Two days ago, actor Cai Lin posted a photo with her son 'gifts' on the Internet.
As the "guardian angel of Korea" and "the artist who can best represent diamonds", Cai Lin, who is now 42 years old, still has the same appearance.
The comments section was also a wow.
But the comments on her son were not so good.
Because there was news before that Cai Lin had not let her son see his father.
Just two months ago, the child's father, Gao Ziqi, opened a live broadcast and was asked about his son's recent situation, and he did not respond.
One did not mention a word, one had no trace, and the son only knew that he had a father at the age of three, which was regrettable.
In fact, these two people were once an enviable couple of transnational lovers.
It is also the originator of transnational love.
At that time, Cai Lin was a popular actress in South Korea, who became popular in China for starring in tv series "Love Aegean Sea" and "Yangmen Tiger General".
Gao Ziqi started relatively low, but also played a classic role such as Xiao Jian in the TV series "New Zhu Gege".
The two got together through "Li Family Compound", in which Gao Ziqi is Cai Lin's younger uncle, and outside the play they came together.
By the way, before marrying Gao Ziqi, as early as 2003, Cai Lin and Korean singer Lee Seung-hwan were married once.
However, their marriage lasted only three years, and the two parted ways.
According to rumors, because the two people gathered less and left more, Lee Seung-hwan had a new love.
True or false do not know, but after the divorce, Cai Lin said that looking for objects is not looking for young people, not looking for actors, not looking for foreigners, not looking for B blood.
As a result, in the second marriage, Gao Ziqi accounted for all four items.
Maybe at that time, they felt that it was enough to be sweet and romantic together.
I still remember when Gao Ziqi openly proposed to Cai Lin in Sanlitunwei, Beijing.
While singing "I Believe" in Korean, he walked over to Cai Lin and then got down on one knee.
Both of them were excited and in tears, and the scene was very touching.
Two weddings were held, one in Gao Ziqi's hometown of Taiyuan, Shanxi, and one in South Korea.
The Western-style wedding in Taiyuan was romantic and luxurious, and deng lun had not collapsed at that time.
Court weddings held in Korea are also dignified and chic.
However, the wedding is grand and charming, but it is also easy to cover up the contradictions.
The biggest problem with their marriage was the lack of communication.
Cai Lin Chinese is not good, Gao Ziqi is even more ignorant of Korean, usually the two rely on translation software and eye action communication.
But we also know that machine flips tend to be almost meaningless.
Therefore, because the translation was not in place, the two did not have less contradictions.
Gao Ziqi once said: I can't understand what my wife is thinking, it feels like a neurosis.
In fact, it is not a neuropathy, but the same frequency does not resonate.
The marriage between chicken and duck, even if it is loving at the beginning, slowly it is like a pool of stagnant water.
Of course, in any intimate relationship, contradictions are inevitable.
For transnational love, the problem of communication is not too difficult in the face of feelings that have exceeded the distance.
Moreover, cross-border love in the entertainment industry is also very common.
It's just the way the two later solved the problem, but it can be called a classic failure textbook.
After getting married, the two committed to each other to learn each other's language.
As a result, for many years after marriage, Cai Lin's Chinese did not progress, and Gao Ziqi's Korean language did not grow.
In one show, the host Li Jing also asked them if they had made any progress in communicating now.
Cai Lin smiled and said: Chinese I don't know much, so I decided to have a baby early and then let him be a translator.
Then at the end of 2017, the two gave birth to a son "as promised", named "Gift".
It's really romantic to have your child as a translator, but it also shows that they haven't changed for each other.
Just when the two were waiting for the children to grow up and take on the heavy responsibility of "bridge", the restriction Han Ling came.
Since then, Cai Lin has lived in South Korea with her son, while Gao Ziqi has stayed in China to accompany her mother, who has broken both arms.
Later, he was too busy with work to visit his wife in South Korea often.
During that time, Cai Lin suffered from postpartum depression and wanted Gao Ziqi to go to Korea with her to develop, but Gao Ziqi refused.
As a result, the contradiction between the two escalated again.
Various divorce rumors also began to appear at that time.
To be fair, postpartum depression without a husband is really too uncomfortable.
However, there are old and young, and they live in China all year round, and they can also understand Gao Ziqi's difficulties.
It can only be said that there are many careful thoughts hidden from each other, even for each other's good.
But if it is not clear, if the contradiction is not resolved, it will accumulate more and more, so that the family that should be tired will eventually break up.
Therefore, on December 17, 2020, the two officially announced their divorce.
From transcending national borders to gathering and dispersing, the marriage of the two has not resisted the grind of time after all.
After the divorce, Cai Lin emptied her domestic social accounts and took off her wedding ring instead of wearing a tail ring.
The child also took the mother's surname, named Park Min-woo, and the gift of milk name was retained.
For the growth of children, Cai Lin has been actively participating in it and hopes to give children enough care.
In those years, she stopped her career and took the time to personally teach her children to identify flowers and plants.
The vegetables and fruits eaten are also planted and picked together by mother and son.
Only for the topic of father, before the child was three years old, Cai Lin always avoided talking about it.
Over time, every time I went out, the "gift" always looked intently at someone else's father.
Later, Cai Lin couldn't help but ask, did her son want to see his father?
At first, he shook his head in denial about his father's emotionless gift.
When he knows more things, he will fall silent when he sees his father's picture.
What child doesn't expect paternal love?
It is said that Gao Ziqi also went to South Korea many times to find their mother and son, but Cai Lin never let him see her son, but came out to meet him herself.
The reason, Cai Lin did not explain, only said, "I am not the kind of person who seeks to understand the character by explaining a lot, my life is just silently doing my best to live." ”
As for Gao Ziqi, although she has never seen a child, it seems that there is no love or hate, and there is no news of family conflicts.
Since they have all chosen to live silently to the best of their ability, they can only bless.
Although it is often said that marriage is a 100% effort for both people.
But not everyone can lower their bottom line to pay.
They may have really loved each other, but now they're probably to the point where they don't see each other again.
No one is right or wrong, go to the node of marriage, the shoes fit or not, only they know.
If you are tired together, it is good to be apart.
Just hope that no matter what, you still have to take care of the child and don't let him get hurt.
I also hope that everyone will choose carefully and operate well at the node of life.
The most important thing is to lead to happiness.
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""Sino-Korean sister-brother love" is breaking down, Cai Lin said that her son did not know his father at the age of three! ,High Energy E Beizi, 2022.03.20
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