Author: Insight ADC
All encounters have cause and effect.
Writer Rhonda Byrne said: "Everything around a person is attracted by his inner thoughts and qualities. ”
Everyone has a magnetic field on them, attracts people with the same magnetic field, and then naturally comes together.
You are gentle and kind, most of your friends are humble and elegant; you are hard-working and surrounded by positive people.
The world is actually a mirror, and whoever you are, you will meet.
01
The people you hate, come because of you.
A while ago, I went offline to participate in a workplace class, and the main speaker was a well-known workplace coach.
He said that when he was a workplace white, he hated his direct family leader the most.
He was paid more than he was, but did less than he did.
He did a lot of work without being seen and affirmed; if he made the slightest mistake, he would be severely criticized.
At that time, he often felt aggrieved and complained to other colleagues in private.
Later, he became a leader and began to bring new people, and after being tortured fiercely, he found that the low-level mistakes he had made were really intolerable.
He finally understood that if you feel that you have a very bad leader, it is probably that you are not good enough.
I remembered a story told by the writer Liu Yong.
Liu Yong has a classmate who used to look for him to complain about his leadership.
I always felt that the leader had arranged a lot of work, and the salary he was given was also small, and he often scolded him at every turn.
His heart was full of resentment, and he felt that with this leader, he could not stay at all.
The work is also becoming less and less enthusiastic, and it feels like every day is suffering.
After listening, Liu Yong said slowly: "Such a bad leader, you can resign." But you have to learn a little more and then jump ship, so that you don't lose money. ”
In this way, the classmate put aside the idea of resignation, adjusted his mentality, and regarded every criticism as learning, and every work he did more as a livelihood skill.
Later, when Liu Yong met him again, the other party smiled and said: "I am happy now, not to mention the promotion and salary increase, and the leader also looks at me with surprise." ”
I remember that there is a "projection effect" in psychology:
The reason why we see the bad side of each other is because we project the hidden inner part onto others.
The leader you complain about your bad temper may be a reminder that you have to work hard.
The boss who criticizes you may be suggesting that there is something wrong with your attitude.
Yohji Yamamoto once said: "This thing is invisible, bump into something else, bounce back, and then understand yourself." ”
The world is like a mirror, and everyone can see their own shadow in it.
When you're not good, you see no one is good.
02
Your nobles, come because of you.
I've seen a passage before:
When Sun Wukong was still a monkey, he fought with a group of small demons in order to defend the territory;
When he learned a skill, all the gods and bodhisattvas on the way to the sutra helped him.
When Liu Bei was a commoner, he could only sell straw shoes on the street and bargain with customers.
When he was experienced after a hundred battles, he could talk to the princes of the world, and there was one of the three worlds.
You are humble, and most of the people you encounter are the same kind; when you have value, you have the opportunity to meet noble people.
In the book "Heart Like Bodhi", entrepreneur Cao Dewang recalled his experience when he was young.
He used to do the business of selling white fungus, and borrowed a lot of money from people in the same village.
Once, when he went from Fujian to Jiangxi to sell white fungus, because there was no certificate, all the goods were seized and he became heavily indebted.
In order to repay the money, he went to the construction site to pull a scooter, but just two days after arriving at the construction site, when the people accompanying him were lighting cigarettes, the small flame accidentally burned the barracks made of wheat straw, and burned all the food, clothing, and use.
More than two hundred people gathered around to make trouble, some people clamored for compensation, some people wanted to start work to earn money, but complained that the scooter was broken and could not be repaired.
At this time, Cao Dewang took the initiative to ask for help, saying that he would repair the scooter and help everyone return to work.
In fact, he had never repaired a car before, but only knew some theoretical knowledge.
From a novice who just started to grope, to a car repair expert, he spent a full 28 days, in these 28 days, he did not leave the car repair shed a step, eat and drink, but also come to repair the car migrant workers to give it.
Just when he was immersed in repairing the car, emergency compensation materials were also sent.
The battalion commander dealt with the troublesome masses and paid all the compensation, which reminded him of Cao Dewang, who was forgotten in the car repair shed.
As a hero who stepped forward in a critical moment, Cao Dewang repaired the car for free and provided production guarantee.
The battalion commander was so moved that he gave him all the surplus supplies and food stamps that remained.
These material food stamps, converted into more than 1,000 yuan, you know, those teammates who are clamoring for compensation, in the end, only got a few tens of yuan.
The most important thing was that the battalion commander heard that Cao Dewang had been detained before, and turned back to the contact person and helped open a certificate, asking him to return part of the seized goods and pay off the debt.
Cao Dewang also did not expect that when he was most desperate, he met such a nobleman.
But if you think about it, it is inevitable.
Cao Dewang, like most migrant workers, came to work to earn a living, and even had fewer opportunities to talk to the battalion commander.
But when he showed the value of his car repair, he naturally got the favor and help of the battalion commander.
I recall the sociologist Horsmann once said: "Any interpersonal relationship is essentially an exchange relationship." ”
All the optimism and help, behind it is actually the mutual attraction of value.
Our life is like a flowing river, what waves you can stir up, not depending on how much wind you encounter, but how wide and deep it is.
03
The one who warms you, comes because of you.
I previously saw a public service video on the Internet.
A homeless man who goes to a barber shop to cut his hair, he almost forgets what he looks like.
After cutting his hair, he looked at himself in the mirror with excitement, and then pulled out a few crumpled pieces of change to prepare for the checkout.
But the shopkeeper refused.
The owner saw through his shabbiness and handed him a note that read: Pay It Forward.
As soon as the homeless man left, the barber shopkeeper received a notice of rent expiration.
It turned out that the shop had long been dilapidated, the business was not good, and even the owner's own living security had become a problem.
But the other party looked serious and asked him to move away immediately.
Just then, suddenly a man in a suit and leather shoes walked into the store, and he took out a bunch of keys and said that he was the new landlord and that the owner did not need to leave.
The owner was grateful and promised to pay back the rent immediately next month.
But the other party said that the rent had been paid 20 years ago.
More than 20 years ago, the man went through a fire and lost everything.
When he went to interview a real estate agent, he was sloppy, and the interviewer gave him 20 yuan, and if he could make a makeover, he could consider hiring him.
With only 20 yuan, he found a barber shop that looked inexpensive and met the current owner.
When he entered the store, he said he didn't have much money to pay, but the owner still warmly received him.
After cutting his hair, the man handed 20 yuan to the shopkeeper.
But the shopkeeper, who had long seen the man's embarrassment, did not charge any fee, but handed him a clean dress.
At that time, the shopkeeper also said to him: "One day, you can pass on the love." ”
Later, the man successfully passed the interview, studied hard and became a well-known investor.
When he learned that the barbershop was about to close, he immediately bought the shop and passed on the warmth that the owner had given him.
It turns out that all encounters in this world have cause and effect.
Those who give kindness will get kindness; those who give warmth to others will also be warmly cared for.
Remembering an experience told by best-selling author Li Shanglong, once he went to drink with Classical and Lü Bai.
Lü Bai asked him why when he first published his book, he was willing to help at the signing meeting platform.
Li Shanglong looked at the classical teacher and said that in 2015, he was nothing, why was the classical teacher willing to give me a preface?
Classical looked at the two and smiled and said a word:
"I help Teacher Shang Long, Teacher Shang Long helps you, not to ask you to return anything to us, but I hope that you can pass on this warmth to the next person who needs help."
Lin Qingxuan wrote in "Send a Round of Bright Moon to Him":
"We always maintain a kind, tolerant, and clear heart, not to mention that it is possible to send a round of bright moons and send many bright moons at the same time."
Because the bright moon is not a send-off, but a kind of reflection, which can reflect each other's light. ”
04
Economist Liu Run once said:
"A person's wealth basic disk has two components. First, your own ability; second, your ability to connect with other people. The latter, on the other hand, is the amplifier of the former. ”
Your own ability is "1" and your ability to connect with other people is "0".
Without the "1" in front of you, even if you have a lot of "0s" behind you, it will be useless to you.
The sea is wide and has its own hundred rivers, and Wugao has a phoenix perch.
If you want to meet better people, you should first settle down and cultivate your true skills.
When you work hard and are motivated, warm and kind, all the good, will come as promised.