There are many children in life who are grumpy, irritable, and have a big temper, which makes parents very distressed, in fact, if your child is still before the end of puberty, then parents and friends do not have to worry too much. Because children are impulsive before spending puberty, self-control is limited, it is difficult to tolerate rejection and other problems, but at this time the child's personality is still very malleable.
For children under the age of 4, for some of the rejection of the parents, he is difficult to understand the reason, usually children of this age face the parents' 'not allowed', he will use the way of tantrums to solve the problem, then the parents do not have to do too much intervention, wait for the child to start to understand.
But children over 4 years old, the brain development is relatively perfect, they began to give birth to some logical thinking skills, but also to understand some simple things. At this time, the child's personality is susceptible to the subtle influence of parents. At this time, although the child has the ability to understand things, but the language expression ability is still insufficient, may be swallowed when speaking, at this time if the parents can listen to the child every time to finish the words, then the child should not be too bad, but if the parents are not good at listening to the child, then the child may use the way of crying, let you listen to him finish speaking, over time, the child's personality may be closer to the 'violent temper', but this is also the best time for parents to 'intervene' in the child's temper adjustment.
1. First of all, when the child loses his temper, parents may wish to listen carefully to the reason for the child's tantrum, first of all, we must first clarify why the child loses his temper, is it to resist? Is it to vent? Is it for the eyeballs? Or is it because daily tantrums have become a habit? The reasons are different, and the parents and friends have different ways of coping. If it is because of resistance, then congratulations, your child has already had an opinion, and has learned to defend his own views, which is a good thing, in the face of the child's opinion, parents should also give appropriate support. If it is to vent, parents and friends can give the child a quiet venting space, let the child vent on his own, rather than continue to reason in front of the child, at this time the child is a belly fire, the more you say, the heavier the child's anger, the child's temper will only become more and more explosive. If it is to attract people's attention, parents, you can take a disregard method, when the child finds that his temper can not attract the attention of parents, the child's temper will naturally be reduced. If the child's temper has become a habit, then the parents must not sit still, let it develop, a good family atmosphere is the key to the child to change the 'violent temper', if the parents are the people who love to lose their temper and complain, then it is difficult for the child to change this bad habit.
2. Parents must not force the child to cultivate interest, if one day when interest becomes a burden, the child is in a depressed state for a long time, there will be a state of 'do not erupt in silence, you have to perish in silence', and gradually your temper will become violent. Therefore, when parents report a lot of interest classes to their children, it is best to ask for their children's opinions.
3. When the child loses his temper for no reason or because he can't get a toy, the parents must not give in to this, if the parents blindly give in, the child's 'violent temper' may be alleviated temporarily, but over time, it will help the child's arrogance, so that the child develops an acquired reflex, and once such a problem is encountered, it will be solved by throwing a tantrum, and when the time comes, it is not so easy to correct it.
4, if your child is in puberty, parents in the child tantrums, may wish to do this:
It is only the cause of pure puberty caused by the child's irritability, easy to agitate, parents can try to communicate with the child like a friend in general, as long as the parents do not use a method of standing on the high ground to criticize the child, communicate with the child, despite the rebellion, the child can still listen to some.
If the child's bad temper is not simply because of adolescence, there are other reasons, parents should stop trying to persuade education easily, sometimes it will only backfire. Some parents may give their children hard, which is also an improper practice, but it will cause the child to use force to solve the wrong psychological inducement. Parents should pay attention to whether there are these emotionally excited people among the child's good friends, and if so, it is best to discuss solutions with the parents of the child's friends. If you really can't do it, you have to find a psychologist to solve it.
Dear parents and friends, each child has individual differences, and 'the right medicine' is the key to solving the child's 'violent temper'.