We often lament the separation of generations, and some people say that the hearts of Chinese are all downward, which means that they care for their children or grandchildren more than their parents or grandparents, which is actually a very common social phenomenon.
Now chinese families, there is only one grandchild or more, there are fathers and mothers, grandparents, grandparents, 6 people hurt a child, it is inevitable that there will be a phenomenon of doting, especially left-behind children, parents have no time to take care of, grandparents are just doting, do not understand education.
However, there is such a wise old man who realizes in his old age that grandchildren are the children of others. Why did he say that? Is there any deep meaning behind it? Let's find out.
The old man who said this is Mr. Liu Yong, Mr. Liu Yong was born in Taipei, writings and other bodies, in fact, Mr. Liu Yong is not only a writer, but also an outstanding painter, whether it is people, landscapes, flowers and birds, Mr. Liu Yong has shown a unique style with his unique brushstrokes.
Mr. Liu Yong is now in his 70s, he has a son and a daughter, the daughter is in Beijing, the son is in Taipei, he and his wife settled in the United States, the family is separated from three places, gathering less and more.
Like most people, he also misses his sons, daughters, grandchildren, but Mr. Liu Yong knows the difference between love and closeness, and will not interfere excessively in the affairs of his children, let alone influence their lives because of love.
I don't want them to always come back
Some people say that children are kites, parents are lines, but Mr. Liu Yong does not think so, he feels that his children are birds, hoping that they will grow into Kunpeng, soar, and rush to their future.
After Mr. and Mrs. Liu Yong settled in the United States, most of the time spent in the United States for a year, the children missed their parents, they would fly to reunite with them, they missed their children and flew back to Taipei, but after all, such a time was very rare. Sometimes, when I miss my children, they will also make calls across the ocean, but the relationship of jet lag is only a hurried greeting.
When Liu Yong is not busy, he will also ask his wife's children if there is a phone call, most of the time the answer of the lady is no, Mr. Liu Yong has never been angry about this, the wife also quipped: "No news, it is good news!" ”
Mr. Liu Yong is a very wise person, he learned that his children do not have a telephone, but he comforted himself, always called, children will feel nagging, may be annoyed, do not receive the phone often, children will miss more, but will worry about themselves.
"I long for my child to come home, but I also know that children are born for the world, and children's faces will look into the distance," said Mr. Liu Yong. There is no discipline in the world called parent learning, and many of us are actually not ready, and the children come to this world, and then grow from him to an independent person, and gradually they are getting farther and farther away from us, to break into their dreams.
Mr. Liu Yong misses his children and cares about their growth, but he does not want to see them always turn back, so that they can't walk fast, not only can't walk fast, but also wrestle. Children are not around, the elderly sometimes feel lonely, children are often around, the elderly are happy, but it is not necessarily a good thing for the children, "the contradiction is private feelings, not the contradiction is public love." ”
"3 minutes grandpa"
We often hear that grandparents and grandparents treat their grandchildren with fear of falling in the palm of their hands and afraid of melting in their mouths, and Mr. Liu Yong also loves his grandchildren, but there is no such trouble.
While missing their grandchildren, Mr. and Mrs. Liu yong will also fly back to Taipei for a few days. Every afternoon, the children's grandparents would send the children to the house and play with their old two, but the grandchildren liked to call Mr. Liu Yong "3 minute grandfather" because he would play with his grandchildren for a while and then go to his own business.
Mr. Liu Yong likes the title of "3 Minute Grandpa", which is both his intention and the reason why he is really busy. He works tirelessly, and loves painting, writing, painting, reading, writing Weibo, etc., he will not fall behind, but Mr. Liu Yong is not a workaholic, and he is also very warm to his family.
Mr. Liu Yong will also show his granddaughter's paintings on Weibo, play dumb puzzles to let fans guess what the word is; travel with his wife, see the beautiful scenery, go home and share it with his wife; there are many old friends in Taipei, and sometimes they also meet to go fishing, which can be described as busy and happy, how comfortable such an elderly life is.
Always remember: Grandchildren and granddaughters are the children of "others."
Grandchildren are first and foremost sons and daughters-in-law's children, and then my grandchildren, and I can't love them more than I can. Liu Yong always said: "I am both a father and a grandfather, I am still a husband, but I am first of all myself." ”
Everyone is an independent individual, they play their respective roles in society, but the most important thing to play is themselves, what kind of person to live, only this definition is clear, life will be more meaningful. Mr. Liu Yong is very accurate in his positioning, father, grandfather, partner, friend, every role he is very successful.
People must first love themselves, and then they can love their families, lovers, children, grandchildren, only self-love, children can not let children worry more, close to their grandchildren but not spoiled, they also have their own things to do, do not tie love to their children and grandchildren, is the principle that Mr. Liu Yong adheres to, care but not possess, is Mr. Liu Yong's standard for treating children and grandchildren, so that there is space for each other, this is the case for children, and the same is true for grandchildren.
In fact, everyone has his identity attributes, for parents we are children, for children we are parents, do not form a misplaced love, do not in the name of love, to interfere too much with them.
The road of life is very long, parents and grandparents accompany us for a while, lovers and partners accompany us for a while, children and grandchildren accompany us for a while, but no one can always accompany us to go on, there will always be people who gradually leave, we should all learn to care for our children without losing respect; close to our grandchildren without vainly trying to possess; rely on partners and leave space; work with ideals; always maintain a compassionate and comfortable heart... Only in this way, when you go through every stage of life, you will not have too many regrets.