In "Parental Love", whenever the elderly Jiang Dehua stands at the door to welcome Anjie home, Domino is both touched and distressed.
What moved was that the sister-in-law who had walked through half a century together was reunited again.
The heartache is that even if he is already full of white hair, Jiang Dehua has not escaped the fate of taking care of his brother and sister-in-law.
But if you think about it, returning to his brother-in-law's house with a futon is already the wisest choice for Jiang Dehua in his later years.
First, reduce the burden of Ding Xiao sample.
Ding Xiaoyan is Jiang Dehua's biological daughter, and when she was born, Jiang Dehua was already in her forties, and old Ding was even older.
In addition, Ding Xiaoyan is the only girl in the family. Therefore, the spoiling and even coddling she has received since she was a child is naturally a lot.
Therefore, Ding Xiaoyan could not cultivate a spicy and responsible personality like Ding Yafei.
In addition, Jiang Dehua does not have the insight and pattern of Anjie to educate children. Therefore, Ding Xiaoyan's talent could not have been excavated and stimulated very early as Jiang Yaning's.
In other words, Ding Xiaoyan's growth environment is to some extent doomed to her to be a weak, lack of responsibility and unlikely to have much success.
Therefore, when Jiang Dehua could not be buried with Lao Ding and was wronged, Jiang Dehua could only run to his brother and cry, and finally Jiang Yafei came forward to solve this problem.
At that time, Ding Xiaoban's age was indeed not very old, but he should also be able to speak out for his mother's encounter, but in the whole thing, there was no shadow of Ding Xiaoban. On the other hand, Jiang Yafei, who has not been able to see her mother suffer losses since she was a child.
Since Ding Xiaoyi's situation is average, his income as an adult will naturally not be particularly ideal, and it is indeed difficult to shoulder the heavy responsibility of supporting Gu Jiang Dehua.
Jiang Dehua, who is so kind and tolerant, is even less likely to reach out to Lao Ding's sons for maintenance.
Therefore, whether it is economic or spiritual, Jiang Dehua's choice to return to his brother-in-law's house is the best choice to help his daughter reduce her burden.
In addition, Jiang Dehua, who moved back to his brother-in-law's house, also reduced the friction with the four sons of the Ding family. After all, living in the previous house, it was still impossible to avoid meeting old Ding's sons.
The more times we meet, the more opportunities for friction. The number of meetings is less, and the feelings are stable and deep.
Compared with people with ordinary relationships, the harm caused by those who have been intimate with us is the most difficult for us to let go.
When you get older, living in an environment that you like and have relatively solid relationships is the best choice.
Second, Jiang Dehua solved the dilemma of his brother and sister-in-law and found his own happiness.
Anjie has just recovered from a serious illness and needs to recuperate for a while, jiang Defu is also eighty years old, and the lives of two people really need to be taken care of.
It is okay to let Jiang Yafei take care of her parents' daily needs, but it is indeed impossible for her to make three meals a day on a regular basis.
Even if you hire a nanny, you can't immediately find someone who suits your heart, and you waste money. In contrast, Jiang Defu, who saves a lifetime, is naturally more willing to let his sister take care of daily life.
Jiang Dehua returned to his brother-in-law's house at this time, which not only solved the problem of his old and helpless, but also solved the dilemma of Jiang Defu and his wife just like when he took the child.
Tolstoy:
The smaller the desire, the happier life will be.
After a serious illness of Anjie, Jiang Defu at this time only hoped that Anjie could accompany him, and Jiang Dehua only hoped that his brother and sister-in-law could live a healthy life.
And Anjie hopes that the important people in this life can accompany him.
Therefore, after everyone has no more desires, the definition of happiness can become simple and consistent.
Third, it is conducive to reducing resentment against Lao Ding.
Jiang Dehua likes Lao Ding and is single-minded about Lao Ding.
Old Ding also did not live up to Jiang Dehua's obsession, and finally not only married her, but also worked together until he was old, and walked through thirty years together.
However, due to the sudden departure of Lao Ding, he did not make any arrangements for his future life and Jiang Dehua's future life.
Otherwise, Jiang Dehua would not have been sad because of the burial problem. After all, Lao Ding has always been a well-thought-out person.
With the longer Lao Ding dies, the more difficulties Jiang Dehua encounters in his life, the more he misses Lao Ding, the more he misses, and the deeper his resentment will be.
Blame him for leaving first, blame him for not accompanying him.
This resentment of the old man is not because of real hatred, but because of love.
But this emotion needs to be resolved, or it needs to be talked to.
For Jiang Dehua, who has no friends, Anjie is naturally the best talker. After all, the two sisters-in-law have quarrels, and there are also helpers who have gone through half a life, and they are already confidants who have nothing to talk about.
Just as Jiang Dehua said to Ge Meixia in those years: "My sister-in-law is willing to give me everything." ”
In fact, Anjie is not only Jiang Dehua's sister-in-law, Jiang Dehua's confidant, but also Jiang Dehua's leader.
Many of Jiang Dehua's habits and views are deeply influenced by Anjie.
Even Lao Ding commented on Jiang Dehua: "I haven't learned much culture, but she has learned a lot about her sister-in-law's problems, and sometimes I really can't fight her." ”
The Ordinary World:
When a person's mind is not strong enough to fully grasp himself, he needs to rely on another person who is more powerful than himself mentally.
Domino believes that with Anjie's help and "mixing", Jiang Dehua's life of moving back to his brother-in-law's house will be very "quality".
Many people feel that Jiang Dehua's life is really pitiful, selfless dedication when he is young, and he still has to serve his brother and sister-in-law in his old age.
In fact, when I think about it, although Jiang Dehua in his later years has some regrets, he is still happy.
The kindness and hard work accumulated in his youth gave Jiang Dehua more choices in his later years. Moreover, this choice is the best for her.
Compared with the hard work of cooking for his brother-in-law, the cheerful and straightforward Jiang Dehua enjoys the happy days of having someone talk and fight.
I hope that through the analysis of film and television characters, I will bring some happiness and insight to you in your boring life, so please pay attention to film and television Domino! Originality is not easy, plagiarism must be investigated.