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Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

On March 12, Yang Kun, a singer who had been silent for a long time, posted late at night to mourn his late ex-girlfriend.

He wrote the love hidden in his heart into a song "The End of the River of Love", in the dim light and shadow, in the gentle chords of the guitar, chanting a sentence of affection.

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

This Weibo instantly received hundreds of thousands of likes, millions of reads, and quickly appeared on the hot search.

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

In the comments section, opinions are divided.

Some people are touched by the long affection of "one river of water", and some people bluntly say that this is just rubbing heat and want to turn red;

Some people have set their sights on Yang Kun's past, and some people have pulled out his "lace news" that has long been yellowed.

For a time, this heavyweight singer in the Chinese music scene was simply and rudely labeled as "scumbag", "lover", "frustrated" and so on.

However, people are always complex, and no one can generalize them with just one or two labels.

When you set aside the black-and-white standard of judgment and blow away the mist that pervades the characters, you will find that Yang Kun is just an ordinary person like you and me.

He has the joys and sorrows of ordinary people, and in the ups and downs of life, he has been confused and has had an epiphany.

The so-called fate is only our own choice

The writer Liang Xiaosheng has a very clear sentence, he said:

From the moment you are born, what bowl you serve, what you eat, what you experience, is a definite number.

You have read the script of life in heaven, and the reason why you chose this script is because in this life, there are places that you think are worthwhile.

We always think that fate is predestined, but when you look back, you find that every turn on the road of life is your own choice.

Just like Yang Kun, it seems to be bumping in the torrent of fate, but every step he takes is the direction of the heart.

In 1972, Yang Kun was born in an ordinary family in Baotou, Inner Mongolia.

He was sent to his grandmother's house in the countryside since he was a child, and in his childhood memories, there was no hustle and bustle of traffic, only the tranquility of the moonlit valley.

Pure nature nurtures the most natural wildness, which also causes Yang Kun to return to his parents and always be out of place with his surroundings.

He didn't like to read, he didn't want to be a "good student", he played music, fell in love, fought against his parents everywhere, and rebelliously caused headaches.

At the age of 16, Yang Kun participated in a singing competition and was selected by the local armed police cultural and labor troupe, and he resolutely chose to leave the campus.

When he was a teenager, he had a clear voice and rich expression, and had the elegant name of "Little Cai Guoqing".

Although he was highly valued in the group and could also go to the song hall to sing, Yang Kun's heart was very bitter.

The best small group friend once said: "Yang Kun's greatest pain is to always sing other people's songs, and his greatest wish is that people will sing his songs." ”

But soon, Yang Kun couldn't even sing other people's songs.

In 1993, Yang Kun had a problem with his vocal cord and went to Beijing for surgery.

After the operation, he rushed to open his voice and sing, causing the wound to crack and he had to stop working for two months.

However, after surviving these two months, when he opened his mouth again, Yang Kun found that his voice had changed completely, "becoming very hoarse, still with raw edges." ”

But it was precisely this incident that made Yang Kun make up his mind to go to Beijing, and he believed that the stage there must have its own foothold.

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

In this way, he carried two thousand yuan and became a "North Drifter" with great interest.

As a result, it can be imagined that no matter what era, most of the "North Drift" family will have to go through a period of purgatory.

Yang Kun, no exception, and his purgatory looked even worse.

First he ran into walls everywhere and couldn't find any song hall that was willing to ask for him; then when the money ran out, he could only live in the bathhouse; then the bathhouse did not take him in, and he could only go to the train station.

He wandered day by day, but the hope of "fame" could not be seen even half a shadow.

Some people say: Life is actually composed of countless choices.

The road of life, ups and downs, to the fork in the road, which direction to go, all in our own.

Stop complaining about fate, many times, it is precisely we ourselves who determine the direction of life.

There is no choice without regrets, only a self without regrets

Since you have chosen the path of music, you have to finish even if you kneel.

On this day, Yang Kun, who only had 100 yuan left in his pocket, was in an unusually low mood, and he walked into a dance hall called "Casablanca" and used the 100 yuan to order a song for himself.

He stood on the stage and sang, and in that instant, the hardships of the past flashed back in his mind...

The tumbling heart, in the hoarse voice, swung out a circle of ripples, hitting everyone present.

After the song was finished, Yang Kun withdrew, but he was unexpectedly pulled by someone.

It was no one else who held him back, it was Sha Baoliang, who later became equally famous.

Under the strong recommendation of Sha Baoliang, Yang Kun stayed in "Casablanca" and finally had a formal job.

Speaking of this dance hall, it seems to have some kind of magic.

There are many stars who have come out of here: Sun Yue, Dai Liao, Man Jiang, and of course, Sha Baoliang and Yang Kun.

But no matter how great the magic power is, it can't protect the "weird coffee" Yang Kun.

After only half a year, Yang Kun was dismissed for the simple reason: "He is too difficult to get, standing on stage without interaction, and he must also sing his favorite songs." ”

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

After becoming famous, Yang Kun often recalls those days, and he remembers that his most difficult time was in 1995.

That year, he lived in an air raid shelter, running all day to sell and sing, hungry and full, and his money never exceeded 200.

It was also this year that he talked about a girlfriend, the deceased person mentioned at the beginning of the article.

This girl is a dance student, and after falling in love with Yang Kun, she often takes her own money to help him.

In the two years of acquaintance, she gave Yang Kun the greatest encouragement, but later she finally could not withstand the gossip and proposed to break up.

On the day of the breakup, she made a table of good dishes for Yang Kun.

After returning home, Yang Kun suddenly understood everything, finished eating with his head down, and left without saying anything.

The world is unpredictable, who knows that after this parting, the two will not have a day to see each other again.

Many years later, Yang Kun occasionally heard that the girl later developed lymphoma and died at a young age.

For a while, Yang Kun's heart ached, if he hadn't been so depressed at that time, maybe he wouldn't have lost this girl; if he had been in contact, he might have been able to accompany her to the end of his life...

In order to make up for the regret in his heart, Yang Kun wrote this relationship into a song and used this song to remember the girl in his heart.

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

In this life, it seems that no matter how you choose, you will have regrets.

When you choose to live a peaceful life, you lose the thrill of adventure and miss a more interesting life;

If you choose to go forward, you have to take the risk of failure and be tested by human feelings.

However, the road is chosen by oneself, and whether it is good or bad, you must walk it yourself.

Since regret is inevitable, we strive to be the best we can; since nothing can change, we change our mentality.

As Wang Guozhen said:

Since I chose to go far away, I only cared about the wind and rain.

If you are tired, change your way of life

I have heard of a "pot bottom rule" that refers to the lowest point of man's destiny, no matter how he climbs up.

Similarly, after Yang Kun's fate line fell to the lowest point, it also began its climb.

After falling out of love, he wrote his inner bitterness into a song called "It Doesn't Matter".

Unexpectedly, this song made him unexpectedly popular.

Invitations, announcements, and interviews followed, and Yang Kun, who had been unattended, became a "big red man" who rotated continuously.

But this unexpected "popularity" did not bring him continuous happiness, but made him physically and mentally exhausted in his non-stop life.

In Vanity Fair, where it is difficult to distinguish between true and false, Yang Kun feels "like going to the execution ground" and living like a year.

Gradually, he became more and more depressed, and his body frequently had problems.

It wasn't until 2005, when he was diagnosed with depression, that he had to stop all his work and undergo systematic treatment.

In the years that followed, he faded from the public eye and thought of a new direction in life in silence and loneliness.

He no longer dwells on whether red is red or not, no longer restrains himself, and begins to live casually and freely.

He wrote the songs he wanted to write, and the classic songs "Empty City" and "Wrangler" came into being;

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

He wanted to experience the taste of being an actor, so he appeared on the stage of "I Am an Actor";

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

He said what he wanted to say, shelled the network divine comedy "Thunder", and did not care how much controversy was caused;

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

He wants to feel the variety show, so he goes to "The Voice of China" as a mentor and goes to the arena of "Singer" to be a contestant;

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

Before suffering from depression, Yang Kun was just a singer who did not meet with talent; after repairing himself, he lived out many aspects of his life.

Since his debut in 1994, in the 28 years, Yang Kun's highlight moments have not been many, and most of the time he has been like an outsider wandering on the edge of the entertainment industry.

But in the ups and downs of life, he found himself and lived out himself.

In the past few days, we have seen Chen Kun again in the reality show "Shining Band", and when it comes to the past, he is still in tears and does not lose the heart of a teenager.

Some people say that life is an addition and subtraction.

We are always used to doing addition, money, fame, honor, it is best to add to ourselves.

However, the truly happy life is to do subtraction.

Subtract the burden and be at ease.

I've seen a sentence like this:

"The sign that prohibits traffic is not to tell you to stop, but to remind you that it is time to turn."

On the journey of life, choosing a turn at the right time is a great wisdom.

Three years ago, Yang Kun's single-family villa in Beijing was exposed, which triggered a lot of heated discussion.

Some people say that "the entertainment industry is really good at making money", and some people say: "There is no taste in the decoration".

In this regard, Yang Kun did not seem to care, he said: "I have moved more than fifty times in Beijing, and finally I have my own nest."

From the initial inability to live in a stable place to today's ease and leisure, Yang Kun has been groping in his life choices and finally surviving.

Singing love songs for his late girlfriend, is he a "scumbag" or a "love breed"?

Yu Qiuyu said in "Borrow My Life":

The road of life, step by step by yourself, what can really protect you is your own life choice.

The four seasons rotate, and the years are fleeting.

Life is constructed and reshaped in our choices again and again.

Whichever road you embark on, you have to step through the ditches and bumps on this road, and if you are really tired, you may as well stop and rest, or just change the road.

But no matter how you go, you must take one step at a time, move forward steadily, and seek victory in stability.

The author | Jin Shanyue should have nothing to dwell in, but to be born with his heart.

The anchor | Beichen, gold medal anchor, psychological expert, public number: Beichen is looking for you

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