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The world is bustling with laughter, but I have two sideburns.
The best state of life is to stand outside the hustle and bustle of the world, feel the wide sky and the earth, and stay alone in the joy of a lifetime.
Quiet and not worried, annoyed but not annoyed, alone and not lonely, leisurely and not idle.
In the process of getting along with myself, I have beautiful time and years.
As the writer Mu Xuanxue described:
"Throw away the complicated relationships and leave the sinister vast tide." The heart is no longer impetuous and eager to achieve results. I also no longer make trouble for myself because of comparison. ”
Really smart people "quit" all kinds of social interactions early.
Too much hustle and bustle is a drain on oneself
"The east wind blooms a thousand trees at night, and more blows down, and the stars are like rain." BMW carved car fragrant road.
The sound of the phoenix vibrates, the jade pot turns, and the fish and dragon dance all night. ”
Spread out the long scrolls of the years, look around, and all kinds of noisy carnivals are staged every day in life.
No one likes to be lonely, the red dust road is far away, if there is no one to accompany each other, this life is lonely!
But who really thinks that when the hustle and bustle ends and the crowd disperses, how many people are really happy?
When Fu Yuanhui, a "flood girl" who won the third place in swimming at the Rio Olympics, was red all over the Internet, she was beaten by her mentor, Xu Guoyi, deputy head coach of the Chinese national team swimming team:
"These sought after hilarious scenes are all temporary, and the duty of being an athlete must be to return to the training ground and the arena."
Only if you have achieved results in your own work will you be noticed, otherwise you will only be invisible. ”
Learning to say goodbye to the noise of the outside world and find a pure solitude in the heart is actually a more important ability than going out to socialize.
Instead of consuming yourself in the illusion of nothingness, it is better to keep your heart and quietly feel the beauty of this world:
To experience Liu Yuxi's poem "talking and laughing with Hongru, and coming and going without white Ding";
Go and appreciate the indifference of Tao Yuanming's poem "Picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence, leisurely seeing the South Mountain";
To feel the open-mindedness of Su Dongpo's poem "The boat has passed away from here, and the river and the sea have sent the rest of their lives".
Walking through the red dust and seeing all the vicissitudes of the sea, you will understand the beauty of a person.
Quiet, but also a kind of bustling.
Not all people deserve deep friendship
"Life is content, and Si Shi should look at it with the same heart!"
The poem that Mr. Lu Xun gave to Qu Qiubai at that time spoke to the hearts of many people.
Friends are the most beautiful encounters in life, such as a breeze on a hot summer day, like a warm sun in the ice and snow world, making people feel comfortable and happy.
But there is an old saying that the road knows the horsepower and sees the hearts of the people over time.
Not everyone you meet can walk with yourself, pay time and sincerity, and may not be able to exchange it for pure heart and sincerity.
I once saw such a story in the "Chronicle of History".
There was a Zhai Gong who was sent to Kaifeng as a high official, and when he was in office, many guests came to visit, and for a time there was a lot of traffic outside the gate, and people came and went.
But after being deposed, the friends who had visited him before stopped coming, and the door was deserted, with only a few sparrows staying.
Later, he was reinstated as an official, and those "friends" saw the situation and wanted to visit again.
At this time, Zhai Gong was full of emotions and wrote down a few lines of large characters:
"One dies and one life knows friendship; one poor and one rich knows friendship; one noble and one lowly, and friendship is seen."
Life comes and goes, and gathering and dispersing is the norm.
One second, you may still be in the middle of the interplay; the next second, you may be scattered in the vast sea of people.
So, you don't have to bring too many people into your life.
True friends will not be alienated by distance, and will not be neglected by discouragement.
On the contrary, it is a kind of understanding, a kind of acquaintance, a kind of indifferent companionship after the heart and heart pity.
Alone, but also happy
Yang Said:
"We were so eager for the waves of fate, and in the end we found that the most beautiful scenery of life is the calm and calm in our hearts."
We have been so eager for external approval that in the end we know that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. ”
The fireworks in the world are dazzling, and we wander among them, and it is inevitable that we will not be disturbed.
But after the hilarity, we must learn to achieve our own wonderful.
In the midst of the noise, a pure land is carved out, with calmness, indifference, elegance, peace of mind, not to be insulted, and to add color to their lives.
Calm down, read a book, make a cup of tea, go to a movie, go see a flower.
Just like the musician Li Jian, he does not need much communication, and he also gives up a lot of socializing, renting a courtyard, and the days are quiet but also leisurely.
In "Time to Settle Alone", it is said:
"Living alone can be bland, tedious, stagnant, or it can be a fulfilling, wonderful, and exciting adventure."
When you abandon the prosperity and get away from the hustle and bustle, you will find that when you are alone, it is easier to see poetry and distant places.
Being alone is the floating joy of a wise person.
The human heart is untainted, and the mind is quiet and natural.
The poet Bai Luomei said:
"A man, a book, a cup of tea, a dream." Sometimes, loneliness is so heartwarming, and only at this moment, the world will be so uneventful. ”
In life, keep a quiet heart and give up an impetuousness, in order to get rid of the shackles of human feelings, live more freely, more peacefully.
Watch the flowers bloom and fall before the court, and enjoy the joy of being alone;
Looking at the clouds in the sky, I am quiet and comfortable.
Such a life is the most abundant.
Light up the "watching" at the end of the article, listen to you and me at night - there is stillness in the heart, alone and leisurely, in a fresh and elegant room, enjoy the fragrance of life.
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