"People have sorrows and joys, the moon has clouds and sunshine, this matter is difficult to complete", it took 14 years to find the child, but the child also has his own life!
A few days ago, the prototype of the movie "Dear" Sun Haiyang's 14-year-old son was found, and the biological father and son were recognized in Shenzhen, and now, the focus of people's attention is what to do with this child in the future?
Sun Zhuo (Sun Haiyang's abducted son) said in an interview with reporters that he was very happy to find his biological parents, but he would not follow his biological parents, no matter what his adoptive parents were, they had raised themselves for more than ten years, this side is my parents, that side is also my parents! He also said that he felt very guilty and had a lot of pressure!
An 18-year-old child said these words, both poignant and comforting, sad that he was abducted and sold since he was a child, away from his parents for 14 years, it is gratifying that he knows how to be grateful, his heart is pure and kind, and the changes in the environment have not distorted the child's heart.
It has to be said that no one has the right to accuse the child of his choice, and even if the adoptive parents do not do it correctly, their nurturing grace for this child cannot be erased for any reason, and it can be seen from the child's words that he has fully integrated into the family, and the adoptive parents treat him as a son.
Moreover, from the bystanders, it is known that the adoptive parents love Sun Zhuo and even to the point of spoiling, when they were young, they bought ham sausages at one time to buy 10 sticks, their family environment is not good, the adoptive father is not in good health, only the adoptive mother takes on the heavy responsibility of raising the family, which shows that they have not neglected this child!
If, as some people say, the child should resolutely leave his adoptive parents and return to his biological parents, then it is conceivable that in the future growth process, he may fall into deep self-blame, which will lead to psychological distortion, and it is precisely because he is a grateful person that he will have such a reaction and did not make this choice.
There are also people who speculate with the heart of a villain, saying that if the conditions on the side of the biological parents are better than those of the adoptive parents, the child will definitely choose the side of the biological parents, which can only represent the speculation of the person's own psychological distortion and ugliness.
The best way is to reach an understanding between the parents and the parents, using Sun Zhuo's child as a bond to form relatives, and Sun Zhuo chooses to forgive his adoptive parents in order to seek legal tolerance.
Therefore, Sun Zhuo can completely have two families, have the love of two families, and when he becomes an adult, he must treat his relatives and adoptive parents as close relatives to support.
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