Text/Editorial Department of Wei Magazine Ma Qingqing
What kind of marriage can feel unbearable?
The Japanese wife who married into the Netherlands was beautiful, and she has been trying to endure in marriage.
More than a decade ago, Meimei met Jugen, a tall and handsome Dutch engineer in Japan. After a few years of marriage, the two chose to return to the Netherlands to live.
After returning to the Netherlands, Ume continued to work as a housewife, Jugan was promoted to senior engineer, the two moved into a mansion, gave birth to a son and a daughter, but the beautiful and unfortunate life also began.
In the eyes of outsiders, they live a wealthy life and eat and wear without worry, but in the beautiful heart, Yugan is frugal to the point of being a pervert!
Every morning, when Grace gets up to clean up, Yugan also gets up early and follows Grace.
Yugan did this not because of the deep affection of the couple, but because he did not look at his wife's casual light when cleaning. He would turn out the lights his wife turned on one by one.
Although Grace repeatedly explained that the house was dark in the morning and that turning on the lights could better clean the corners, Jugan told her again and again that the electricity bill in the Netherlands was more expensive during the day than at night, and in order to save a few cents, she would rather let her wife clean in a room with insufficient light.
When the cleaning was finished and breakfast began, Yugan again asked his wife and children that there should only be one ingredient in the sandwich, either with slices of ham or cheese, and not at the same time anyway.
If someone deliberately sandwiched two ingredients in front of Yugan, Yugan would immediately marvel at the fact that the man was so wasteful that he was crazy.
When she finished eating, Grace began to wash the dishes. According to Yugan's request, all that is required is to apply the dish soap to the inside of the dish and then wipe it clean with a rag, without the need to wash it with water at all.
Jugan was very vocal about it, as dutch people had been like for decades, and everyone was still alive and kicking.
In addition, Yugan also asked his wife and daughter not to cut their hair as much as possible, because haircuts are "too wasteful".
The socks must be worn until they cannot be worn before they can be thrown away, so the son's socks have leaked several holes, and the bottom of the daughter's socks has been brushed and transparent.
It is even more required that Meimei must buy things from three stores, report the price to him, and then agree to buy it.
Although Ugen has always defended Yugan, saying that although he has suffered a lot of "sins" in life, every holiday, Yugan is very willing to take the whole family to travel, and when he goes to Thailand, Bali, Indonesia and other places, he is even willing to let his wife and children play with a few thousand yuan a skydiving.
Although Yugan is thrifty every day, she is not simply a scrooge, so she is willing to bear the small troubles of life.
But in the comments below the variety show, there are many people who complain that they would rather not travel luxuriously and stay away from a petty partner like Yugan, who is extremely controlling.
It is true that the operation of a family is inseparable from money, and money should not be wasted, but it is too deformed to deepen the control of money in all aspects and restrict the freedom of the family in the name of economy.
Kim Jong-kook, a star who has seen over 100 million yuan in Korean variety shows, told his own way of saving money: when washing fruits, you can't open the faucet, toilet paper only smokes three boxes at a time, and even the peels of apples and peaches can't be peeled off and thrown away, you must eat them all.
Later, the program team invited Kim Jong-kook's father, and it turned out that Kim Jong-kook's father was also a person who was extremely thrifty.
Whether it's at a restaurant or on a plane, whenever he gets the chance to get free toilet paper, he will take as much as he can, and then carefully fold the tissues and keep them for later use.
In Kim Jong-kook's father's home, no matter how many times he went to the toilet, the toilet was dirty and smelly, and he could only flush the toilet once a day.
Another time, Jin Zhongguo took his mother on a trip, but found that the electricity bill every night was 0 yuan.
On closer inspection, he learned that his father had dinner before dark, then emptied the refrigerator, unplugged the power supply, and stayed alone in the dark all night without turning on the lights, let alone watching TV or playing with his mobile phone.
Kim Jong-kook, who grew up in such an environment, lived a very simple life, but he was very generous to the people around him.
He often said: "The father's over-frugal lifestyle seriously hurt his mother's feelings, and he did not want the friends around him to have the same bad experience." ”
There are also stars with thrifty habits and Jackie Chan. Fang Zuming once revealed that his father was very economical, and the toilet paper at home was accurate to two blocks of paper for stool and one block of paper for urination.
Jackie Chan also does not allow leftovers, every time he has dinner with everyone, he will carefully let each friend eat vegetables at the turntable, and when there is nothing left on the final plate, he will dial into his bowl in one breath and eat it all.
But whenever his wife has something to use for money, Jackie Chan will let his wife buy and buy without restriction, and will not force his family to save as much as himself.
Compared with Kim Jong-kook's father's unkindness, Jackie Chan's approach may be more family-friendly. Even as the head of the family, you should not force the whole family to be frugal with your own habits.
Even if they are like husband and wife, living together under the same roof for decades, they should leave space for each other, rather than forcing each other to become the same kind of person as themselves.
There was a reality show in the United States called "Save Money out of tricks". In this show, there are all kinds of money-saving talents.
One of the impressive ladies simply opted for online dating in order to reduce the cost of dating, so that she didn't have to spend money on activities like meeting up, watching movies, eating, etc.
But she did meet true love online, who respected her need to save money and was willing to tolerate her overly miserly personality.
The two finally found wedding dresses and rings in the second-hand market, and held a wedding in the noisy and noisy shopping mall, which cost no more than 500 yuan in total.
Afterwards, her lover said regretfully: In fact, the wedding in my mind is not like this, but I love her very much, and I am very happy to see her get her ideal wedding.
Perhaps people who are overly frugal have the same shortcomings, do not know how to grasp the scale, learn not to respect, they only see the change in the balance of the deposit, but do not understand that there is also a scale in the hearts of the people, feelings can not withstand the consumption of time and again, will be wasted as 0.
In Dickens's novel "Ode to Christmas", the protagonist is an extremely miserly, money-conscious freak, who is wary of his nephew, indifferent to his former lovers, and mean and ruthless to his subordinates. Even when his family invited him to a Christmas party, he could misinterpret it as his nephew wanting to ask him for money.
Later, when the spirit of death arrived, he reflected on the various things in his life, and realized that on the surface, his miserliness and thrift had bought money, but he had lost the care of his relatives, the love of his lovers and the trust of his friends.
To take money too lightly is childish and naïve, and to take money too seriously is to be ruthless.
Perhaps life in the world really can not avoid the word money, no one can do whatever they want, squander to live, but while we value money, we should not forget that there are many emotions in our lives that cannot be measured by money, and they cannot withstand consumption.
Don't hurt the people you care about most with money, don't turn yourself into a slave to money.
There is countless gold and silver in the world, which are not brought by life or death, but the warmth given to us by our loved ones can illuminate our lives.
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