When it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, perhaps the best benchmark is Xiang Tai and Guo Biting, since Guo Biting married Xiang Zuo, Xiang Tai's family is frequently on the hot search, and the mansion given to the son and daughter-in-law is also pushed to the cusp of public opinion.
Xiang Tai's liking for this daughter-in-law is obvious to all, and it is often seen that the family of four appears frequently, but Xiang Tai is not this one son, in addition to Xiang Zuo, there is a younger son named Xiang You.
Both are Xiang Tai's sons, and the fate of "Xiang Zuo" and "Xiang You" is very different
Xiang Huaqiang and Chen Lan (Xiang Tai) this pair of immortal couples have always been a good story in the entertainment industry, the company founded by the two people supporting each other is also producing a lot of classic film and television dramas, Xiang Tai has a total of two sons, in addition to the well-known Xiang Zuo, there is also a son named Xiang You.
The names of the brothers are very interesting, one to the left and one to the right, the fate of the two people is indeed very far away, Xiang Zuo needless to say, participated in a lot of film works, and now he has a wife, and his own baby, and there is also some reputation in the industry.
However, the younger brother Xiang You was not very pleased with the family, and a long time ago, because of the beating incident, there was a lot of public opinion, Xiang You beat the taxi driver violently, and at that time, he also said that his father was Xiang Huaqiang, which made his parents very disappointed.
And Xiang Tai will not bring his second son to attend in public, all his energy and thoughts are put on the eldest son's body, such as daughter-in-law Guo Biting is also a successful matchmaker with Too strong, and at the brother's wedding, he did not see the figure of his brother Xiang You.
Netizens have also complained, are their own sons, why does Xiang Tai not pay attention to Xiang You? Is my brother so unfavored at home? In fact, this is also related to the child's personality, in the early years, Xiang Zuo and Xiang You were overweight, and Xiang Zuo was also very inspirational in order to enter the entertainment circle and lose a lot of flesh.
Today's Xiang Zuo is in good shape, the younger brother Xiang You is still in a generous posture, and the brother's career development in the entertainment industry has parental support, so naturally there are more resources than the younger brother, and it is not strange that Xiang is too focused on cultivating the eldest son, giving good resources to the boss, and the parents also look at how the child's own development is.
Xiang Tai's eldest son Xiang Zuo is also because he works very hard and listens to the family's words, so he also has high hopes for Xiang Zuo, hoping that he will be as good as his father at that time, and the natural family status of the younger son who loves to cause trouble is not as high as that of his brother.
For families of two children, what do parents need to pay attention to?
With the opening of the two-child policy in many families, the family has ushered in a new baby, in the face of the education of two children, how can parents be treated fairly?
▼ It is not absolutely fair, but do not be biased
Each child has its own personality characteristics, although they are from a mother, but there are no two people in the world who are exactly the same, and parents cannot be absolutely fair, but parents must not be biased.
While acknowledging the differences between the children, let the children feel fair. For example, if you buy something or give any reward, you must double it, and the rules set must be fair, and you can't favor the other party.
Two children together will definitely have a comparison in their hearts, who is the focus of parents, to give children more encouragement and love, do not make cold rules for absolute fairness.
▼ Let two children learn to share
Parents want their two children to love each other, but there are always some bosses who refuse to accept their brothers or sisters, and sometimes they will act aggressively, making parents feel helpless and helpless.
In order to make the two children get along harmoniously, parents should let the children learn to share, create opportunities for mutual care and mutual assistance, do not always let the big let the small, when the children are in conflict, do not say, you are the brother and sister to let the younger brothers and sisters come.
Smart parents should learn to praise the boss more, let the older children bring their younger siblings, and enhance their intimate relationship with each other in the care.
▼ Calm the children's spoil war
Many parents found that the birth of the second treasure made the big treasure begin to be jealous, and even began to compete for favors, after the birth of a new baby, the parents' focus and energy must be placed on the baby's body, it is easy to ignore the boss.
However, before birth, parents should do a good job of the boss's ideological work, let Dabao have a psychological process of acceptance, and tell Dabao that parents will love you as before, and your status in the hearts of your parents is the same, giving the boss a reassuring pill.
In addition, parents must set aside time to accompany their children, do not let Dabao think that they are ignored, parents must achieve the unity of knowledge and action, do not say that they love the baby, and the next second they do not care about the boss.
▼ Do not cause children to compete for comparisons
Many parents like to make comparisons between two children, want to encourage children to progress, this way of comparison is very unfavorable to the growth of children, parents to encourage the positive performance of getting along between two children, let two children play together.
If the child has a conflict, he should also treat himself as a bystander, do not participate in the struggle between two people, let the child solve the problem by himself, and do not be the arbiter.