Dictated: Xiao Wu
In the journey of life, I once thought that I had met the destined love, like a bright star, illuminating my way forward.
However, when I bravely took that step and broke free from the shackles of marriage, I found that the reality behind the starlight was far more complex and cruel than I imagined.
01
He and I met by chance. At that time, we all felt indescribable oppression and bondage in our respective marriages.
Perhaps because of our common experience, we quickly narrowed the distance between each other, confided in each other, and comforted each other. Gradually, I found myself dependent on him, and that emotion, like the sunshine that I had not seen for a long time, was warm and fiery.
During that time, we chatted and met frequently, and every time we got along, I was intoxicated, as if the whole world was just me and him.
Finally one day, I made that stupid decision, I was going to get a divorce, I was going to pursue true happiness.
When my husband and I filed for divorce, my husband's eyes were full of shock and incomprehension. He tried to win back my heart, he told me to think about it and not be so impulsive for the sake of the child.
But at that time, I was already fascinated by him outside of marriage, and I couldn't listen to any advice at all. Eventually, we got divorced.
02
When I stood at the gate of the Civil Affairs Bureau, holding the divorce certificate, I felt both relieved and relieved, as well as expectations for the future.
I thought that he would be like me, bravely take that step and welcome a new life with me.
However, when I approached him and said, "I'm divorced, you should get a divorce as soon as possible," his reaction was unexpected. He was silent for a long time, and then slowly said to me, "I'm sorry, I'm going back to my family." ”
He said that he thought about it for a long time and felt that he was sorry for his family and his children. He couldn't give up his family and responsibilities for me outside of marriage, and he wanted me to understand his thoughts.
At that moment, I felt as if I was hit by a cold wind, and the flame in my heart was instantly extinguished. I don't understand why he could give up our relationship so easily, why he could so easily go back to the marriage that he was so depressed about.
03
After breaking up with him, I realized that I had abandoned so many precious things in order to pursue so-called true love.
For him, I lost a warm home, a husband who loved me, and a lovely child. And the one I was pursuing, but when I needed him the most, I chose to return to the family.
I also began to reflect on my own behavior, and I realized that my feelings for him were not really love, but a pursuit of novelty. And in order to pursue this novelty, I do not hesitate to hurt my family and hurt my loved ones. What a foolish thing to do!
So, I wanted to try to save my family, but it was too late. My husband has become so disappointed in me that he no longer wants to believe in me and is no longer willing to give me a chance.
Today, I am alone, and I spend every day in regret and self-blame.
I regret my impulsiveness and stupidity, and I regret that I gave up so many precious things in pursuit of an illusory true love. I blamed myself for being sorry for my family, sorry for my children, and even more sorry for the husband who used to love me deeply.
Write at the end:
Why do the vast majority of men return to their families after cheating?
Because marriage is a meal for men, and an affair is just a snack.
Even though we all love to snack, it's rare for us to skip a meal because of a snack.
So, what makes a man make the decision to return to the family is that he feels that an extramarital affair is really not cost-effective.
Because a man is very realistic, he will give up his lover, and the value of his lover must be lower than that of the original partner, and he can maximize his own interests by returning to the family.