain adequate nutritional intake.
Especially for mothers who are depressed after childbirth and feel that they do not have enough brain power, eat more deep-sea fish rich in omega-3 fatty acids.
It reduces the risk of depression and, in combination with estrogen and progesterone in women, helps maintain the normal functioning of the brain.
Eating some foods rich in tryptophan such as bananas, oats, cheese, and black qiao can also help serotonin secretion and relieve anxiety and tension.
Strengthen the movement
Long-term regular exercise, effectively help brain cells grow, can improve attention, improve long-term memory.
It is also effective to spend 20 minutes brisk walking.
Work and rest adjustment
Moms are busiest at night, so use the daytime fragments and take a nap to squint at any time.
The attention and companionship of the family
The care and companionship of family members, especially husbands, is very important.
After all, it is my roommate who chooses, and when I meet a straight man who is not good at expression, we also take the initiative to communicate more and let the other party understand their own dilemma.
Understand that you are not "alone" and that your family will always be the strongest backing.
In short, again, you are an independent individual, you are first and foremost you, then the mother of the child, the daughter of the parents, the wife of the husband.
I hope that everyone will not be troubled by pregnancy stupidity, nor will they be kidnapped by pregnant stupidity.