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When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

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When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

The heart has a sense of belonging, wherever the soul dwells, and the heart has no sense of belonging, it is wandering everywhere.

Not everyone loves to be bustling and eager to be the focus of the crowd, and not everyone envies people who have daily social activities.

For some people, it is more comfortable to be alone, but it seems lonely and lonely in the crowd.

Uninformed people always feel that the lonely person is very lonely and worthy of "sympathy", but ignores that perhaps he does not like to communicate, he has a world in his heart, and there is his own small circle in life, and he also has his own preferences.

When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

Lang Lang is a person who likes to be alone, and when colleagues in the company meet privately, he will always use various excuses to refuse to shirk.

After a long time, no one called him to the meeting between colleagues.

However, the new colleagues, not knowing that Lang Lang did not like to communicate, had to drag Lang Lang to the company party, no matter how resistant Lang Lang showed.

When colleagues sang songs in KTV and got drunk, Lang Lang sat alone in the corner and closed his eyes and listened to music.

Others came to him with a wine glass, and he always smiled and refused, not in a hurry to push the other party's wine glass away.

He and his colleagues were like people from two worlds, so the noise around him didn't seem to interfere with Lang Lang's focus on his own world.

The new colleague wondered why Lang Lang did not take the initiative to sing and drink with his colleagues, and Lang Lang said lightly: "Pure dislike..."

"Isn't that alone? One person"

"Do you think that there are many people now, and I am not alone?"

When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

Being alone is often not the loneliness of closing the door of the heart, but it may be a wise choice to keep the joy of the heart.

Some people, busy with communication in order to alleviate the anxiety of not being alone in their hearts, can only force themselves to merge into a circle that may not fit in. There are also some people, busy with various communications, in order to survive, and strive to know more individuals and have more cooperation opportunities...

However, there are actually more sociable people than those who try to squeeze into the crowd.

Every soul is actually "lonely", because it is an independent individual, but in fact, a person's heart can determine whether he is really lonely.

A person is becoming less and less social, for a few reasons.

First, there is a sense of belonging in the heart

When a person has a sense of belonging in his heart, he no longer needs to spend time and energy on socializing in order to seek the belonging of the heart.

When a person has a dream in his heart and has found a small circle and a state of life that suits his heart, he will only spend his time on everything that can enter his private sphere, and will not seek emotional communication from people outside the circle.

People who don't know it will feel that Lang Lang is not in line with each other, but in fact Lang Lang has two close friends in private, they have nothing to talk about, and they can support each other in difficult times.

When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

Lang Lang would listen to songs in his spare time, and he would sit in his small coffee table and make a pot of hot tea. Or sit on the small coffee table, read a book, and miss her in a distant long-distance relationship...

He would occasionally go out to meet old friends, and occasionally take a train to the city he had in mind to meet the people he had in mind.

He already had a plan in his heart, and he had already found someone who could live in his life, so he was very indifferent to interpersonal relationships, and if he did not come together, he would scatter, and he would not merge or settle.

When a person meets his own little world, full of joy and happiness, he will naturally reduce useless social interactions and leave time and energy to people and things worthwhile.

People outside his circle feel that he is lonely and unsociable, and people inside his circle can best read his real state of life.

Second, the mind is mature, take the initiative to reduce social interaction

When a person's mind becomes more and more mature, he will see that "loneliness" is the norm of life, and he will automatically reduce the social interaction to obtain temporary reunions.

Of course, maturity also means seeing "human nature", that is, knowing that not all friendships are worth taking time and energy, so they will take the initiative to reduce social time.

Therefore, they use their time to run their own lives, or accompany their wives to play badminton, make children laugh, or spend time developing hobbies and laughing at themselves.

When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

When the mind is mature, it will naturally break away, subtract for its own life, reduce unnecessary people and things, and no longer pursue the base of friends, but pay attention to quality.

Thinking may be to see more things and mature, perhaps to experience the oppression of human nature, and to see the social truth in the pain.

Erlong was once a rich second generation, and at that time, he had a group of good brothers, and they always ate together and talked about their ideals together.

For this group of good friends, Erlong paid his sincerity, so good friends have difficulties, and he always gives a generous hand.

However, he thought that the indestructible brotherhood could not stand the test.

There was something wrong with the Erlong family, which caused all his bank cards to be frozen, and the good brothers knew about the situation of his family and played "missing".

It was also after an education from reality that Erlong saw the two words of human nature clearly.

Later, the Erlong family survived the difficulties, and the good brothers came to the door one by one, but Erlong decided to break off the relationship, so he rarely spent time on socializing.

When the mind is mature, it can judge which people and things should stay and which people and things should say goodbye.

When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

Third, life has a new task

Each stage has its tasks, when young children are busy learning various life skills, when children are busy learning, busy with work after graduation, busy with life after starting a family, and supporting the family.

People who are not yet married have a lot of time to spend all kinds of social interactions.

But when a family becomes a family, especially after having children, it will reduce social interaction and focus on the family because of new tasks in life.

Before a mother has no children, she may also take time to go shopping and walking with her girlfriends frequently, but when she becomes a mother, she does not have so much time of her own, because the child is still young and needs her care.

Even though not all women will become full-time mothers, after commuting to work, her full of concern for her children will also make her take the initiative to reduce socialization in order to fulfill her mother's duties, and she does not like to socialize.

A person does not necessarily reduce socialization because he has children, but because he has a new problem in his life and no longer spends time socially. Xu is to meet a person who wants to take care of a lifetime, so he spends his time on the road of pursuit; Xu has a new plan for his life and career, in order to make his dream come true, reduce unnecessary time expenditure...

For the vast majority of people, there is a third reason that they become socially unsavory.

When a person becomes less and less social, you know what it means?

When a person becomes less and less social, it often means that the mind is mature, find a new mission in life, and find someone who will accompany him all his life.

People who don't like to socialize may not be lonely, and perhaps they are particularly wonderful in places that outsiders can't see.

Although life may not be able to have everything, fortunately there are choices that allow us to grasp the life we want most.

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I am Hexu, a creator of the emotional field of warmth and happiness in the heart, writing emotional texts, warming the heart with words, thank you for reading, and deeply wishing you peace and joy!

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