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"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

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"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

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In "Parental Love", Anjie was well cared for by Jiang Defu all her life, and her life was comfortable and smooth, better than her brothers and sisters.

She had 5 children in her lifetime, and only her daughter Jiang Yafei stayed by her side.

So when watching this TV series, I found that Yafei's life was interfered with more by her mother, especially in feelings.

Jiang Yafei reached the age of love, and Anjie arranged for a Director Meng to meet with Yafei.

When Yafei made it clear that he did not like Director Meng, Anjie and his family repeatedly arranged for Director Meng to come to the house for dinner, "forcing" Yafei to obey.

In Anjie's heart, Director Meng's future is better, and Yafei will live a good life after following him.

However, in Yafei's heart, she couldn't look at Director Meng at all, and she didn't call at all.

Instead, she liked the director of the department, Yu Daguang, although Yu Daguang's officials were not as big as their own, and there was no future, but Jiang Yafei did not care at all.

She and Yu Daguang are willing to be together, and many people's needs for feelings lie in their hearts.

"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

Especially in a family like Jiang Yafei, who lives in a materially rich family, she seeks the need for love in order to meet her own spiritual needs.

When Anjie discovers that Yafei is in love with Yu Daguang, he tries to break them up.

Anjie knew her daughter's nature, so she teamed up with Yafei's aunt and uncle to give Yu Daguang ideological work without Jiang Yafei knowing.

Yu Daguang was so logically "driven away".

Jiang Yafei and his relationship also ended here.

Anjie successfully controlled Jiang Yafei's feelings.

When I first started watching this paragraph, I felt that Anjie's desire for control was very strong, and he was a typical Chinese parent.

"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

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In the TV series "Little Joy", there is a mother Song Qian, who has a very strong desire to control.

She is a teacher and a single mother, and she has high expectations for her daughter Qiao Yingzi.

Although Qiao Yingzi excelled in school and ranked among the best, her mother forced her to do a lot of extra papers every day when she completed her school assignments.

Although she had all kinds of dissatisfaction in her heart, she could not do anything to see her mother's steps pressing forward, and she could only bear it silently.

Mom only allows her to study, does not allow her to have her own hobbies, she likes Lego, but mom feels that it is a waste of time and does not let her play.

She didn't like the medicinal food her mother made, and every time she ate it, she was disgusting, but she had to pretend to like it in front of her mother, otherwise her mother would be angry.

As her mother's only daughter, Qiao Yingzi must accept her mother's expectations of her, to accept all her mother's love for her, even if some love exists with thorns, she must force herself to accept.

As long as she doesn't accept it, her mother will throw a hysterical tantrum at her and tell her that everything her mother does is for her.

Living in such an environment, Qiao Yingzi was not happy at all, and finally suffered from depression and almost committed suicide by jumping into the river.

A child who is blindly obedient in front of his parents always has scars in his heart, which are sensible in the eyes of his parents, but they are depressed in the eyes of children.

"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

Living in a repressive environment for a long time, the child will get sick sooner or later.

Therefore, those well-behaved children must have a lot of unspoken grievances.

Compared with Jiang Yafei, Qiao Yingzi is much more sensible.

Jiang Yafei rebelled against her parents everywhere, she had her own thoughts, and her parents' compulsion on her could not work, but in the end, her love with Yu Daguang was destroyed by her mother Anjie.

But the children of that era were not very stressful themselves, the time for entertainment was also sufficient, and there were many brothers and sisters in the family, which distracted the parents' attention, so it also distracted the parents' desire to control.

Now, most families do not have many children, and every parent has the good wishes of jackie chan and daughter chengfeng, so the desire to control children is even stronger.

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The sensational "Yaojiaxin Incident" must have an impression on everyone.

In 2010, Yao Jiaxin hit and injured a woman with a car, the woman was not life-threatening, Yao Jiaxin got out of the car to check and killed the woman with a knife.

Three days later, Yaojiaxin turned himself in accompanied by his parents.

Yaojiaxin's approach shocked a lot, it was not a big deal, why did Yaojiaxin get an irreparable situation?

Yao Jiaxin is the only son in the family, and his parents have a very strict education for him since he was a child, especially his father.

His father did not allow him to make any mistakes, and he liked to order him, and usually criticized his education a lot, and there was little praise and encouragement.

His father's education made Yao Jiaxin lack a sense of identity, and even in junior high school, he began to suppress and have the idea of taking his own life.

His father's control over him made him a very well-behaved child, and he was always looking for others to identify with him.

His personality is a bit paranoid, and he is also a bit inferior and afraid of making mistakes.

So when he accidentally injured the woman, he didn't think about how to take responsibility, but the first thing he thought of was to evade responsibility.

The difference between a thought and a thought destroys their own life, but in this difference in thought, parents also have an unshirkable responsibility.

Chinese parents, the most favorite thing to do is to control their children.

Children are their "personal belongings" and tools for them to achieve their dreams.

What they can't do, they can let the child do it for them, and what they want is imposed on the child, so that the child can help them get it.

They like to kidnap children in the name of love.

In front of outsiders, they love their children, but in fact, they only love themselves.

"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

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Before there was a girl who beat up her mother on the street because she wanted to buy a new mobile phone, this news just came out, and everyone accused the girl of not understanding things.

But the truth is that the girl saved 4,000, the mother promised to add 2 thousand to buy her a new mobile phone, the result is that the clerk said that the old mobile phone can be repaired, the mother repented, and finally took the girl's money.

"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

This is not enough, the mother is still standing in the crowd, morally kidnapping the girl, so that more people come to watch, do not consider the child's self-esteem at all, which makes the girl beat the mother violently.

The girl only asks her mother to go home to solve this problem, but the mother uses the crowd to control the child.

In the end, this matter is the mother's fault first, and the lack of understanding of the mother's child between them has led to this embarrassing situation.

In recent years, there have been more and more conflicts between children and parents, such as "Wu XieYu killing his mother", "15-year-old girl killing a single mother" and so on.

This tragic case shows a problem, that is, the parents' control over their children is too strong.

Every child has their own life, they are born with their own mission, have their own things they want to do, parents do a good job of guidance, respect the child, rather than using high-pressure policies to blackmail the child, nor with feelings and morality to kidnap the child.

"Parental Love" Anjie makes a fatal mistake, but unveils the true face of Chinese parents

Today's children, learning pressure, less entertainment time, more tired than the children of the past, as parents we must learn to understand the child more, less control.

Being a parent is a practice, more is to cultivate the mind, to set a good example for the child, so that the child can learn the truth of being a person from your words and deeds.

Instead of you full of dirty words, but let the child be civilized and polite, you lie a lot, but let the child be honest and trustworthy, you are lazy and not motivated, but you have high expectations for the child.

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