In 2013, the host of the big-name birthday party said in front of Li Chengru in front of Li Dahai:
"Definitely you owe him"
Li Chengru also replied: "Yes, I owe him, and I will do everything I can to make up for it." ”
Why would Li Chengru say this? After Li Chengru and his wife Li Shirong divorced, Li Dahai lived with his mother, and it was Li Shirong who raised her to adulthood with his own strength, and Li Chengru was also absent from the most important stage of his son's growth.
Now that nearly 9 years have passed, has Li Chengru fulfilled his words, and how is Li Shirong doing?
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In 1954, Li Chengru was born in Beijing to a relatively wealthy family, and his family was still in good condition.
But when Li Chengru was two years old, his father died, and it was their mother who single-handedly took up the burden of the family and raised 11 children with painstaking efforts, which may also be the reason why Li Chengru would not get along with his son later.
In order to raise her children, Li Chengru's mother carried more than 100 pounds of wooden pillows on the railway, smashed road nails, and also worked as a kitchen assistant in a restaurant, a bricklayer at a construction site, and was particularly tired every morning and evening.
Li Chengru, who grew up in this environment, was very eager for a better life, so in the days to come, he was working hard for the ideal life he pursued.
In order to let the children have a mouthful of food to eat, Li Chengru's mother sent them early to learn cross-talk and drama, and since then Li Chengru has lived a life of blowing and playing and singing.
But he was not satisfied with this kind of day, which was too much different from the life he dreamed of, so he has been working silently, constantly seeking opportunities to change the situation.
The opportunity was left to those who were prepared, and soon Li Chengru met his mentor Dong Xingyi, who admired Li Chengru and took him to study drama, and recommended him to go to the Beijing Film Academy.
Li Chengru was also very competitive, and in 1980 Li Chengru was successfully admitted to the Beijing Film Academy.
It was also at this time that Li Chengru met the first love in his life, and this person was Li Shirong.
At that time, Li Shirong was a well-known talented woman, and Li Chengru was just an unknown small actor.
When Li Chengru saw Li Shirong at first sight, he was deeply attracted, and since then he has begun to pursue Li Shirong madly.
And Li Shirong also had a good feeling for this hard-working young man, and it wasn't long before the two people came together, but at that time, many people's jaws were shocked, and no one expected that the talented Li Shirong would choose the obscure Li Chengru.
With the passage of time, the feelings of the two people also became deeper and deeper, and soon it was time to talk about marriage.
When Li Shirong went home with Li Chengru for the first time and saw the small house of 18 square meters, he did not dislike it but comforted Li Chengru, telling her that her life would slowly become better in the future, but she would not know that she would live here for more than 30 years in the future.
In 1984, Li Chengru and Li Shirong entered the palace of marriage, and although the two lived a difficult life after marriage, it did not affect the growing feelings between them.
In the second year after marriage, Li Shirong gave birth to a son for Li Chengru, and the 18-square-meter cottage was warm, and the birth of his son made Li Chengru multiply his enthusiasm and muster up enough energy to earn milk powder money for his son.
Coinciding with the "Journey to the West" crew recruiting actors, Li Chengru immediately ran over to sign up and wanted to play Tang Monk.
But his image did not match, just arranged a job for him, forced to make a living Li Chengru could only do it first, but the work of the theater was not good, often angered by others, at that time the business went to the sea was particularly hot, Li Chengru left from the theater to become a businessman.
Li Chengru's first pot of gold came from selling clothes, and the market was blank at that time, and Li Chengru mixed well in the business sea with his shrewd mind.
Li Chengru, who earned the first sum, was even more out of control, and soon opened clothing stores, department stores, etc., and made a lot of money for a while, and soon he was worth tens of millions.
With money, Li Chengru lived a life of a drunken gold fan, not only bought a set of courtyards on the edge of the Forbidden City, but also bought a variety of luxury cars, and lived a life that was called a moisturizer.
But also in Xidan opened a shopping mall called "special special", the daily flow of water is five or six hundred thousand, Li Chengru is not satisfied with these, he also invested in catering, antiques, hotels, etc., in less than six years, Li Chengru became a billionaire.
With money, Li Chengru began to become a little arrogant, and he did not look at his wife and son at home well, and he scolded his wife at home at every turn, not shying away from his young son.
In 1992, Li Chengru and Li Shirong divorced.
After the divorce, Li Chengru once again embarked on the road of acting because of the failure of investment, perhaps Li Chengru was born to eat this bowl of rice, and the ups and downs of the business sea for many years made him unique in playing a businessman, and the businessman's pursuit of profit was vivid.
Later, he starred in "Six Groups of Serious Cases", which made him completely popular, and in 2001, he made a cameo role in Feng Xiaogang's movie, and once again conquered the audience with a minute and a half of lines.
In 2002, Li Chengru remarried with Shi Yihong, who was 18 years old, and Li Chengru, who had a new love, left Li Shirong and his son behind and lived his own leisurely life.
And Li Shirong?
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In the face of a desperate husband, Li Shirong, who is strong, took his son back to the original 18-square-meter cottage and began to raise his son by himself.
After Li Shirong and Li Chengru divorced, the connection between the two people gradually decreased, although Li Chengru would also receive Li Shirong and his son, but Li Shirong never accepted, in her opinion Li Chengru was pitying her.
This made Li Shirong suffer a lot, but fortunately she survived.
In order to be able to make herself and her son live a normal life, she sent her son to boarding school with a fierce heart, and she worked hard to earn money by doing double jobs.
Whenever Li Shirong went to pick up his son and go home, when he saw that others had a father to pick him up, his son would always cry to her.
At this time, Li Shirong looked at his son in his arms, and he could not help but feel a pang of sadness in his heart, and in order not to hurt the young children, Li Shirong always lied that Li Chengru was busy outside and did not have time to see him, and when he was successful in his studies, he would come back to pick him up.
And his son Li Dahai also understood a lot of things as he grew older, and gradually stopped mentioning Li Chengru in front of Li Shirong.
Li Dahai is very sensible, every time Li Shirong will ride a bicycle to pick him up when Li Dahai is on vacation, once he found that his mother's feet were a little unnatural, and when he returned home, he knew that Li Shirong's feet were frostbitten.
When Li Dahai saw this scene, his heart immediately gushed out the idea of buying a pair of shoes for his mother, and the next morning Li Dahai took the money he had saved from childhood to adulthood and went to the mall.
Li Dahai looked at a pair of shoes, but the shoes in the mall were too expensive, even if Li Dahai had saved so many years of pressing money, but it was still a little bit worse, and then Li Dahai went many times to expect that the shoes could be discounted, but every time he was disappointed.
In the end, with the help of well-wishers, Li Dahai bought the shoes and gave them to Li Shirong on Li Shirong's birthday.
Li Shirong was very moved, and for a moment he couldn't help but hug Li Dahai and cry, and the shoes that Li Dahai gave her had always been cherished by her and was reluctant to wear.
Under the infection of Li Dahai's filial piety, Li Shirong is full of hope for life, works harder, and wants to change the lives of herself and her son, but how much can she earn as a woman and a Taoist family?
When he was a child, Li Dahai had a very hard time, the children in the school were wearing brand-name clothes, and he was still wearing patched clothes, but he never complained, but used his own understanding to repay Li Shirong.
Li Dahai and Li Shirong lived in the 18-square-meter hut for 28 years, until Li Dahai broke out of the world and then they moved out of there.
What li Chengru was doing all these years, didn't he care about their mother and son at all?
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In fact, when Li Chengru and Li Shirong were not divorced, Li Chengru was particularly kind to Li Dahai, after all, he was his first child.
However, after the divorce, Li Chengru set up a new family, and his attention to Li Dahai was naturally less, but this did not mean that the feelings between them were weak.
When Li Dahai was in junior high school, Li Chengru often sent him things, but every time he was thrown out by Li Dahai, in Li Dahai's eyes, his father was a very unfamiliar word, and they did not see him several times a year.
What's more, Li Chengru also abandoned their mother and son, which also made the gap between father and son grow larger and larger, until an incident happened, which changed Li Dahai's view of Li Chengru.
In 2002, Li Dahai was hit by a car on a bicycle, and he was unconscious on the spot, when Li Chengru heard the news, he rushed over as soon as he heard the news, and when he knew that Li Dahai needed a blood transfusion, he went to draw blood for him without saying a word.
When Li Dahai woke up and looked at the pale Li Chengru, the defense line in his heart could not help but loosen, and the relationship between the two people eased at this time.
Perhaps because of the loss of his father at an early age, Li Chengru can be said to be a mess for his son's education, perhaps he does not understand what a father should do.
When Li Dahai wanted to create a music studio, everything was almost prepared, but only one piano was missing, and it happened that Li Cheng had one in Confucianism, and Li Dahai wanted to borrow it.
However, hearing Li Dahai's intentions, Li Chengru did not agree and scolded Li Dahai, perhaps he wanted to cultivate his son's independence, but parents should not support their son's career development?
Although Li Chengru later sent Li Dahai a better piano, there was a crack in the relationship between the two people that was difficult to repair.
After that, Li Chengru still did not feel that he had problems with his son's education, but instead intensified his implementation of his own educational philosophy.
In 2018, Li Dahai participated in "I Am Not a Star", and Li Chengru, as a father, did not come to cheer for his son, but also suppressed Li Dahai vigorously.
Li Chengru recorded a video for Li Dahai, originally thought it was an encouragement to Li Dahai, but who knows, Li Chengru in the video said Li Dahai, "You look like a dog, what is worth my praise?" ”
This remark made Li Dahai particularly embarrassed on the stage, and the original excited expression slowly dimmed.
Under Li Chengru's divine operation, the relationship that had been repaired by the two people was also completely fragmented.
In Li Dahai's view, the achievements he had worked hard to earn were obtained under his protection in his father's eyes, which made Li Dahai feel very sad.
Li Shirong was also very angry in the face of Li Chengru who did this, and he raised his son with hard work, so many years you have not managed our mother and son much, why do you say this about children.
But Li Shirong has no choice, she and Li Chengru have been divorced for many years, and they can't control him, not to mention that Li Dahai has paid a lot to repair the relationship with Li Chengru before, and she can't say anything to sabotage her son's efforts and can only endure silently.
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Li Shirong has not remarried others since divorcing Li Chengru, taking care of Li Dahai with hard work, and not in vain, Li Dahai has also broken out of his own world outside.
Now she and Li Dahai live together, and Li Dahai, who has a career, moved out of the 18-square-meter cottage with Li Shirong at the first time, maybe there is his childhood, but people always have to look forward, don't they?
And Li Chengru, although he divorced Li Shirong and then married Shi Yihong, who was 18 years younger, but within a few years, he divorced again because of the separation of the two places, and in the next few days he talked about his 28-year-old girlfriend, but unfortunately the woman's family did not agree to it.
Today's Li Chengru has long been a lonely family, perhaps because of his old age, he began to care about Li Dahai's marriage, hoping that Li Dahai could get married early so that he could hold his grandson as soon as possible.
However, perhaps affected by Li Chengru's two failed marriages, Li Dahai is already afraid of marriage, afraid that like Li Chengru, Li Dahai is now 37 years old but still alone.
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Sometimes parents are the best teachers for children, and only by being the best example of parents can children develop in a good direction.
At first, Li Chengru said that he would do everything he could to make up for his son, but now it seems that he has not done it, and he has been making up for it in the way he thinks is right, but he does not know that it is precisely because of this that the gap between father and son is getting bigger and bigger.
On the other hand, Li Shirong has raised Li Dahai for 28 years in an 18-square-meter hut, and it is precisely because of Li Shirong's unique personality charm that Li Dahai can break out of his own world.
If Li Dahai had accepted Li Chengru's educational model, there might not have been Li Dahai's current achievements.
The companionship of parents is the greatest gift to children, so for the healthy growth of children, they must also be kind to their marriage.
The most important thing is never to be absent from every step of a child's growth, because this is unique, and sometimes it is not unreasonable to think of the old saying of the ancients that "the son is not the fault of the father".
Finally, I wish you all a smooth life and a happy family, welcome to leave a message!
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Edited | Sanjiu
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