A person's most advanced way of life: to see through human nature, to see through the past, to look down on fame and fortune

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Nietzsche wrote in The Other Side of Good and Evil:

If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself. Stare into the abyss for too long, and the abyss will stare back.

When you think about it, it is.

Many people are easy to cling to trivial matters, do not think about tea and dinner, and cannot sleep at night.

Some people, however, are faced with trivial hearts like mirrors, in the face of desires and things, they are illuminated, and they are not left in the face of memories, and they are free and comfortable in their lives.

As Thoreau said:

The more things a person can put down, the richer they get.

The highest realm of life is to see through human nature, look at the past, and look down on fame and fortune.

See through human nature

Netizen @Chestnut shared a story.

Once, she went to a friend's house.

During the chat, the friend told her with a fluttering eyebrow that the family had just hired a nanny, although it was not very profitable to do things because of old age, but it was better than the salary.

After saying that, the friend turned his head and scolded the nanny: "The guest has been here for so long, why don't you pour tea!" ”

The nanny trembled and brought tea, but because of a momentary slip of hand, she accidentally poured tea on the chestnut, and immediately apologized in fright.

Chestnut just wanted to say "it doesn't matter", but the friend took the lead and scolded: "I paid you to come back, do you work like this?" Don't pack it yet! ”

The babysitter looked frightened, wiped the table and mopped the floor, and kept apologizing.

And this friend is like Chuanju changing his face, from a look of disdain to a smile on his face, and then turned his head and pulled chestnuts to continue chatting.

This scene fell in his eyes, chestnut could not help but feel hairy in his heart, and quickly found an excuse to say that he was in trouble and left his friend's house.

Since then, Chestnut has never contacted the friend or interacted with her again.

Later, I heard from my girlfriend that the friend was out in debt to a loan shark and went around looking for a guarantor to take responsibility for her.

As the saying goes:

Details see character, small things see people's hearts.

A person's true conduct is often hidden in the details.

Behind the arrogance of the nanny is the contempt for the weak in the bones.

It is precisely because I do not know how to respect people that I want to drag the people around me into the water when I have difficulties.

Ancient Cloud:

Where Dan hides is red, and where lacquer is hidden, it is black that a gentleman must be careful of what he is.

Where Dan is hidden, it will turn red over time, and the place where the paint is hidden will turn black, so we must be cautious when intersecting with people.

Truly intelligent people, look at people like fire, choose friends and see micro-knowledge.

Only by seeing a person's ugliness in time can we be alone, move in and out freely, and avoid getting involved in the whirlpool of trouble.

Look at the past

Some time ago, my friend Ali suddenly asked me for afternoon tea. The day we got together happened to be Valentine's Day.

I went to the appointment with a nervous mood, afraid that I would say the wrong thing and bring back bad memories of her.

After all, just before the New Year, Ari found that the pillow person who had been with her for many years, the man who had promised to love her forever, had cheated on her in marriage.

In the face of this unacceptable fact, Ali's tears could not stop flowing, but the hand that signed the divorce agreement was very determined.

She moved away from the former love nest, flew back to her mother's house thousands of miles away alone, far away from the sad place, and only sent such a sentence in the circle of friends: "After all, I paid by mistake, I should have seen all this clearly." ”

There was no bitter pleading, no hysteria, just a woman's disappointment and incomprehension.

When she took the initiative to talk about it, I cautiously and tentatively asked: "Is it okay now, have you come out?" ”

Ali replied with a smile:

"Let the past things pass, and clinging to the past will only make me sad all the time." Man, always look ahead. ”

She also told me that since letting go of this marriage, the whole person has breathed a sigh of relief and the mood has become extremely comfortable.

Life is long, we will always encounter unforgettable things, which are difficult to let go.

As the years go by, those who once couldn't get over it looked back, but it was just a false alarm.

Life is a passerby, why a thousand knots.

Instead of being trapped in square inches, it is better to let go of stubbornness and let the heart return to zero.

As Lu Yao wrote in "Ordinary World":

People live a lifetime, there are many things worth loving, don't be discouraged because you are not satisfied.

Life is not only about the present, but also about poetry and far away.

So stop being sad about the past, and stop being depressed about those memories.

Only by looking at the past can we live well in the present;

Only by living the present can we see the future clearly.

Even if the past is full of misfortunes, please believe that one day, fate will give you more luck.

Look down on fame and fortune

In the "Qian Gongliang Quotes", it is said:

The one who is not well-known, the one who is not good; the one who is well-known, the one who is good at profit.

People who do not like to be famous have a very weak view of interests; those who are keen to be famous value their interests.

Nowadays, almost everyone wants to be famous.

However, some people are blinded by desire, some people are blinded by fame and fortune, and eventually empty-handed.

Only a few people, firm pace, do not forget the original intention, can always be.

"Old drama bone" Li Baotian is one of them.

Nearly 40 years after his debut, Li Baotian, as a senior in the show business circle, is recognized as a "strange person" in the industry.

Why?

In the showbiz circle of "traffic is king", other actors want to burst their heads and want to become popular, and they will act when they have a play.

Li Baotian was "extremely picky" about the olive branches thrown by the famous directors.

If there is no suitable script, he would rather have no drama to shoot for a year than to take the scene randomly.

He said: "When you are filming, people are good at talking, and in the end the scene does not work, it still can't work." ”

For Li Baotian, instead of wasting time chasing wealth, it is better to sink down to polish his acting skills. So far, not only has he not filmed an advertisement, but even he rarely participates in socializing, which can be described as a clear stream.

It is precisely because he spends more time and energy on delving into the role that he can continue to impress the public with his superb acting skills and win back one heavyweight award after another.

As Mo Yan wrote in "Life and Death Fatigue":

The fatigue of life and death starts from greed; less desire and inaction, body and mind are at ease.

Many times we feel tired of living just because we don't want to stop chasing fame and fortune.

Instead of losing yourself in the staggering of chips, it is better to get rid of the shackles of the locks of fame and fortune and be dashing.

Not confused by fame and fortune, not trapped by desire, in order to unload the burden on the body, silently cultivate, wait for the flowers to blossom.

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Liu Tong said:

Seemingly complex life dilemmas are actually caused by an essential problem.

It is true that if the current problems are not solved in time, there will only be endless troubles.

However, only by truly seeing the essence of the problem can we solve and let go.

See through human nature, stay away from people with poor character in time, so as not to be difficult to protect yourself and be imprisoned;

Look at the past, do not dwell on the past, do not indulge in memories, will harvest a different scenery of life;

Look down on fame and fortune, do not forget the original heart, silently work hard, life will go steadily and freely.

For the rest of our lives, may we all be able to see through, think openly, put down, see happiness, and keep happiness in the sea of years.