In the past, the children raised by rich families and poor families may be judged by clothing, but now the way children of poor families and rich children are judged has changed greatly, and the gap in clothing may not be so large, but the gap in other aspects is very obvious.
01 From an early age, he was instilled by his parents the idea of "greed and cheapness", and had difficulty in socializing when he grew up
Ms. Liu and her husband have always advocated that small advantages must be taken, so the same is true for their sons' education from an early age. Since the child went to kindergarten, she has not bought toys for the child, because the kindergarten often has some activities to exchange toys, and Ms. Liu asked her son to bring some cheap toys to exchange for some new, high-grade toys.
After the child goes to primary school, there is a shop in the primary school, and if you are hungry between classes, you can go to the shop to buy something to eat. At that time, her son also asked her for pocket money, but Was rejected by Ms. Liu, and Ms. Liu also taught her son that he could let others entertain, and then you could eat other people's food.
This concept is deeply imprinted in the head of Ms. Liu's son, so since then, he has slowly developed the habit of being greedy and cheap, even after making a girlfriend, when he goes out to eat, his girlfriend spends money, and he never sends some small gifts to his girlfriend. After a long time, the woman could not stand him and proposed to break up.
After Ms. Liu's son entered the company, this habit still did not change, and it became more and more intense, not only in terms of money, but also in terms of work, it will also take advantage of others. This makes everyone's evaluation of him extremely low, and they are not willing to get too close to him, after all, no one wants to suffer losses all the time.
02 Poor families don't raise babies like this anymore, it's easy to make things worse, there is no pattern, and these "poor acids"
It is said that educating children is the hardest thing in the world, and it is true. For families with poor economic conditions, they may be even more inadequate in the matter of education. Because many parents believe that their children's education should be accumulated with money, and without rich material conditions, they cannot provide a good education for their children, which is actually not the case.
It is not recommended that parents have been instilling the idea of "greed and cheapness" in their children, otherwise over time, children are prone to the same psychology, and they are also prone to become more inferior, and they will feel that taking advantage of others is deserved, which is extremely unfavorable to the growth of children.
Such a child is easy to grasp only the small interests in front of them when they grow up, and it is difficult to succeed without a long-term vision and pattern. You know, those who have a career, the secret of their success is to open their eyes and patterns, so that they grasp the direction of development of things from the overall situation, while grasping the most core key points, rather than losing a big watermelon for some small sesame seeds.
In addition, children who are always greedy and cheap will grow up to have a lot of "poor acid", on the one hand, they take it for granted from others, and sometimes others are not willing to give it to them, but they will blame them. Just like one of my relatives before, I always thought that other people should give him old things at home, and the look of "I am poor and I am reasonable" is very uncomfortable. He always thinks that other people's living conditions are better than his, and they should take care of him. Because of this for a long time, many relatives later directly broke off their relationship with him.
On the other hand, there are also some people who like to be extremely stingy, afraid that others will use their things or eat their things, which is also completely "poor and sour" in the eyes of outsiders.
Therefore, parents should no longer raise their children to look like this, not only about the child's future interpersonal relationships, but also about the development of all aspects of the child's future character.
The cultivation of children in the new era should pay more attention to the spiritual wealth of children, even if there are no rich material conditions, as long as the child's inner world is full enough, then the child will also have a difference. Just like my friend's child, although the conditions at home are not good, friends and husbands love children very much, and will enrich the child's vision through many channels, broaden the child's pattern, and pay special attention to shaping the child's three views.
Now their children have gone to a very good 985 university, and they are very popular in the university, even the tutors are very important to him, and they take him to participate in many projects, and they will be rare talents in the future.
Therefore, to create a good family atmosphere for children, children can only thrive in a positive, upward, loving, and correct family. On the contrary, if you blindly instill the wrong three views on the child and teach the child the wrong way to deal with people, then after the child gets used to it, it will be difficult to change in the future, and it will also cause the child to go farther and farther on the wrong road.
Conclusion: Children from poor families also have many ways out, but they need to find the right way, otherwise it will make things worse.