One morning, Xiaoming's mother found that there was a hundred yuan missing from the bag, and after asking Xiaoming's father, she learned that he was not clear, and the two people were very strange about it.
Thinking about it, her mother suspected that Xiaoming had secretly taken it. As the old saying goes, steal needles when you are young, steal gold when you grow up, if you don't stop it now, then you will get it back later? So she immediately decided to take a good look at Xiaoming when he was out of school.
Sure enough, in the evening, Xiaoming led several classmates into a supermarket, purchased a few bags of snacks and distributed them to everyone. The hundred-dollar bill used at checkout is the one lost in the bag.
When the classmates all left, Xiaoming's mother stepped forward, smiled and said, "Go, mother will take you to the supermarket to buy snacks." ”
Xiao Ming's eyes dodged, not daring to look directly at his mother, thinking that he had been found stealing money, and his mother wanted to teach himself a lesson.
Unexpectedly, Xiaoming's mother actually took him to pick it up in the supermarket: "Do you eat potato chips?" Let's buy some cookies, and chocolate seems to be good. ”
Finally, the two returned with a full load, and the mother squatted down and asked Xiaoming: "Today, my mother's bag is missing a hundred yuan, is it a baby you took away?" ”
Xiaoming said nervously, "I took it, and my mother is sorry." ”
Mom touched Xiaoming's head and said, "If you don't have enough pocket money, you can tell me, but don't take it from Mom and Dad's bag, you know?" ”
Since that day, her mother has given Xiaoming a pocket money increase, and Xiaoming has never secretly taken the money again. Sometimes Dad forgot the money in the living room, and Xiaoming also knew to help send it over, reminding Dad to keep it.
Because of the mother's witty approach, it easily changed the child's "love to take money" problem.
In fact, children do not have the concept of "stealing money" in their hearts, they will only get what they like through various means, and they do not understand the "thieves" in the large population.
Instead of indiscriminately reprimanding children, parents should first pay attention to why children take money, their hearts are not as bad as adults think, and do not easily push children to negative comments.
When a child sneaks money at home, parents may wish to try to do this:
1. Stay calm and understand your child's needs
Some parents know that their children "steal money", immediately angry, beat the child up, the result is that the child will fight with the parents, "steal money" Ideas are endless.
The right thing to do is for parents to calm down and ask themselves, what is the reason why the child is doing this? Is pocket money not enough to spend? Or do you want to get your attention? Or is it deliberately against yourself?
2. Properly guide the child's desires
When children find that they can buy what they like with money, their inner desires will be unable to resist this benefit, hoping to get more and more money.
As a parent, we must correctly guide the child's desire, tell the child that everyone has something they like, and if they want to get it, they must first ask the parents if they can give it to themselves, which is a polite child.
Parents should also understand what their children want through observation and tell their children what to do to get it. If parents ignore their children's needs, the children can only use their own methods to obtain them.
3. Give your child the right amount of pocket money
After the child goes to primary school, parents can give the child some pocket money in moderation. And discuss the use of this money with the child in advance, which is beneficial to the child's ability to manage money.
When the child has pocket money in his hand and sees other classmates buying something he likes, he will not take the risk of "stealing money" at home.
4. Eliminate triggers in a timely manner
To put an end to the problem of children "stealing money", parents must lead by example and put the family's money in place.
Parents should not spend money in front of their children, nor should they use money as a reward for their children. Instilling too much money is not a good thing for children who are not able to work.
Instead of using money to bind children, it is better to pay more emotional and psychological attention to children, so as not to make up for themselves by "stealing" because of their inner loneliness.