Filial piety, as one of the traditional virtues of the mainland. Parents are raising children without asking for anything in return, and children should bear in mind the parenting grace of their parents. Parents always have a glimmer of expectation for their children, who wouldn't want to see their children reciprocate for themselves?
Good things only exist in fairy tales, but reality is always cruel. Although everyone remembers the model of filial piety in their hearts, in reality it is more "ungrateful", not only refusing to fulfill the obligation to support their parents, but also not even having basic respect for their parents, which makes countless parents chill.
Today, we will pick out the children who are accustomed to saying these 2 sentences "mantra", and correct them in time to reduce the chance of "filial piety" growing up.
The first sentence: "You are not allowed to touch my things!" ”
The age at which children begin to appear independent is about 2 years old, and at this age they have a clear distinction between me, yours, and his concept, and begin to like to express themselves in the language of the first person, accustomed to self-centered expression, with a strong possessiveness, and refuse to let others touch anything about themselves. Although some parents do not recommend that parents force their children to express their desire to share, because this compulsive behavior will make them resist and hurt their "glass heart", this view cannot be over-interpreted.
A child of about 2 years old, the awareness of property rights is very vague, the difference between sharing and giving has not yet been understood, it is easy to mistakenly think that sharing is a gift, so it will show amazing self-heart. At this time, parents need to give their children the correct knowledge popularization, appropriately intervene, let them feel the joy of sharing, and avoid children being labeled as "personalized" by their classmates after they go to kindergarten, and are treated unsociable. Especially in sharing food, I feel that there is a mentality that children like to eat alone, and develop the habit of fair distribution for everyone and equality for everyone.
The second sentence: "I don't care, it's none of my business!" ”
Most of the children who use this phrase as a mantra are the result of the "pampering" of their parents. The most common in the mainland is now the "package" type of parents, in addition to learning children do not have to do anything, do not have to care about anything, parents have full authority to do in place, children just have to study seriously. Parents always tell their children, "You study seriously, don't worry about anything else!" ”。 This is to brainwash children from a young age, thinking that I have nothing to do with me except reading.
Children who grow up in such an environment are difficult to have a sense of responsibility, and whenever they encounter difficulties, they always rely on their parents, and the problems are handed over to their parents, and they can wait for themselves. Do you think it is more likely that such a child will grow up to be filial piety? When you grow up, you feel that your parents are a burden, so your child should be educated from an early age, and then the consequences are borne by parents.
The so-called planting melons to get melons, planting fruits to get fruits, what kind of trees are planted from childhood, and what kind of fruits are harvested when they grow up.
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