01
It is said that the husband and wife were originally the same forest birds, and they flew separately when the great trouble was imminent.
Very realistic sentence.
In today's material society, more and more people are beginning to feel that love can only be icing on the cake, and the number of people who are willing to share happiness with you is innumerable, and there are very few people who can really send charcoal to accompany you to share your suffering.
Throughout life, it seems that this is indeed the case.
Some marriages that appear to be happy and harmonious on the surface are actually maintained by money and profits.
When you have money, hello, hello, hello, hello, a good Chinese couple's loving appearance. And once the support of interests is lost, the marriage becomes a scattered sand, without the wind blowing, two steps will be scattered.
Can only be happy, can not share the pain, has become the true portrayal of most couples.
But then again. People who have been willing to share happiness cannot share suffering, so how can people who have never been willing to share suffering with you?
If a man, when he is powerful, goes around picking flowers and weeds to fail his wife. Then when he sets the western mountains, naturally he cannot blame his wife for not being willing to accompany him to eat chaff and make a comeback.
Liu Xin (pseudonym) therefore chose to leave without hesitation after her husband's company went bankrupt and closed.
02
Liu Xin and her husband have been married for a full decade.
At that time, when Liu Xin agreed to her husband's marriage proposal, her husband was still a poor boy through and through, with no car, no house and no savings. Even the wedding photo hanging at the head of the bed was in the ordinary photo studio in the husband's hometown town, and it was rubbed together.
Although Liu Xin's mother's family is not a family of great wealth and nobility, she has indeed given him great support in the process of her husband's career.
Every time her husband encountered financial difficulties, Liu Xin would always find ways to help him borrow money from his mother-in-law's relatives. In order to help him build some relationships, Liu Xin also put down his self-esteem and pride and went to climb the distant relatives and dignitaries of his mother's family who had long since stopped contacting.
As long as she has some relatives and a little reason, as long as it is helpful to her husband's career, she is willing to do something and please it, even if she becomes the kind of person she once despises the most.
Of course, the success of her husband is inseparable from his own persistence and efforts, but it is by no means without Liu Xin's half-credit.
After several years of hard work, her husband's career is finally on the right track, and Liu Xin also gave birth to their first child.
The husband has money and the children are well-behaved. After the end of the hardship, life began to slowly develop in a good direction, and Liu Xin was very content.
However, it is not false that men become bad when they have money.
After the success of the career, the husband did not think of taking good care of the family and treating his wife and children well materially and spiritually. Instead, they moved their intestines and raised other women outside.
Liu Xin was very angry and unwilling when he learned about it.
She scolded her husband for having his conscience eaten by a dog, and over the years she had worked hard to help him, not only helping him arrange things properly outside the home, but also not letting him worry about the things he could solve on his own in life. How could he be ungrateful and mess around with other women outside with his back?
Since then, Liu Xin has looked at her husband everywhere unpleasant, and quarrels and insults have become commonplace. It was a hard time but I had to go on because of my children.
This kind of life lasted for about two years, and Liu Xin gradually looked away from the original non-compliance and no longer interfered in her husband's affairs.
During this period, the husband changed countless women.
Later, I was probably tired of playing and feeling tired, so I chose to return to my family.
However, although the husband did not pick flowers and weeds outside, he still did not pay much attention to the responsibilities and obligations of the family.
He always felt that he had earned his money back, that people had come back, and that the previous things should be written off. If Liu Xin still clings to that little thing, then let her go.
In fact, Liu Xin was already dead to him and didn't bother to argue with him. The couple maintains a superficial harmony, and the actual relationship has long since ceased to exist.
Later, a sudden epidemic put many brick-and-mortar stores and private companies in trouble.
The husband's company was not spared, and it took more than half a year to turn on and off before resuming normal business. In addition, in the past two years, the competitive pressure has become increasingly large, and the epidemic has been repeated, and the company's efficiency is not as good as a day. The husband held on for three years, but finally he was unable to return to heaven. I could only close the company and declare it closed, so my life fell to the bottom.
At this time, Liu Xin immediately packed up her luggage and filed for divorce, ready to take her son out of the family.
The reason why she had not mentioned divorce before this was entirely for the money of her children and husband. Now that the wall is pushed down by everyone, she is naturally unwilling to continue to stay in this home, watching different people every day, wave after wave of door-to-door debt collection.
Relatives of the in-laws' family have accused Liu Xin in the family group, saying that she does not remember her old feelings, fell into the well, and even left at such a time. He also said that he had long seen that she was a woman who hated poverty and loved the rich, and that her husband had been so kind to her over the years.
Liu Xin didn't want to explain too much, anyway, it was impossible to see each other again after the divorce. Just throw a sentence into the group: "No same happiness, no common suffering" and quit the group chat, blocking the husband and everyone in the in-laws.
03
Some people say that when a husband and wife are poor, it is the wife who is tested, and when they are rich, it is the husband who is tested, and the husband and wife all rely on conscience.
Deeply.
There seems to always be a group of men like Liu Xin's husband in life, who covet extramarital feelings as soon as they have money, and leave aside their wives and families who once fought side by side with them. And their situation after the fall is also about the same, the wife can no longer willingly accompany them through the difficulties.
Therefore, if men do not want to end up with their wives and children, they should restrain their behavior and maintain a rationality in the face of extramarital feelings. At the same time, we must also understand the following two truths.
One: In anyone's heart, they will never forgive emotional betrayal.
In the matter of extramarital feelings, men always seem to have more "fearlessness" than women.
Many women, even if they are unhappy in marriage, do not dare to easily touch extramarital feelings. And the man, even if the wife at home is as beautiful as a fairy, the virtuous housekeeper, the outside has not been eaten, he wants to taste it.
They take it for granted that having an affair outside of marriage is just making the mistakes that every man makes. There are so many women under the heavens who can forgive their husbands, if their wives are too concerned, it is that she is not generous enough, and she should reflect on herself.
There are even some men who are trying to make money to support their families, who are not shy about their feelings outside of marriage, and who are unscrupulously entangled with women outside marriage. Thinking that a wife is supported by herself, she should turn a blind eye.
You know, many wives do not file for divorce after encountering their husbands' betrayal, and are willing to maintain a superficial harmony, which is completely concerned about their children, not jealous of their husbands.
If it were not for the sake of the children, they would have to seek perfection in a devastated marriage. I think any woman would not hesitate to leave when the betrayal happens.
Because in anyone's heart, betrayal is a blasphemy against marriage and is never worthy of forgiveness.
Second: The account of emotional betrayal will often wait until after the autumn.
After many men return to the family, they often find that their wives do not embarrass themselves in life, in addition to their indifferent attitude, their lives are still the same, they should cook and cook, and they also wash and wash their clothes.
They thought their wives had reconciled with themselves in silence. Or even if the wife can't step over the hurdle in her heart, as long as she doesn't mention divorce, it means that she still has some nostalgia for marriage, and each other can still be a husband and wife who can share the same life and death.
However, the account of emotional betrayal will often wait until after the autumn.
Just as Liu Xin did to her husband.
The reason why she did not file for divorce immediately after encountering her husband's betrayal was entirely to prevent her child from losing her complete family, and at the same time, she did not want to give up the results of her and her husband's hard work.
Since her husband betrayed himself after he had money, he did not share the sweetness with himself. Then there is no money, naturally it is time to settle accounts after the autumn, no longer need to maintain the illusion of marriage, and there is no need to accompany him to share hardships.
As physics is famous for its theory: forces act on each other.
In fact, the role of love is also mutual.
Between husband and wife, when you are rich, you treat me with sincerity and protect me thoroughly. When you are poor, I can accompany you through the difficulties and never give up.
Otherwise, then don't blame the wall for falling and scattering, and your partner does not miss the old love and leaves you.
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