Marriage is a book, the first chapter is written in psalms, and the rest is bland prose. - Bavary Nix
Remember Xue Zhenzhu in "The First Half of My Life"? The mother who has won the most complaints after watching this drama by countless netizens has "great problems with thoughts".
When she taught her children to rely on men and to tie them down by their own means, she had already begun to be wrong.
I have to say that the more controversial people in the TV series, the better her role is. Such a woman in the TV series, we hate and stay away.
Her one-on-one lines, sharp eyes and sharp language have successfully shaped her achievements as a "bad mother".
Because of this drama, Xue Zhenzhu's actor, Xu Di, who is over sixty years old, became popular and won the Best Magnolia Award.
Detached from the role, in life, she is a woman with excellent character, a good mother, and a good wife.
It is said that behind a successful man there is a woman who pays silently.
As a successful woman, Xu Di, a national first-class actor, has made netizens wonder who her husband is?
1. The thinking that husband and wife get along with us
The low-key Xu Di has never mentioned her life and her marriage in front of the public, so many people are curious about her husband, who is the man who pays silently behind such a brilliant woman?
As a result, there are rumors that her husband is Yang Lixin, and there are also Taiwanese actors such as Li Youlin.
But in fact, Xu Di's husband is not Yang Lixin, nor Li Youlin, but the first love who has walked through life for more than forty years together.
At that time, the 16-year-old Xu Di had achieved great success in the opera profession with a good voice. At this time, ignorant love also crept in.
Boys in their 10s are like our memories of junior high school, only to find out now that they don't know how many unspoken confessions they missed.
One is chasing the other and the other is making trouble, and rejoicing in the wrongdoer is our regret.
He is Yu Jianwei, 1 year older than Xu Di. Unexpectedly, he fell in love with her the next year, and in his perception, this girl was the most special.
It is such a heartbeat that Xu Di has achieved today.
Who is so strong when Xu Di is young? This is a kind of bland and tasteless girl's specialty.
The more noisy, the more they want to tease, the two people pinch each other, attract each other.
After graduation, the two were assigned to the same unit, the Beijing Opera Troupe.
Classmates to colleagues, from wrongdoers to lovers, Xu Di and Yu Jianwei after graduation, and talked about love for three years before entering marriage.
Wei Xikui, who made an exception and accepted her as an apprentice, was the most famous opera composer at that time, and he could see at a glance that Xu Di was special, this girl, yes.
To say how Xu Di transformed into a film and television actor, in fact, she has both luck and strength.
When she got married, her family's income was meager, and in order to improve her living conditions, an accident made director Liu Wentian take a fancy to her.
Her high opera experience laid the foundation for Xu Di to transform into an actress, and she kept trying for life while not forgetting her original intention.
After a woman gets married, she does not give up her interests and hobbies because of life, but constantly cultivates, and all success is not achieved overnight.
Liu Dao and she said:
"Even if you perform every day and the venue is full, only more than 1,000 people watch it, and there are more than 30,000 spectators in a month." And if you act in a TV series, there are at least hundreds of thousands of viewers in one night. ”
What a strong contrast between reality and ideals.
After returning home, she told her husband about this matter, yu Jianwei supported her to try it, and many film and television actors have transformed from theater actors.
As the man behind her, silently supporting her, if it were not for his support, Xu Di would not have the success she has today.
After getting the support of her husband, Xu Di did not make her own opinion, she also went to the group to ask for instructions, and after getting permission, she filmed her first TV series "The Lens Reaches to the Courtyard".
I have to say that it was the conditions at that time that forced Xu Di out, of course, her own strength is also very important.
Before marriage, in front of her husband, she is a clear and assertive little woman, unwilling to compromise in love, has her own temper, and after marriage, she understands that there is a man escorting her.
She discussed small things and big things with her husband, and did not make her own decisions, which shows her wisdom and that she is a good woman.
She gave this man full respect and love, and she was in front of the camera, and the person she was most grateful to was also him.
In marriage, the three major needs of men are to be respected, understood, and recognized. It turns out that a good marriage, this is the behavior of a good woman.
We should think deeply: Did we do it? Turns out we can do it.
2. Good marriages are mutual
Xu Di did not forget her original intention, even if she took over these TV series, she still did not forget to improve the opera aspect.
Because she is strong and stubborn, she sometimes laments that she misses many opportunities for big red.
As a husband, Yu Jianwei just said it lightly: there is a specialty in the art industry, and it is not easy for a person to be at the top in his field.
And I believe that sooner or later you will also be on fire as a film and television actor.
It was really said by Yu Jianwei that even if Xu Di was not a big heroine, she played the supporting role of "Mother" very brilliant.
And in life, why can't we deeply cultivate one thing to the extreme? It turns out that we are greedy, want to have everything, and finally get nothing.
It can be seen how important a good guide is to people with a strong sense of enterprise. A deviation, a lifetime is ruined.
After she retired from the unit, she put more time and energy into film and television drama creation.
Filmed in successive film and television dramas, her role as a mother made her shine.
Just entering menopause, she often loses her temper and can't control herself, and Yu Jianwei gives her endless tolerance and companionship.
Sometimes even his own son could not stand it, and he was willing to bow down to him.
Of course, love is mutual, and Xu Di is also very good to Yu Jianwei.
Once Yu Jianwei fell ill and was found to be liver cancer, in order not to affect her work, he hid the condition from Xu Di.
He didn't want his physical reasons to be holding her back. Such a delicate man, there is no reason not to cherish it.
After Xu Di knew, it was found to be a hemangioma, and during that time, Xu Di stopped her work and accompanied her husband to do surgery until she recovered.
During this time, she realized that she had paid too little attention to her husband in the past few decades, and her energy was spent on opera for the first thirty years, and later on film and television drama.
A man has spent the best decades of efforts to support and accompany Xu Di.
In recent years, Xu Di has so many brilliant characters appear on the screen, which is half the credit of Yu Jianwei.
It turns out that a good marriage is to complete each other and understand each other. On the other hand, is there a lot of "mutual" existence missing in our marriage?
Yu Jianwei is shy and introverted, Xu Di is cheerful and generous, mutual, complementary two people, can be long-lasting.
He started the little man behind Xu Di, did not ask for credit, married to his first love, love for 40 years is still sweet, these 40 years of wind and rain, no matter how big or small, they came over.
One-sided love is tiring, and two-way giving can produce twice as much love.
In "The First Half of My Life", Xue Zhenzhu's ending is sympathetic, and the last moment she lies on the hospital bed, she must be remembering the mistakes of her life.
"After all, I didn't become a good mother. Be a good woman. ”
She didn't apologize to everyone, the person she was most sorry for was herself.